What Men Don't Want Women To Know: The Secrets, The Lies, The Unspoken Truth [Hardcover]

Smith & Doe Staff (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 15, 1998

If you are a woman who deosn't want to know the truth about the men in you life, then put this book down immediately. Don't even think of reading further. But if you are a woman who believes that knowledge is power, that to be forewarned is to be forearmed, then Smith and Doe are here to give you an unvarnished, no-holds-barred, unadulterated first-time look into the mind of male animal. You will learn about their sexual fanatsies (the real ones), the secrets they keep, and the lies they tell when it comes to sex, love, and fidelity, and what they will and will not do to hole on to the women in their lives. But take heed. As Smith and Doe reveal : "Our sexual fantasies are everything you pray they are not. Our deepest desires are darker than your darkest fears. Our wet dreams are your worst nightmares." This is the book men pray women won't read.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Only 3.6 percent of men will remain faithful to their women. At least according to the controversial "Smith and Doe," two guys who wish to remain anonymous except for revealing that they work in the motion-picture industry and live in Southern California. A sampling of their "unspoken truths" aimed at turning women into "Smith and Doe-educated women":

--"If a man is given the opportunity to engage in sexual relations with an attractive female, with no fear of getting caught and little risk of transmitted diseases, he will do so. Always. Without fail. There are no exceptions."

--"Man spends his life in one of two basic states: loaded or unloaded."

--"A prostitute is the perfect one-nighter."

--"Men are attracted to beautiful young women.... If you saw your man at the office when you are not present, you would become physically ill."

Also included are detailed guidelines for monitoring your man's financial activities (see third item, above), "surefire methods" for getting your man to confess to cheating (past or present), and a 75-question fidelity test ("Does your man play his answering machine messages in front of you?"). They conclude with a "condensed guide to training your man," a more sexually focused takeoff on the ideas in How to Make Your Man Behave in 21 Days or Less Using the Secrets of Professional Dog Trainers.

From Publishers Weekly

The authors, who, the publisher reveals, work in the motion-picture industry, have assumed pseudonyms for this work, and readers will quickly understand why. This is their chief message: "The only reason your man is with you is because at this moment... he... believes... he simply can't do any better." Their basic conviction, quoting from Wilhelm Reich, is that the male of the species is a sexual animal who seeks "complete and repeated genital gratification." They see him as a gun, either loaded or unloaded according to whether he is hoping to have an orgasm or has just had one; women, they maintain, can trust a man in the latter state, but otherwise they cannot. The authors point out that the real danger zones for a woman are her husband's office, his "business trips" and bachelor parties, about which he can be expected to deny every occurrence if questioned. After presenting a test for fidelity, Smith and Doe offer a few words of advice for women on winning the battle of the sexes. Females who find the content equally frivolous might recall that many a true word is spoken in jest. Yet the generalizations are so sweeping and exaggerated here as to lead many readers to believe that the authors are talking only about themselves.
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 164 pages
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press; 1st edition (June 15, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0312186797
• ISBN-13: 978-0312186791
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.6 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (93 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #362,951 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Born in 1979. Grew up in Arizona. Swam in a pool there, played with neighbor kids. Age seven: moved to Austria. Walked to a private school through vineyards. Watched the sun rise every morning. Age eleven: moved to Colorado. Lived in a cabin. Stayed home from school because of snow, often. Lived in a treehouse wired with Nintendo. Age twelve: moved to New Mexico. Became a huge nerd. Got beat up constantly between age twelve and age seventeen. Got in a high speed car chase just for fun. Sent away by my parents. Got my GED, and went to college in Arizona. Streaked a homecoming football game; became a hero. Moved to Alaska to try commercial fishing after reading about it in a dentist office magazine. Lived there for a year and a half as a depressed stoner in a series of cabins. Moved outdoors into a tent. Hitchiked around Alaska and Canada with a hippy girlfriend. Hitchhiked down. Moved to Utah. Worked. Saved up money. Spent seven months canoeing the entire shoreline of Lake Powell in Utah and Arizona--because I wanted to. Moved to Boston to be with a suicidal girl. Founded a nonprofit. Walked from Key West, Florida to Cape Gaspe, Quebec, Canada, to raise money for charity with six others. Moved back to New Mexico. Moved out to the Arizona desert to be a hermit. Apache County. Lived in a trailer with a cat and a windmill and no neighbors for miles. No electricity either. Got married to a cool girl. Moved back to New Mexico. Moved down to Las Cruces. Moved to Utah. Moved to New Mexico. Moved to Utah. Moved to New Mexico. Worked on movies. Sold a screenplay. Had a daughter. Wrote a book. Went camping. Went camping. Went camping.
I'm going camping.

Customer Reviews

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31 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Of Course All Men Are Just Like ME..., March 4, 2004

By A Customer

This review is from: What Men Don't Want Women To Know: The Secrets, The Lies, The Unspoken Truth (Hardcover)

Please speak only for yourselves. All men are not like the dehumanizing creatures in this book. I'm not, and neither are my friends. I have found that a lot of men use the excuse "baby, that's how all men are," or "men are just wired that way," to excuse anything. But it's not true. Some of us are actual human beings, and think and behave that way even when we're alone or at work or on vacation. And no, we're not all controlled by our sex drives. And yes, some of us do love the women we marry, and don't want to be with anyone else, even if offered. How egocentric to believe that just because you're a certain way, that all men are. Return this one, quick.

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars What a joke, March 6, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: What Men Don't Want Women To Know: The Secrets, The Lies, The Unspoken Truth (Hardcover)

Written by a confessed sex addict and his pal, who seem to think they are typical. Yes, men are wired to be very, very attracted to sex & women...DUH. However, many of us have learned that there is more to life than following our #&%*. Read this if you want to know what sex addicts and serial philanderers don't want you to know. For the rest of us, sex is very important, but not above all else in life.

27 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Offensive, Raw, Rude, but Candid!, November 28, 2001

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Steve Nakamoto "The Friendly Voice of the... (Huntington Beach, California USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What Men Don't Want Women To Know: The Secrets, The Lies, The Unspoken Truth (Hardcover)

As a relationship author myself I'm always on the lookout for fresh material or perspective on men-women issues. I brought this book with me last week on my vacation to Cabo San Lucas. At home I would have found this book to be entertaining and at times partially correct, but in a vacation resort (or a city like Las Vegas) this stuff can be amazingly true. For all those women who have reviewed this book and have given such low ratings, I'm afraid that you're probably the ones who need to be aware of this the most. If you can get past the obvious outrageousness (for entertainment) and annoying page layouts, there's more truth than you can imagine. If this is too strong for your tastes, then take a look around and notice all the strip clubs that are around the big cities. As far as I can see amongst my wide range of friends, the things in this book like (prostitutes, Deny, Business trips, masturbation, and the clever test at the end) are either in the thought process or actually being played out by a significant number of men. Those who are not would be those who are very spiritually evolved (and see no fulfillment in this direction) or are pansies. If your guy is a take charge, macho, guy's guy, then don't be surprised if either he or his friends are like this book. There's more truth in here then almost any woman could believe. In many cases, it is more a matter of finding out what stage the guy is in. But the authors are right in that there are definitely "some" things in here that us guys don't want women to know....and if you're a woman don't pass up on this kind of candid understanding. It probably won't be repeated a whole lot more in mainstream published books.