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Six Ways to Keep the "Little" in Your Girl: Guiding Your Daughter from Her Tweens to Her Teens (Secret Keeper Girl)

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This isn't a book that just tells you to "be a good mom" without giving any practical advice as to how and why. Six Ways gives fantastic, well-researched information about the tween years and what's going on in a person's brain during those years. She then translates that into why it's critical to focus on helping your daughter form her convictions and beliefs during those years. Suddenly I understood that my daughter's questions about forgiveness, faith and trust were not only normal, but very healthy! I realized that her questions aren't attacks on me as a mom, but they are critical to the foundation of the faith she will walk in the rest of her days. This is one book I'm telling all guardians of tween girls to read.

This is a great resource for moms of tween girls. Good balance between research and information and practical tips. Love her focus on parent-child connectedness...I think we all need a reminder of just how important that is. Looking forward to buying 8 Great Dates next...and maybe a visit to a SKG event very soon!

My copy of "Six Ways to Keep the "Little" in Your Girl" arrived last night. I just finished it. I literally devoured this book. I have always loved Dannah's writing and speaking style and fully agree with her message. She gave me the strength to keep my promise to wait until my husband and I said "I do" at our wedding alter for my first kiss. Had it not been for "The Bide Wore White" I might have caved to the pressures put on me at that time in my life. I am so thankful I waited for God's perfect timing.

"Six Ways to Keep the "Little" in Your Girl" is the next step for me. While I am still waiting for God to bless me with my own precious little princess, I am trying to prepare myself in advance for some of the hard questions I know I will get. I also don't want to repeat the mistakes that were made in my life with my daughter or have her go through the pain I have had to deal with because of sexual abuse. Had there been someone who knew what to look for when I was younger; the problems could have been avoided or dealt with immediately instead of being buried and festering. Reading Dannah's advice opens my eyes to the correct way to help my little girl through the tough tween years into her teens. It answers questions about when and how to have age appropriate conversations about sex, puberty and her period. How to help her have a healthy body image. What are age appropriate toys and media for her and what isn't appropriate at all. And dreaming with her about her future prince. Dannah also recommends a plethora of wonderful resources of a mom's toolkit. As I continue my research for my purity girls study I will defiantly be checking out more of the items she recommends.

I have started praying for my daughter and her future mate as a result of reading this book and I will be passing it on to several friends with tween daughters and granddaughters who are trying to raise sexually pure "Little" girls. If you have a daughter between the ages of 6 and 13 I strongly recommend this book. It is a wonderful tool for any mom, grandma, or aunt.

There is a reason that this book is out of stock right now. It's because it is amazing. Thanks for reminding me of ways to keep my 8 and 3 year old little princesses from becoming 23 too fast!Give Your Kids the Keys: Navigating Your Child to a Personal and Sustainable Faith

After reading this book, you will have an understanding of the brain development of tween girls, and just how important it is to form their values on the issues of modesty, boys, sex, etc before they become teenagers. The tween years are the value formation years. This is when values will be set in a girl's brain; values she will act on as a teen. It is vital that we connect with our daughters in order to pass on healthy values. Dannah has included a connection IQ quiz as a tool for mothers to become aware of where their relationship with their daughters stand. The quiz opened my eyes to some ways I can better connect with my daughter and inspired me to take action. In another post, I will list some ideas for mother/daughter dates that I have gleaned from searching the internet.

I love this quote from Dannah: "So the question for you now - in her tweens - is not "Should I talk to her about boys, and sex, and periods, and other stuff that scares me silly?" The question is "How do I talk to her about boys, and sex, and periods, and other stuff that scares me silly?" without robbing her of her innocence?" What a great point Dannah makes! I think that is what many mothers are afraid of: that if we raise these issues with our daughters too early, we will rob them of that girlhood innocence. Well, rest assured, Dannah does a fantastic job of providing you with ideas and words that are gentle, but do the job.

You will learn about the importance of role play even during the tween years. Has your daughter seemed to lose interest in such creative play? Dannah shares three ideas on how to encourage her to play roles in unconventional ways. Such play is directly linked to that value formation that is vital at this time in her life. Wonderful information on the selection of age-appropriate, wholesome dolls is shared, along with which dolls have been proven to be harmful to tween girls and why!

There is a chapter that discusses how to approach the topic of menstruation with your daughter; here you will find ideas on stories you can share with her, scriptures to use, a special basket you may want to put together, and a specific DVD is recommended. Other chapters provide information on protecting your tween girl from negative media effects that can rob her of innocence, ways to make your daughter's inner beauty her focus, and fun activities you can do to form her values on modesty. Dannah includes ideas to help mothers better know the friends their daughters are spending time with, shift a girl's focus away from boys to her future husband, and even some dating suggestions (for when she is older of course!)

The part that I actually found the most shocking - and encouraging - was when Dannah wrote about discussing sex with girls this young. Honestly, I knew that I would bring up the topic of menstruation soon, but I hadn't thought much about telling my girl about sex. I guess I figured that could wait till she's 13 or so! But Dannah encourages mothers to discuss said issue with their daughters by the time they are 9, and she explains why. She actually suggests specific words to say, and I think I have found those words to be the most inspiring and confidence building advice from all the great thoughts in this book! The words are gentle and beautiful, but direct and honest. What a gem:)

I am so glad that I read this book. I am excited to read more books from Dannah Gresh in the next few months, books that provide ideas and resources for dates and devotionals with my daughter. After reading Six Ways to Keep the Little in Your Girl, I feel much more confident to walk this journey with my daughter in a beautiful, fun and connecting way!

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Thank God for these wonderful women who have taken the time to help us build positive relationships with our daughters. THis book focuses on that relationship with practical advise and activities to keep our girls from growing up too fast. As a mother, I have always said that I don't want to let my daughters grow up too fast, but how can I stop it it this fast paced society. This book has great answers to that question. It is a MUST READ!

I have been affected in a positive way by what Dannah Gresh has written. She delivered a wonderful read.I devoured the words and content and quickly passed the title on to many other mothers. Her love and concern for children is evident in her writings and her research and knowledge are thorough. She not only talks about the problems, but she gives you solutions. This book is an insightful look at the culture that we are up against.(Take note on the section where celebrities do not allow their own children to watch t.v. )

I have been encouraged to use the knowledge to combat the culture and make a stand on the behalf of all girls the Lord has laid on my heart, especially my granddaughter.

Mothers, Grandmothers, God-mothers, Teachers, Aunts... ALL of you who have a love for Girls should purchase this book. It is a delight even if you have older girls.

I am certain that an investment in this book will yield a profitable return!

My daughter is 9 and I immediately put some of Dennah's advice into action and was wonderfully impacted with fabulous results. This book is full of preventative measures, and I was impressed with her suggestions. It gives some ideas on how to reverse issues and behaviors, but her main focus is life-long connections and high standards based on Biblical principles.

I also enjoyed the links for more resources and the interviews she conducted from other moms.

Wonderful book. HIGHLY RECOMMEND.

I am not much of a reader but I read this book within a week! There is such valuable information in it and Dannah Gresh really does a good job pointing out things I probably wouldn't have even thought of. My daughter is 8 years old and is just starting the "tween" journey and I am so glad I read it now instead of in a year or two!

We all know that this society is encouraging our children to grow up to fast and this book shares with mothers ways to connect with our daughters, fostering a life-long relationship. The book gives advice on how to keep our daughters innocent, yet not naive. Boys, body issues, and other adult issues come quick enough. The author helps us foster this childhood innocence as long as possible. Great book.