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What the Hell Do Women Really Want: A Guide for Men in the 90s

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As you read the other reviews for this book you will find many people who are upset with what the author has said in her book. Those people are missing the point of the book. It's just as ugly and simple as this: everyone has standards and the people who have the most to offer (in terms of looks, financial assets, personality, etc.) are in a position to demand more than others. Whether you like it or not that is the way things are.

Yes, I know you talked to lots of cute women (7's & 8's) who claim they are not as materialistic as the book suggests. I just have two things to say about that.

First, if you lower your standards enough (not quite as cute or whatever) you can ALWAYS find someone to date. The rest will reject you based on exactly the criteria listed in this book. (Although you may be short selling yourself or sabataging yourself by not setting your standards high enough.)

Second, if you read the letters in women's magazines and their posts on the internet you will find women have two basic complaints about men:

a) Too many men act like doormats. Women aren't looking for guys who bend over backwards to please them, they want men with some spine!

b) The guys that they sleep with (ie. the good looking guys with plenty of money to flash around) usually turn out to be jerks. Notice I said these are the guys they are SLEEPING WITH! As their looks begin to fade and they get a little older they will eventually settle for someone a little safer, a little nicer, a little... boring.

The question is, which end of this deal do you want in on? Do you want to be the nice safe guy who gets the left overs or the guy who gets the action? If you want to be the one getting the action then you need to be aware of the criteria women use (consciously or subconsciously) in selecting the guys they will sleep with or bond with, and those things are spelled out very well in this book.

I'm not saying you have to like it, I am saying this is the way things are. The information in this book can help you do a LOT better with the ladies.

I met a wonderful girl a while back. She was smart, beautiful and intelligent. The only problem was, whenver I approached or saw her, my brain would turn into oatmeal and I wouldn't know what to say. I acted like Jerry Lewis in "The Nutty Professor."

If I had the knowledge and techniques in this book back then, I know things would have turned out dramatically different. I may not have won the girl, but I would feel better about myself for many reasons.

In her book, Dr. Clark taught me many things. I learned that the best thing to be is myself. And she taught me to do that by showing me how to talk to women, how to express myself in a genuine way, to ask questions that get women to respond and open up, and what appeals to a woman etc.

Maybe there are some people who don't need help, or maybe they are fooling themselves and their ego is resistive to criticism and change, like my ego was. I did not want to accept what Dr. Clark was saying. The sad fact was, deep down I knew it was true what she was saying.

The book is good and the Dr.'s arguments are sound. I have tried out the suggestions and they work. If you are not a born Cassanova or Bill Clinton, then read this book.

In a final thought, I had quite a few friends who are women read this book. They all were in agreement that this book was quite good and true. I have read quite a few other books about dating since then, to see if they had any merit. I can truly say that Dr. Clark is the high standard in which I judge all other writings now. None can match her insight and truthful insight. Thank you Dr. Clark.

Men have joked about this for years: "Ugh, she called me a NICE GUY", knowing that this killed one's chances for any woman. Well, it's true-a simplification maybe, but basically true. This book is filled with much research based on evolutionary biology and presented in a direct manner. If you are looking for a Touchy-feely, I'm OK-You're OK, Let's sing Kumbaya, relationship book; look elsewhere. Personally, I find this type of directness refreshing. For some readers who may fit the molds she describes, this book will be disturbing. I believe that's the author's intent: shock therapy for complacent readers. Read it, think about how it applies to your situation, and try it. If the book doesn't work for you, Dr Clark is willing to do over the phone consultations-she's listed her office number and email. Not many authors will do that. All in all, an impressive book for "jerks" and "nice guys"...

As much as I hate to admit it, many aspects of this book ring true. As a man with average dating success I feel I now have a new insight as to why things went wrong.

Don't take this book as gospel, but be very wary of women who refute it or give you different dating advice. While women are generally well meaning creatures it has been my experience that women can't or wont admit what they really look for in a man.

This has got to be the best book I have read on the psychology of women and how they choose the men in their lives. Its as real as it gets and to sum it up, it will do one of three things: 1)Make you want to stay single 2)Think about joining the priesthood or at its worst...3)Make you wish you were gay. The book offers good advice, but it does point out the sad reality and unfairness to the way women select their mates and the type of abuse we must endure to approach them, date them and keep them. Overall I highly recomend this book and feel it may open some eyes.

The singles business has become an industry and I can think of few things more disgraceful than making money by giving worthless advice to lonely people.

That said, Jama's book is as close to the real deal as any book/tape/seminar/Learning Annex thing you will find.

It is not important that she is a real doctor and not a "love doctor". Nor does it matter that women will deny all this and find it offensive. What matters is that this is the way things are.

Guess what--women are attracted to certain things (perhaps without being conciously aware) just as men are. I'm not gonna say blondes have more fun--but your can bet SLIM blondes have more fun. And so do tall guys with full heads of hair.

That's the good news. The bad is that it will do you no good to sit at home, waiting to get taller. And here is where this book with all of its superb explanations and clarity, breaks down: what good is knowledge if you can't act on it? You are what you are and you ain't what you ain't.

To put it another way, to be more successful with women, do the following: (1) be positive (even when you are feeling absolute despair, (2) appear supremely confident (even when your knees are shaking), (3) be aggressive (even if that's simply not your personality), (4) be tall, (5) don't leave the house without a full head of hair, (6) dress expensively and well, (7) never appear needy (even if the women is a knockout and you haven't had a date in 4 years), (8) be lucky (perhaps you can will yourself to win the lottery, (9) Be yourself, so long as the previous points describe you., (10) Smile--get hold of some material from Eric Weber or Tony Robbins which is too hillarious to parody and take a step back and laugh!

I could go on but your success or lack of it will depend on your ability to adhere to the above points. BTW, I met with Jama. Didn't like her much but she had my number. Took me a long time to grasp this but if you go to a therapist and its a pleasant experience you're in the wrong place. But that's another story....

It is an interesting book to read. It is not only informative and contains a lot of practical tactics in stealing a woman's heart, it is also very entertaining to read. From a woman point of view, many of the tactics appears constructive.

I have read other comments about this book, it is unfair to discredit this book if the author is divorced. A successful marriage cannot be brought about only by one party, right? Both parties count. This is the book that I recommand in any event.

I think why this book is so good is because a lot of women don't want to know or admit they work or think this way. But they do - and deep down, they know it. Her insights into how guys should dress are great, especially on "dressing up" or "down," depending on your type. And her "jerk-doormat" ratio is probably the best advice any guy can get when it comes to dating.

This book is the sole resource for understanding why women do the things they do and make the choices they make. Did you ever wonder why a woman will go home with a grungy biker type when you're standing right in front of her in a $400.00 suit? The answer is in here.

Dr. Clark has studied this subject in great detail. As an attendee of her seminars and a reader of this book, I find that her theories are accuate most of the time. This book explains how to appeal to a woman's "subconscious hard-wired biological needs" in order to establish a rapport with her. It works!

Generally, women who read this book are compelled to deny it's validity because they see it as a tool of exploitation. I suppose that's one way to look at it. The men I know who read it just want to find a mate worth keeping and live happily ever after; which is a much better tenet to operate under than that described in books like "The Rules" (AKA "How to Find a Hen-pecked Yes-man for a Mate")

For guys who have ever wondered why a beautiful woman would go out with "a guy like that", here's your answer. This book provides some real world answers, based on years of research, on what attracts women. A variety of topics are covered - from the obvious (your appearance) to the less obvious (the subtle psychology of body language). With a myriad of relationship books on the market (including the popular Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus), I found Dr. Clark's book to provide clear, concise advice that actually works.