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I Want What Most White Women Got: A Black Man

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Really, I am to believe that most White women in the US have a Black man? Ridiculous title. And not true. Further, many Black women are moving on and dating/marrying interracially.

Please Black women -- stop writing these stupid books. Marry well -- and open your options to any good man, regardless of race.

Sorry dear but a slowly increasing number of us Black women really don't give a darn about what Black men are doing. We are expanding our own horizons.

I expected a book with the angry voice of a Black woman sharing dramatic thoughts about Black men, or the lack there of. It is indeed a sharing of dramatic thoughts, but not as I presumed. Over the years finding a date has changed drastically, especially in the African-American(AA) community. Seemingly the desires for certain physical attributes of female prospects have replaced the desire for character and personality.

To that point, with over fifty poems, Ms. Blakely shares a gamut of issues, reasons, and excuses surrounding how AA men and women relate. I cannot pick a favorite poem, as most of them are thought-provoking and piercing. 'Reality Check', 'It's Easier', 'Invisible Woman' and 'Why' embody a certain hopelessness that seems to surround AA women today. 'I Don't Go That Way', 'Girl, I Thought I Had a Man', 'Cute But Crazy' and 'Clarification' share honest thoughts on several unwanted options. But, 'Black Men Wanted' affirms the unrestricted love Black women have for Black men of all sizes, heights, and colors.

The poetry evokes questions that beg for answers. Are Black male/female relationships a thing of the past? What feelings surface when you see a Black man with a woman who is not Black? What's the real reason Black men seem eager to date outside of their race? And finally should any of the above questions be issues? I WANT WHAT WHITE WOMEN GOT: A BLACK MAN is simply a book of poignant, in your face poetry about issues that could have adverse affects in the African-American community.

Reviewed by aNN
of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers

I am not remotely interested in an intimate relationship with a black man. I know not all of them are bad but the bad ones are plentiful and not worth losing any sleep over. I feel that way about all bad men not just bad black men.
This book would be well worth the purchase if it came with a complimentary barf bag!

I am so annoyed with these books asking brothers to come home. Most black men are married to black women. Just like most white women are with white men. Well you wanted a black man and can't have one you sit and write poetry making the problem worst. What black man would want a black women who he tells that he doesn't want over and over, and her reply is to pray for him to come home. Don't you realize that if we dated and married outside the race they wouldn't take us for granted because alot of good black women were taken. And they had less to choose from. Not only that but you could very much find yourself in good loving marriage or relationship. If the black man you want don't want you get over it. Concentrate on the men who do want you. I was so annoyed after reading this book.

This book addresses an issue which is often "swept under the rug." But it's not about race as the title would imply. Instead, the author writes about rejection [perceived or real] and how to overcome it. I enjoyed the poetry for it's simplicity and humor. It spoke to issues a lot of people don't talk about openly. Thanks for rolling the rug back!

Ok, This is truly a burden to read. The meter of the poems is almost non existent. It is a chore to clutch at the tempo that seems to shift aimlessly from line to line.

A long droning attack on the preference of some brothers for white women, this book is written with the hamfisted voice of a whining child who is not grounded in reality.

The book is fraught with passages that come across as laughable when they are meant to be meaningful. For example I literally burst out loud with laughter after reading this passage

"Arguments are unheard of
Because what you say goes
If she thinks about talking back
You just might hit her in the nose"

After laughing uproariously I couldn't help but be struck by the irony of this passage. In a book that sings the praises of the black man (to be honest, mainly the black man's body, not so much his spirit) this verse is a lambasting attack on black men. This proliferates the racist view of the black man as a violent animal toward the weaker sex. Granted, this verse was taken from a poem about black men who date white women exclusively, so perhaps this is the writer's view of that type of man, but even in that light it is a damning indictment.

I also found humor in a line about the hairstyles of todays black men in which the writer refers to a "Ball Head". I assume this is meant to be a reference to a "Bald Fade" but it gives the reader the visual of a man with a head shaped like a basketball.

The poems are weak and the continuity is nonexistant. If you are of above average intelligence avoid this book like the plague.

This is a very timely topic which I can say needed a voice. Thanks to the author for being brave enough to address this issue which is a sore subject in the African American community. The excerpts on her website really bring the subject front and center. Thanks for your insight. I especially like the special touch of the author telling her story through poetry. After I read a copy of this book from a friend, I just had to have my own. Excellant, excellant, excellant!!!