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  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin; First Edition edition (August 7, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 125002062X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1250020628
  • Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #250,318 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

AMY LAURENT is a professional matchmaker, and star of the forthcoming Bravo reality show, "Miss Advised." Founder & President of the exclusive Amy Laurent International Agency, she has worked as a professional matchmaker for seven years.

Amy has been featured in The New York Times, Miami Herald, Oprah Magazine, Men's Health, and Cosmopolitan. She also blogs for The Huffington Post, appears on "Fox News Strategy Room" as a relationship and dating expert, is OK Magazine's relationship expert and writes commentary for In Touch and Life & Style magazines. She currently hosts a web series, "Love and Sex with Amy Laurent" for iVillage.

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Before You Begin
 

This book is not about getting the guy. It’s about getting the guy you want and not wasting time on the ones who aren’t right for you. You have the power to decide who you’re in a relationship with—whether it’s by your behaviors or by your actual choice.
Most women assume that the opportunity for romance starts on the first date. Well, I’m here to tell you that opportunity begins right now. Yes, now. Because there will be no first date until you get some basics down, and that includes the basics of being a woman in the twenty-first century.
You don’t need to change a single thing about who you are. But you might need to start changing some of the things you’re doing.
Think about it: What separates the daters from the nondaters? It’s not beauty or every Hollywood actress would be married. And it’s not career or every Hollywood actress would be married. No, it’s all about how you behave.
Are you a strong, independent woman who has her own hobbies and interests in life? Do you have a network of friends and an active social life whether you’re in a relationship or not? Are you out there meeting people, reaching out, being open to going on dates no matter who the person is or what he does for a living? Do you desire a healthy relationship? Or are you just desperate for one?
You don’t need to change a single thing about who you are. But you might need to start changing some of the things you’re doing.
Because there is nothing that sends a man running like a woman who doesn’t want to do anything but obsess over him. That’s boring for him, and I promise, you’ll get bored pretty quick, too. So let’s talk about how to date, and how not to date. It’s pretty simple stuff. So simple we all work very hard to complicate it.
This is not about teaching you how to play mind games, or how to pretend you’re too cool when you’re really a nice, sensitive, and open woman who just wants to say what’s on her mind. If that’s who you are, own it. But no matter what, you still have to be aware of that little dance everyone does when they’re first getting to know someone. You’ve been messing it up not because you were being yourself, but because you were being yourself while ignoring all the things you need to do in order to build a proper foundation for a relationship.
No more excuses or whining. You need to start dating the right way, the way you were never taught, and yet somehow—miraculously—are supposed to be an expert at.
That’s why I’m here.
I am your expert, and it’s a role that’s been hard won. You see, I’ve learned these lessons through my own field research. I’ve been hurt, dumped, and left brokenhearted by men I thought would be my knight in shining armor. And was it always their fault? Sadly, no. Though I have certainly dated my fair share of a**holes, I also had to start looking at myself. What was my part in all this? Where was I to blame? And, like you, I had to learn how to do something different.
Best Foot Forward
Let’s face it: first impressions count. I have been on way too many dates were the guy looked as if he just came from the gym. I couldn’t help but wonder if he was actually working to not impress me. And the same goes for you. Sometimes you may walk into a date looking as if you just rolled out of your bed, or even worse, someone else’s bed. In many ways, going on a date is like going on an interview—and for possibly the most important position of your life—so dress like it. This has nothing to do with looks. I am sure if you looked around at all your friends in relationships, you would quickly realize that it’s not about being a supermodel.
You need to play the part if you want to get the part.
First impressions are all about the packaging—what you’re wearing, how you’re carrying yourself, whether you’re presenting yourself as a confident and self-assured woman or someone who doesn’t have the energy or esteem to put herself together. In order to get the part, you need to play the part. You should wear an outfit that speaks to who you are—this is not about being someone else—an outfit that you’d be comfortable wearing to dinner with your family. No cleavage, no skirts so short you can’t bend over, and no heels so high that you can’t make it down a flight of stairs. On the other hand, you also don’t need to go on the date looking like a nun, so watch out for anything that either hides your body so much he can’t see you’re a woman or anything too boyish that he mistakes you for one of the guys. As one of my clients recently told me, “There’s nothing worse than showing up to a date and she’s wearing the same clothes as me.” So stay away from power-woman suits or active-wear gym clothes—even if your Lululemon yoga pants look great on you. Basically, if it’s nice enough for church or the holidays, then it’s nice enough for a date. If you wouldn’t wear it in front of a preacher or your grandmother, then don’t wear it out with a man you are meeting for the first time.
The same goes with your grooming. If you usually don’t do your hair or wear makeup, fine. But you can manage to pull out the hairbrush and put on some Chapstick so you look fresh in your natural beauty. You want him to see that this date is important to you. You don’t need to look like you’re about to step onto the red carpet, but you do need to get ready with the intention that you might be meeting someone very important. You would want him to look nice for you, so how about looking nice for him?
STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF
When it comes to dating, you should never be someone you’re not. For example, I can’t stop talking. Ever. I’ve been this way since I was a little kid and you’re certainly not going to get me to stop now. Especially not for a man. When I go on dates, I am the same silly, bubbly, energetic nonstop talker that I am in every situation in my life. I wish I could come in and be some mysterious Angelina Jolie type, all brooding and sexy, but I can’t.
But that’s not a problem. I know from the men I have dated that they love my energy. I make them laugh and feel at ease, and they have a lot of fun in my presence. The problem is not my personality. Nor is it yours. You are fine just as you are. Whether you’re an extrovert like me or the quiet and mysterious type like Ms. Jolie, the trouble doesn’t come in who you are, but rather in how you act.
The Power of Positive Dating
For any woman who complains that there aren’t any good men out there, my first question is: Are you looking for them? Because I’ll tell you right now, Mr. Right is not circling your block, waiting for you to come out of your house. And if there is someone doing that, call the cops. Now.
Mr. Right is out busy living his life. He’s sitting in traffic listening to morning radio. He’s answering his phone at the office and rolling his eyes at his boss. He’s out with his friends, playing darts at the corner bar, and scoping the room for a cute girl. He’s going back to his apartment at night and watching Sports Center while he checks his e-mails before he goes to bed. He is busy. But he is also waiting for you.
And here is your chance to find him.
But first you need to leave the house.
If you’re going to be a powerful dater, you need to have a powerful life. You, like him, need to be busy. Because one of the things I do remember from years in school learning stuff I can no longer apply is that a body in motion stays in motion. The same goes with dating. If you are out there, having a good time, you will attract people who are looking to have a good time with you.
If you’re going to be a powerful dater, you need to have a powerful life.
 
WHERE THE BOYS ARE
There are men everywhere. I mean that. Go over to your local market right now to pick up some milk, and chances are you will see one. They are out there and they’re actually easy to meet. You just need to ask the right people and get out to the right places. Here are eight suggestions.
1. Bars and restaurants. I know people say you’ll never meet your boyfriend at a bar but that is so not true. As long you only give him your number, and don’t go home with him, your future boyfriend could be at your corner pub or restaurant right now.
2. Friends and family. Let’s face it. They know people. A lot of people. Some of whom are probably wonderful single men. Don’t be afraid to send an e-mail or make some phone calls and ask for their help.
3. The office. Workplace romance? This can be a little difficult to negotiate. However, we spend most of our time at the office, so don’t shut someone down just because you work with him. And don’t be afraid to ask your coworkers if they have any single friends.
4. Online dating. By far the easiest way to get a date these days. Sure, there might be a lot of frogs on the Internet sites, but there are also a lot of princes. Match, eHarmony, OKCupid all have eligible men looking for eligible women.
5. Intramural sports. Though it’s important you maintain your role as the girl in a relationship, let’s face it, most guys love sports. So if there is a sport you love, find a coed IM team and join it.
6. Hobbies. Remember when you were a kid and you played piano or took a pottery class? Well, it’s time to find that inner child and take classes in things that you’ve always wanted to do, especially ones with other people—no private lessons. You’d be surprised how many men are doing the same thing, and how many cute teachers are leading them.
7. Concerts, comedy clubs, sporting events. Basically any public place ...

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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Jess on August 14, 2012
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This is a great read. I just downloaded it on my Kindle and I LOVE IT. It's very witty and funny but she also gets straight to the point. Guys are hard creatures to read and this gives you the tools to dating. I've already told all my friends to buy it. It's a great gift idea for your daughter, sister, friend or co-worker! :)
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Splayer on September 13, 2012
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Everybody wants a return on investment, right? Whether we are reading a self-help book, or dating a potential future mate we want to know that what we invest in time, money, spirit, emotion, and energy will produce something of greater worth.
This book may just be one of the best investments you have made in a long time.

If you are a serial dater, or have virtually given up on finding that special someone after years of trying, or even if you are just sitting there waiting for the perfect guy to simply fall into your lap, you owe it to yourself to read this book...Really!!

No more waiting by the phone, or sending "When are we getting together again" texts. No more wondering why guys don't see you for the truly amazing woman you are. This book tells you how to take control back, and how to filter out the players, the psychos, the deadbeats, the liars, and the cheaters. They will hate this book because it quickly strips them of their power, and explains their game.

This book does what it says, and lays it out for you week by week, and best of all you don't have to compromise. It will even pay for itself in the first few dates; Let him have the pleasure of paying for dinner, and adore you more for the privilege!

I can't recommend this book highly enough, and considering the myriad of friends who have cried on my shoulder trying to understand what went wrong again and again I say, read this book, it is time to to stand on firm ground, and find a man that deserves you, and wants to be with you everlastingly.

Great job Amy and Kristen. Thanks for an easy to read, and poignant easy to follow guide to finding truth, love, and hope.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By FABS Member on December 30, 2013
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I joined Match.com a couple of months ago. I met some really nice guys, but had no idea what was going on in the dating world today. I bought this book and found that old-fashioned values are still in place. It gave the the courage to go forward. I have met the man I always dreamed of (widowed 3 times). A short, a medium and a long term marriage. When I turned 75, my outlook on life changed completely. Now it is my turn, as they say.
This is a wonderful book, no matter one's age. It has helped me a great deal.
Good luck to all of you who want more and better in life.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By R H Booth on December 1, 2013
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I found this book quite useful in terms of learning how dating works and people's expectations. I recommended it to a friend and she liked it too.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Kat Von Diesel on February 15, 2013
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Tired of not knowing what to do on a date or the "rules" to follow? Amy breaks it down on a level every girl can understand.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By jukaj63 on July 30, 2014
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This was an amazing book and very easy to read. Amy uses humor and real life events to convey her teachings. It made me realize all the things I and my friends have been getting wrong when it comes to dating. It's a book I will keep until I get it right and then I'll pass it on to someone else who can use its help.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By faithful Foxx on March 19, 2013
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the book was right on I met a wonderful man a week after I receive the book we are in our 6th week and he asked me to be his girlfriend, he can't believe he's falling for me so hard. smiles! going strong. Thank God for a road map to dating. Dating is strategic not just anything you do or say will is ok. most importantly I learned that dating should be fun and romantic not hard and stressful
have fun. Happy dating girls
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By micheline kane on December 28, 2013
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needed a pick me up or some direction after a hard break up, this book which I was able to read in one night
was entertaining and insightful
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