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What Men Know That Women Don't: How to Love Women Without Losing Your Soul

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What an extraordinary book this is! Written in a white heat that yet never causes the author to descend into sputtering or silliness, this book reminds me so much of "Generation of Vipers," a magnificently angry book about the myriad problems with the way our world was being run in 1942,written by a man named Philip Wylie. I read that book for the first time at age 21, and I can honestly say it changed my worldview - permanently, on some issues. Rich Zubaty's book, first published almost exactly 50 years later, has done the same for my perception of my sex, distorted as the image of we men has become in recent years, due to the feminist curse. And to think I once considered myself a male feminist! I like the way Mr. Zubaty refers to the female-driven desire for "things" as mater-ialism. It reminds me of the word coined by Mr. Wylie for the inordinate worship of motherhood in his day: Momism.

Of course, one could quibble with Mr. Zubaty's book here and there: All men are not as hard-working and self-sacrificing as he suggests; all women are not as selfish and mater-ialistic. But having said that, I must reiterate that this is a man-book, written not with a fussy and literal attention to every detail, but with a burst of uncanny insights about how we've been screwed for so long, and tremendous fluidity in spelling them out. Damn funny in places, too.

A final, personal comment. Mr. Zubaty, I served three yearsin the U.S. Army, and since then, for the past 39 years, I've been a reporter for my hometown newspaper. In all that time, the only Zubatys I've ever encountered were two or three families right here in my own small Midwestern home. Do you have any ties to Madison, Ind.?

Please see the previous review by Marie Martin-Ali.

It's unfortunate that books critical of feminism or the contemporary female should be subject to such insane hatred. Perhaps these criticisms are only a parody.

As men, we like to venture into circumstances armed with knowledge, this book does just that. Written very well, from a man who has been there and is able to capture into print his experiences and share them with his fellow man. I found the book to be very informative and at times humorous but above all it armed me with knowledge that I now can view women in a much needed realistic light. I thank the Author Rich Zabaty for that.

I found Zubaties work to be filled with depth and insight. This is more then just an interesting read. It will challenge your current ways of thinking and even get you to laugh here and there if you've got a sense of humor. The complexity and richness of original ideas in Zubaties work is one of the most i've seen out of the hundreds of books that I have read. He dares to take on feminist orthodoxy and the increasing materialism of our day and makes an interesting connection that the two (feminism and materialism) are closely linked. Something I had a vague hunch about, but never quite put into words. While I don't fully agree with this book, the complexity of new ideas couldn't allow me to just dismiss it and I certainly couldn't do justice with it in this short review. It's something you have to read firsthand. I highly recommend this book as not only a great way to challenge your current state of thinking and perhaps gain some new insights, but maybe even a few laughs as well. : )

This book stayed beside my bed for more than one year...and is still there. From a man (Zubaty) to another one(us): confident, funny, realistic, paradoxal. In my opnion, will be hard to read a book like this one in the next 10 - 20 years. Great book!

I can't think of ANY book you are likely to read with as many original
ideas. You don't even have to like Zubaty's authorial voice for his books to
be must-reads, because they will get you thinking either way, and that's the
author's ultimate goal. I suspect he would much prefer to have three people
read his book and hate it as to have two people read his book and love it,
as long as the readers in either case will think about the ideas presented
and pursue actions in their own lives related to their conclusions. Sprint,
don't run, to your feminized computer, and order Rich Zubaty's stunning,
unique, depressing, hilarious, infuriating, delightful, but above all,
must-read book. If you only buy one book this year, make it "What Men Know
That Women Don't." Your life, and that of those who love you and those whom
you love, not to mention that of your society, may depend on it. -- J.
Steven Svoboda

After generations of exposure to feminist thinking most people believe we live in a "patriarchal" society which gives every advantage to men. Many feminist myths have become "commonsense" knowledge and the foundation of never ending political rhetoric. Women's issues are a legitimate topic of college courses. Men's issues are a not even a valid topic for casual conversation. The viewpoint has become unbalanced and extremely damaging to both genders. In "What Men Know that Women Don't", Rich Zubaty effectively critiques the typical view of female oppression and gender relations.

Zubaty went through some difficult personal experiences, and then spent two years in intensive study of gender issues. "What Men Know" is the product of his experience and study. In this book, he exposes the fallacies and deceptions of conventional feminist points of view. Women are not now, nor have they ever been, oppressed by men. As Zubaty points out, women on average outlive their supposed oppressors by ten years. Women do not have to fight wars, work in coal mines, or even fix the cars they drive. There are not many women in "power" positions, but when questioned individually, most women are not even interested in such pursuits. Feminists have created an anti-male world view out of smoke, mirrors, and erroneous statistics.

Zubaty's book is an attempt to turn the tables and restore some dignity to the male experience. Nearly all the art, literature, and science ever created was done by men. This fact is not an accident or the result of female oppression. By nature men are creative, spiritual, and nurturing. Men can be team members, or team leaders. These positive traits are not "masculine" qualities or "feminine" qualities but simply potential human qualities. After 100 years of feminist rhetoric, many basic truths have simply been forgotten. Zubaty brings these truths back into the light. With a more balanced understanding of mens issues, it may be possible to get away from the gender wars and get the focus back to human issues.

The book is well written and entertaining. It is a work which may really change your way of thinking and your life.

-What Men Know That Women Don't- by Rich Zubaty was written after a number of years of intense study by the author investigating and contemplating the question of men, women, relationships - and life in the modern world. This book is a bittersweet rant against feminism; something filled with many penetrating observations and warnings to younger men. The author claims every man has now been conditioned to place women first, and to work for her well being rather than his own. "We don't have the faintest idea what it means to be a man anymore," he says. "Our male role models are reconstituted women. They are men women like, not the men God likes." Zubaty identifies this new male as the 'Manhole.' Similar to the 'Metrosexual,' the 'Manhole' has no sense of his own identity but only exists to complement females and to buy them things. This 'Manhole' is the product of female 'Memes' - female behaviour patterns by which a woman endeavours to make real the dream man she once imagined in her childhood. Realising this man becomes the woman's whole life and the enterprise overrides all other preoccupations. According to Zubaty, the power of these female memes to influence society is far greater than most men want to realise. Now that feminism has become the dominant cultural force in the western world for 'good,' the female meme has gained unfettered control of the Media, Corporations, Education and Government.' Overall, a picture emerges of men being torn from their spiritual and cultural ancestry by women. There are no male traditions left to teach boys how to be men, only feminised institutions that want 'Manholes.' Zubaty claims this conditioning process begins around the age of seven. At this time a boy stops needing its mother and begins to search for its father - in order to understand how to become a man. But something else happens too; the woman (a mother or any other female) also begins to treat the boy of this age (psychologically) as she would any man. She will start to place on the boy some of the same demands she makes of his father: that he too must help in the effort to ameliorate her existential anxieties, her neuroses and emotional hunger (i.e., to 'love' her). The boy is not equipped to do this and is confused. In a natural (old) society, this didn't matter much because the boy would be away from women much of the time, with his father and the other men, hunting and fishing, or otherwise being initiated into manhood. In modern civilisations though this is not possible. The father now works in an office or factory and the boy goes to school where he is taught - by more women. Without a man around to steer him right, the boy soon becomes lost in a female world - a place that nature never meant him to be. In such an unnatural environment, he soon learns to adopt the female behaviour patterns that surround him. He will learn to use his own neuroses and anxieties just like the women do, as both a petition and a begging bowl.

-What Men Know That Women Don't- is mostly an entertaining read and generally far from gloomy. The tone of the book throughout is something like sharing stories about women over a beer with your (male) friends. Zubaty's main theme is that the feminised man must unlearn his behaviour in order to lead a more spiritual and fruitful existence. I'm not entirely sure that I agree this is possible now for the majority of men, who are simply too 'nice' - and our traditions are dead anyway. The irony here is that Zubaty (in common with most other writers on this subject), by identifying women as the cause of the problem is then forced to conclude falsely that women must hold some key to a possible solution. In making this error, Zubaty can only return to the question of 'love' to look for his answer - an answer he never finds and never will find. But this should not deter the reader from enjoying this book. Much of the writing here illuminates the condition of modern men very well and is genuinely thought provoking; a few conclusions (regarding the origins of female memes) are based on a rather questionable exegesis, and in certain places I don't think Zubaty goes far enough. At times the author appears to believe (this is not made clear in the book) that a woman's behaviour is wilful, and therefore she may consciously agree to compromise with men in her relationships. This is impossible. I sense Zubaty may still have some particle of sympathy left for women - a terrible blunder by any man. We did not make women the creatures they are and there is no objective reason why we should consider it our place or our duty to save ('love') them, no matter how big the consensus of women and feminists is that demands it.

Five Stars. All in all, well worth looking up-wokinghamtrader.

Zubaty is a guy with guts and the willingness to put his truth out there, even if you violently disagree or think he's crazy. Ten pages into the book I was convinced he was crazy. Fifty pages into the book I was reconsidering, thinking he might have some really good points. One hundred pages into the book I decided that he was expressing a fundamental, critically-important truth about manhood in America that nobody had previously articulated before (at least to my knowledge). Zubaty compellingly describes how men have been indoctrinated, controlled, and exploited to serve women, children, and society. He goes way beyond previous men's movement books which simply point out inequities such as how only men must go to war and die for their country. He explores the hows and whys of what it means to be a man today. Specifically, he brilliantly describes how men are systematically and deliberately subjugated and enslaved by "female memes." Female memes, as he describes them, are thought patterns, beliefs, images, myths, ideas, and the like which cause men to give up their rights, which cause men to accept less than their rightful due, and which cause men to unnecessarily sacrifice themselves for others. This book will shake the very foundation of what the reader thinks it means to be a man. If you are a man, buy this book so you can set yourself free. If you are a woman, buy this book so you can truly understand how difficult it is to be a man in today's American society; after you read the book, your man will never know how to thank you enough for understanding him so well.

After reading all that unbridled vitriol by Dawn Marie Martin-Ali, I just HAD to order this book! I just received it, browsed through it, read a little, and am glad I bought it. $24.00 may be a bit high for a paperback, but it's over 500 pages long. How many of you believe that a woman that incensed by a book would have read anywhere near the 500 pages of that book? She says she laughed at how blind and egotistical the book is. After reading her post, is there anyone here who believes that this woman has ever laughed at anything in her life?

The author, Rich Zubaty, has a lot to say about men and women and how this country is going downhill due to its unchecked feminization. He's not whining, he's ranting... and telling it like it is. If you're interested in politically correct, this is not the book for you. If you're wondering why it seems like men are running things in this world but it increasingly feels like women are, at the expense of us men, then this book is for you.

I apologize for wasting your time a bit since I haven't yet read the book in full, but I just had to add my two-cents as a response to Dawn Marie's extended scream. What can you expect from a modern woman sporting a hyphenated last name?

By the way, it seems to me that everything that's wrong with this world has to be women's fault since they comprise 51% of the population. Wherever men are in charge, it's women over men who voted for or enabled them to be there and you can bet these men in charge are those who support (kiss up to) women over men in most cases. Why? Women have more votes! After all, how else could a majority group be classified as and garner special rights ostensibly reserved for minorities?

What a racket!