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We Don't Live Here Anymore (2005)

Mark Ruffalo , Laura Dern , John Curran  |  R |  DVD
3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (63 customer reviews)

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  • Actors: Mark Ruffalo, Laura Dern, Peter Krause, Naomi Watts, Sam Charles
  • Directors: John Curran
  • Writers: Larry Gross, Andre Dubus
  • Producers: Bernadette Meyers, Harvey Kahn, Jonas Goodman, Ken Lawson, Larry Gross
  • Format: AC-3, Closed-captioned, Color, Dolby, Dubbed, Subtitled, Widescreen, Surround Sound, NTSC
  • Language: English
  • Subtitles: English, French, Spanish
  • Dubbed: French
  • Region: Region 1 (U.S. and Canada only. Read more about DVD formats.)
  • Aspect Ratio: 2.40:1
  • Number of discs: 1
  • Rated: R (Restricted)
  • Studio: Warner Home Video
  • DVD Release Date: December 14, 2004
  • Run Time: 101 minutes
  • Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (63 customer reviews)
  • ASIN: B00065HKMA
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #110,895 in Movies & TV (See Top 100 in Movies & TV)
  • Learn more about "We Don't Live Here Anymore" on IMDb

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Jack and Terry. Hank and Edith. They're married couples and best friends with much in common. Jack and Hank are professors at Cedar County College. Terry and Edith are stay-at-home moms. And Jack and Edith are secret lovers. Mark Ruffalo, Laura Dern, Peter Krause and Naomi Watts play the interlocked foursome, pushing their characters into uncharted realms of anger, confrontation and lust - and making decisions that might or might not let love slip away.

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23 of 24 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars brilliant treatment of stallled marriages May 28, 2005
This is one of the best films I have ever seen on what happens to many marriages: after a long time together, the partners pull away from eachother and wonder if they are still in love. Life is taken over by routine and the demands of work; frustration grows. The pain of this stage of life - when people begin to ask, "is this it?" - is vividly portrayed in this film. None of the characters are judged as they act out and seek some way to feel they are still alive, while having to take care of their kids and the banalities of house cleaning and their petty disagreements. Their dilemma is far more common than we would like to imagine.

This is very hard to watch, but its realism is quite extraordinary and shockingly intimate, with a depth vastly superior to the romantic fluff of hollywood. Even the way that the characters change in this moment of crisis is believable and all too human. Some can grow beyond it, some cannot. THere is wisdom in this truly great drama. And the acting in uniformly brilliant, approaching the complexity of real life.

Warmly recommended, but be prepared for a very rough ride.
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33 of 38 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars The Unkindest Cut December 31, 2004
Andre Dubus's novella on which this film is based can be read and interpreted a couple of ways: as an "The Ice Storm" like evisceration of 2 lonely, masochistic couples or as an "The Ice Storm" evisceration of 2 lonely masochistic couples whom Dubus shows not only understanding for but also shows that they can be saved, they can be redeemed, there is enough humanity within them to care about.

This film of "We Don't Live here Anymore" tells the story of Jack Linden (Mark Ruffalo, who just gets better and better), who is married to Terry (Laura Dern) and Hank Evans (Peter Krause) who is married to Edith (the luminous Naomi Watts).

All four have lost their way and are having affairs with the other's spouse: they have forgotten how to love and sex is now all they have to experience any kind of feeling. Their pairings are mechanical, if there is any so-called Love, it is fleeting and only of the moment. These are people who have experienced Love and found it to be lacking. They talk a lot, they fight and argue more: but all of it means nothing and seems to only be a means to pass the day without slitting their throats.

Where director Curran gets it right though is how he shows that nothing, none of the arguments leads to any kind of easy resolutions: in fact there is no resolution to any of this at all. Curran presents, I think a very contemporary and ambiguous view of his characters and of life really: it's messy, we sometimes are with the wrong people, Love mostly doesn't last but no matter what, we have options, we have hope.
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Scenes from a modern marriage July 20, 2005
This low-key drama confronts infidelity and marital discontent through the private dramas of two couples. Both Hank (Peter Krause) and Jack (Mark Ruffalo) are teachers at a community college, Hank an aspiring novelist who treats infidelity as a necessary adjunct to his life. The most sophisticated of the four, he embraces the romance of the writer's ancillary angst, women serving as both inspiration and gratification. His wife, Edith (Naomi Watts) is aware of Hank's indiscretions, increasingly bitter and disappointed with her marriage, but unwilling to act.

Edith and Hank are good friends with Jack and Terry (Laura Dern), socializing frequently, a source of titillation for a clandestine affair between Jack and Edith. Edith embarks on the affair partly from spite and partly from devastating loneliness, but Jack is not as cavalier as his fellow adulterer, blindsided by daydreams of his lover and irritated by Terry's obvious flaws. As Jack, Ruffalo is sensitive and thoughtful, playing the formerly faithful husband with subtle grace, sinking into a moral quagmire that renders him unable to stop the affair or leave his wife. This man enjoys the comforts of marriage, children and the routine, almost undone by the risks he is taking to meet Edith.

The jewel of the movie is Laura Dern as Terry, her performance flawless as the confused, wounded wife who senses her husband's betrayal but won't confront him, crippled by her own inadequacies. Dern and Ruffalo move in perfect counterpoint, circling their marriage, challenged in ways they never anticipated. He obsesses over the other woman and adores his children, but there is more emotional depth here than may appear. This is a man who cannot abide his own betrayal.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars An eye opener August 23, 2006
I don't think I've ever just sat and watched a movie and `got' it quite like this. Maybe it's because every married couple goes through the feelings expressed in this film. Laura Dern, Mark Ruffalo, Naomi Watts & Peter Krause star as two couples whose relationships are rattled by adultery. These two couples have very different relationships yet are looking for exactly the same thing.

Jack (Ruffalo) is a college professor married to Terry (Dern). Terry loves Jack but Jack is falling in love with Edith (Watts) who is married to Hank (Krause) who doesn't love her but is attracted to Terry. Jack and Edith fall into an affair that causes more pain to each of them then to their respective partners. Watching Jack and Edith react to their mates after they've just been with each other, the tears, the looks, the concern in their eyes. Hank in the meantime is looking for someone to cure his boredom with his wife, and Terry may be that woman, and since Jack's guilt is tearing him apart he encourages Terry and Hank's relationship in order to justify is infidelity.

What Jack never banked on was realizing the love he had for his wife and his children. After his wife sleeps with Hank, Jack is panged with regret and heartache as he watches his marriage fall apart, the marriage he felt he was tired of but in actuality it's the only thing he wants and needs.

This movie is a wake up call for all of us who are falling out of love with our relationships, our lives in general and the ones we share it with. It's brilliantly scripted and acted and flows wonderfully, delivering its point beautifully. Watts and Dern are brilliant here and show so much feeling in all their words, in all their actions. Honestly one of the best movie's I've ever seen and one that will stay with me for all time.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
4.0 out of 5 stars We Don't Live Here Anymore
I enjoyed the movie. It was a little un even at time.
everything and everyone seemed happy in the end. I purchased the movie because I like the actors. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Mary
2.0 out of 5 stars Athiest
If there is a god he has not made an appearance in many thousands of years or at least 2000
Published 6 months ago by James W. Powers
1.0 out of 5 stars Very bad movie
A Person who directed a movie like the painted veil directed this one I couldn't believe it ... I guess he was just preparing himself for the good ones to come ... Horrible movie
Published 12 months ago by Janie
5.0 out of 5 stars True To Life
This is a vivid look at marriages that exposes all the thought processes of four very different types of cheaters. One husband is sick of his wife's drunk rages and laziness. Read more
Published 13 months ago by mr. contrarian
5.0 out of 5 stars Another great Ruffalo performance
This is a sad / dark movie about cheating couples, but I enjoyed watching it because of Mark Ruffalo's performance. Read more
Published 13 months ago by Reboken
5.0 out of 5 stars Honest and unflinching look at marriage and infidelity
There's this movie titled "Dinner with Friends" with Greg Kinnear, Andie Macdowell, Dennis Quaid, and Toni Collette which addresses marriage, and divorce, and one which I thought... Read more
Published on October 24, 2009 by Z Hayes
1.0 out of 5 stars A man and a woman and a man and a woman...
I patiently waited for something to happen in this film, and when it didn't I began to suspect that it might be French. As it turns out, my fears were justified. Read more
Published on October 8, 2009 by e. verrillo
4.0 out of 5 stars Jack & Terry & Hank & Edith
My first thought when I started WE DON'T LIVE HERE ANYMORE is...big deal...I can watch this kind of adultery and betrayal on my street or with my co-workers. Read more
Published on September 21, 2009 by The JuRK
5.0 out of 5 stars Underrated and Overlooked
The acting is superb and the tale told in this screenplay adaptation of Dubus's novella is increasingly relevant for current times, where the focus on relationships seems to have... Read more
Published on September 3, 2009 by Richard Keith
4.0 out of 5 stars portrays powerfully
There is a visceral quality to this story, spellbinding and heart-wrenching. It captivated me, and though painful to watch, the movie stayed with me for days afterwards. Read more
Published on March 2, 2009 by astrorev
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