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What Matters Most when NO is better than YES [Hardcover]

Doug Fields (Author)
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October 20, 2006
This small book will call to you on days that the janitor reads you the riot act, the church secretary jumps down your throat and those home school parents just won't leave you alone. In this book, Doug Fields shares the wisdom that has helped him survive over 25 years in ministry: Just say No. That two letter word (that often feels like a four letter word to some people!) has the power to help you stay in ministry for the long haul and keep your family intact and thriving. From the book: Jesus said 'no' to good things... 'no' to significant things... 'no' to important people. He was 100%God/100% human and he had limits. He needed solitude. He needed time to reflect and pray and nourish his spiritual life and time away from those bonehead disciples. He needed space. And, Jesus had a lot to do. You try being the Savior of the world! He had a short window to accomplish his life mission and yet he seemed to prioritize and live so different than we do. To say 'no' in ministry is to be radical...to be radical is to be counter-cultural...to be counter-cultural is to be like Jesus...to be like Jesus should become our goal.


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About the Author

Founder of Simply Youth Ministry, Doug Fields has been in youth ministry since 1979 and is currently on staff at Saddleback Church in Southern California. He's the director of Purpose Driven Youth Ministry, and the author and co-author of more than 50 books, including the bestsellers Speaking to Teenagers and Your First Two Years in Youth Ministry. SPANISH BIO: Doug Fields es el pastor de ensenanza de la Iglesia Saddleback, una iglesia de 25,000 miembros. Como pastor de jovenes por mas de veinticinco anos, Doug realiza su actual funcion desde 1992. Ha sido autor y coauthor de mas de cincuenta libros, incluyendo el renombrado ganador de premios, Ministerio de jovenes con proposito, y su ultima obra Recargado. el y su esposa Cathy tienen tres hijos y residen en el sur de California.

Product Details

  • Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  • Hardcover: 96 pages
  • Publisher: Zondervan/Youth Specialties (October 20, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0310273277
  • ISBN-13: 978-0310273271
  • Product Dimensions: 7.3 x 5 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #197,964 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Doug Fields graduated from Southern California College in 1984 (now Vanguard), and received his MDiv from Fuller Theological Seminary in 1986. Doug has served as a youth pastor for 25 years, and has been teaching pastor at Saddleback Church since 1992. Doug has been a global youth ministry leader through his books, speaking and youth ministry resources. He is the award-winning author of more than 40 books, many of which serve as curriculum in Seminaries and Bible Colleges. Besides speaking regularly to teenagers and the congregation of Saddleback Church, Doug can also be found speaking to youth workers around the world. Doug would say his greatest accomplishment is marrying way out of his league to his wife Cathy of 23 years. They have three teenage children: Torie, Cody, and Cassie.

 

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5.0 out of 5 stars You can't afford not to, February 2, 2007
This review is from: What Matters Most when NO is better than YES (Hardcover)
Doug Fields has written a short, to-the-point, practical yet reflective book on why learning to say, "No", and then practicing saying it, is essential to staying healthy in a ministry leadership position. Although Fields is a youth minister and writes with youth ministers as his primary audience, this book applies to anyone in ministry--paid or unpaid, full-time, part-time, or volunteer.

Early on he writes, "I want to challenge you to say no more often so you can say yes to what matters most" (18). He develops this idea throughout the rest of the book. For those who may be in too deep and not know how to recognize it, Fields points out some warning signs that can help you discern if you're addicted to busyness, or if you're putting doing ministry above loving God (for example, consistently counting the time you spend preparing a talk or small group lesson as your own personal devotional time) . Having pointed out some signs, he also talks about practical action steps you can take to bring things back under control.

Jesus said, "Apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5). The temptation is always there for the minister to do more, be more, accomplish more, and say "yes" more. Yet as you do this, you risk damaging your first love: your relationship with Christ. Fields's short book is a call back to that first love with a clear escape route from any busyness, overworking, or people-pleasing that may have entrapped you.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Say Yes To This Book, February 1, 2010
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In What Matters Most, Doug Fields says, "You need to learn to say no to many good things and wonderful people so you'll have space to say yes to God, yes to the important people in your life [like your family and friends:], yes to priorities - yes to what matters most" (p. 21).

What does matter most to you?
I think that's why I like Fields' book so much. He doesn't presume to know what your top priorities are, because they are different for everyone. Fields offers helpful questions and thoughts to get to the heart of what matters to you. Once that's clarified, Fields offers practical ideas for making certain those things are not pushed out of your life by other people or tasks.

*note: In my opinion, the book which unpacks out this topic a little more fully is Choosing to Cheat by Andy Stanley.
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3.0 out of 5 stars He has said it all before, November 7, 2008
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Doug Fields is alway great but this is already covered in his other books. It is good material and a neat little booklet but costly for its size. Could have been a booklet sold for a couple bucks.
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