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Waiting and Dating: A Sensible Guide to a Fulfilling Love Relationship

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I bought this book many months ago and read it in two weeks. It was good and useful but I wasn't smart enough to really use and follow the main points mentioned in this book, such as, "putting God first," walking the "friendship ladder," and "what to look for in a partner." Starting last week, I was hoping to reread some of the books I bought regarding friendship and Christian dating...and my eyes kept starring at this book, so I picked it up and read it (again), but now, everything fall into place and makes total, complete sense. Folks, to save your time, money and energy, I highly recommend you get this book and the two books below. If money is the issue, save up as much as you can just to get this book alone. Read it and reread it along with your regular daily devotion with God, because the truth is, every marriage should be based on a strong relationship and every strong relationship should derived from strong friendship.

To build each step by step well, it takes time and patience, but is possible, especially with the help of God and Holy Spirit. The best part about this book is that all the necessary information is packed in only 140 pages: 96(dating) 44 (engagement)!! Many of you can read that in one day, especially when you're used to reading college textbooks. Also this book is a guideline to marriage. Although Dr. Munroe doesn't teach life after marriage, this book leads the readers to a successful marriage. It is made in the order from, preparing to date, finding the right person as well as know what to look for, then onto building friendships and lastly, engagement. Let me warn everyone not to speed up a friendship or relationship because knowing your "significant other" takes great amount of time. Just like you can't lose wight overnight or know God overnight, nor should you try to know your partner overnight.

In my scenario, the biggest mistake I've made was going too far with a girl before knowing who she was on the inside. The friendship wasn't developed maturely or long enough and now I've caused a wound in her heart and wasted my own time & money, whereas I could have found the right person elsewhere. Anyways, I hope none of you go through my phase. I wish all of you the best of luck!

Other books that really helps with dating/relationships are:
The 10 Commandments of Dating by Ben Young & Samuel Adams
How to Influence People and Win Friends by Dale Carnegie
For Men Only (self-explanatory) by Jeff Feldhahn
God's Gift to Women (my favorite for men) by Eric Ludy

For those of you wanting to find out about love this book will do that. This is the most accurate book I've read on the subject. Best of all its practical unlike IKDG by Harris. Miles Munroe use's scriptural references that haven't been taken out of context. I think if you could only read one book ( besides the Bible) it should be this book. He is able to put everything into context. Even if you're already married this book would do you well. The author explains the process of love and relationships and really talks about the purpose of an engagement and just how crucial it is to a happy marriage. It really is a must read. I'm not one for reading those cheesy sappy gushy books. This book presents a clear view of love and relationships for the rest of us. Its kinda like a "Love 101 and 201" or "Love for dummies" book. Good luck with it!

It's a great book. That outlines the right way to date in todays world. It tells the four stages of friendship and how we skip over the most important parts to get to the physical. It has help me and my new friend to get to know each other the right way and more important God's way.

This book is an excellent resource in educating and/or reminding Christians of the appropriate order in building relationships with the opposite sex in order to avoid the accumulation of baggage, heartache, and emotional scarring that come from dating as "the world" outlines for us. I feel this book is an empowering tool for women as well as we so often feel that we must lower our standards and convictions in order to find, build, or keep a relationship. God is always in control and has our best interests at heart.

I highly recommend this book. Unfortunately for me, I sat on this book for 3 years. Munroe bases his book off of the word of God. He includes the biblical references which allows the reader to research on his or hear own for add'l understanding. If you are fortunate enough to read this book, you will find his illustrations of how the dating/relatiionship process should REALLY go. End result could lead to lead to a strong marriage with two people focused on Gods word.

My boyfriend and I read this book together and we learned so much from it! It opened us up to discussions and allowed ourselves to think about our future! This was a wonderful book!

Out of all of the books I've read on dating and preparing for marriage, this was by far the most practical. Myles Munroe does a great job walking the reader through the progression of being ready to date to engagement. Each chapter (6 total) even has a summary of his principles at the end. There were a lot of good and very helpful takeaways and a lot of good exhortations, admonitions, and advice.

However, the reasons why I only give the book three stars are:

1. Because it is clear that Munroe does not believe in the absolute sovereignty of God. In the third chapter "Myths of Mate-Finding", he believes that God doesn't have a specific person for each person - that each person has more than one option for a spouse. I will concede that this is more of a theological difference, but a huge difference nonetheless. Despite this major difference, he does a great job reinforcing the responsibility of both the male and female, careful planning, and wisdom.

2. The foundation of the book wasn't Christological - Munroe clearly loves God and does a great job laying out the principles to a healthy, Christian relationship and marriage. However, he didn't tie it all back to the gospel. My worry is for non-Christians who might read this book - it might seem a little moralistic to them without understanding marriage in the context of how Jesus redeems marriage. This book is clearly written to believing Christians who might need a little guidance in terms of relationships.


Overall, if you're a mature Christian looking for something very practical, this book would be OK by itself. However, if you're a relatively new Christian or if you're thinking about giving this book as a gift to someone who is new/young in the faith, I wouldn't recommend this by itself. This would be a great supplement, as it is very practical in terms of application in everyday life. I personally recommend it be supplemented with "I Married You" by Walter Trobisch and "Holding Hands Holding Hearts" by Richard and Sharon Phillips, as those two books do a great job of grounding marriage and dating in the context of the gospel.

When I first read this book, the first few chapter already blows my mind since it teaches you the right perspective about relationship. It also addresses some of the myths that exist among Christians about finding their special someone.

There is always a risk when you want to be in a relationship with someone you love. This book helps you to do the dating process correctly so that you can minimize that risk.

This book is down to earth. The principles shared in this wonderful book has helped me and is still helping me take the right step and to make the right decision about who I want to be with for the rest of my life. For example self-control in the area of sex will lead to self-control in other areas of your life such as finances. If the person I want to marry is not will to control herself in the area of sex, in the future she will not be willing to exercise self control in other minor but important areas. "...to whom much is given, much is required..."
I'm also gaining a lot of insight about the kind of preparation one has to make during the engagement period. It is time for christians not to compromise but uphold the biblical principles needed for marriage.
This book will be a blessing to you.

Well, in honest truth, the best review I can give is instead of 'Waiting and Dating,' read 'Understanding the Power and Purpose of Men.' It covers the same material, but goes into far more detail and hits several other points that are more than beneficial. It's not that this book is not good. It just is lacking, and somewhat hard to retain the key points and principles established. In summary, it seems more like an introduction to 'Understanding...' Give it a try, however, but my advice remains to choose the other book.

God bless