120 of 135 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Doers Love It; Slackers Hate It, October 1, 2003
This review is from: The Way of the Superior Man : A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (Hardcover)
I've noticed that the positive reviews of this book all are by people who say they've taken the advice, while the pans all have come from people who put forth a lot of excuses for why the book would never apply to them or contains advice unpalatable to them. I've received this same reaction from people to whom I've suggested the book or to whom I've read passages. Those who refuse to even try the advice in "Way of the Superior Man" truly seem unable to comprehend what richness of life they are missing.
Many reviews here have misconstrued the advice to say that the woman should not help with family income or other relationship- or lifestyle- work. Nothing in the book claims any such thing; but the book does offer a fundamental paradigm shift in identity for anyone in a relationship who will simply try the advice for even a single day.
This book rocked my world to its very foundation and changed my view of life at the most profound possible level. I was moved to tears (manly ones, though, of course) by the last three chapters.
I was amazed at how the book just kept getting better and better and better. Most self-help books run out of steam by the end, or leave a reader feeling: "Yeah, yeah, I get it already, I don't need to see every possible permutation of the patterns you've been describing for page after numbing page," but this book just keeps building and building in intensity until it reaches a mighty crescendo. At the same time, the language simultaneously becomes more earthy and more direct. The building urgency and impact of the message, couched in ever-more human, no-bull, language, turns every sentence into divine poetry.
Lines like: "There is nothing to wait for and no one to blame," spoke to me at the very deepest levels. And I was knocked almost out of my chair by the line: "You were born as a sacrifice." It is amazing how those six short words sum up the entire meaning of life.
The message for the reader, male or female, seems to be: Get off your ass and start making something special of your life and your relationships. This book identifies the deep truths about the healthiest viewpoints for the two genders to hold about their individual identities, and if thought of on a societal scope, it also points to the reason this nation is saddled with a leviathan government run amok in the Sysyphean task of taking care of all the self-proclaimed victims and professional excuse-makers who leach off this great land of ours.
I urge this book upon anyone with even a glimmer of surviving self-respect. If you apply it to your life, you'll never look back.
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65 of 72 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
I AM a woman in love with a Superior Man!, June 14, 1999
By A Customer
This review is from: The Way of the Superior Man : A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (Hardcover)
This book has made a great difference in our relationship! At the point of almost giving up after 29 years, my husband and I found this book. We read it together in bed at night. For my husband, it has meant a deeper understanding of who he is in the Masculine essence, being fully present. For me, it has meant a greater understanding of that Masculine essence as well as a deeper understanding of how my Feminine essence is more about radiance - my being is different than that of my husband - and the difference is beautiful! At first, the book hit me with some unusual insight, and I would say: "Wow!" Then the point shifts to the feminine and I would say: "What?" (because I am not sure I like what Deida is saying - sounds like it could be sexist, but it is NOT!), and then he pulls it all together in a way that is deeply moving, empathic and compassionate of BOTH men and women! David Deida cares about people and has a unique manner of stating the needs (AND desires) of both sexes, while honoring them at all times! He definately understands women! WoW! I love this book! I am excited for his future and mine!
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43 of 50 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent, outstanding, brilliant!!!!!!, March 19, 1998
This review is from: The Way of the Superior Man : A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (Hardcover)
Firstly, I am a woman!! I read this book out of curisoity and was totally amazed at David Deida's insight into men, as well as women! In fact, I am almost lost for words!! What can I say - beg, borrow, or steal it, do anything to read it! It has helped me to better understand my man and him - me. We already have an wonderful close relationship, and this intimacy between us just deepens the more we understand ourselves, especially as two individual people manifesting very different energies, ie; the masculine and feminine. Learning to appreciate and celebrate these differences is what makes my life so rich and fulfilling. David Deida - you are the greatest!!
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