What Men Really Want (Signet) [Paperback]

Herb Goldberg (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Signet (June 4, 1991)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0451169727
• ISBN-13: 978-0451169723
• Product Dimensions: 6.7 x 4.1 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 3.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,117,697 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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74 of 75 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A must for any woman with a man in her life, August 26, 2000

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This review is from: What Men Really Want (Signet) (Paperback)

Despite the provocative title this is not a manual on sexual preferences and/or techniques. It's a very well written guide to the realities and fallacies of relationships between men and women. More than anything it is a helpful digest of men's perspectives on life and relationships, of their experiences of socialization as children, and of the pressures to which they are subjected as adults, all of which impact their interactions with the significant women in their lives. Unlike Gray's Men are from Mars..., which often times loses one through "cute" sometimes patronizing and repetitious style (although a helpful book also), Dr. Goldberg describes more succinctly and clearly what men can realistically deliver emotionally in relationships. He also demonstrates how women's sometimes unrealistic and romantic expectations can frustrate men and increase their anxiety level at unpropitious times, and how the different life views and communication styles of the two genders can place even loving couples at odds with one another. Although I sometimes found myself a little on the defensive when reading the book, I also found that when I looked at things more from the male perspective--to the degree that I as a woman am able to do so--much that had occured in my failed attempts to relate to men in the past became clearer, and I could see what part I myself had played in the demise of those relationships. A useful book, and one I would suggest to anyone--man or woman--contemplating marriage or a commited relationship of any kind.

40 of 41 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Essential reading for all females involved with males., November 16, 1999

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This review is from: What Men Really Want (Signet) (Paperback)

This book is scary. It tells women things we don't want to know. It could almost make you not want to love men any more, once you know what they really think and what they'd really be happy with. However, if you want to improve your relationship and communication with a man, especially an ambitious man....this is the book you have to read. I am a 48 year old woman, and I learned alot of hard truths by reading this little paperback. I am changing my own behavior drastically based on what it has to say, and I am seeing big positive results in my 15 year long relationship. Moreover, I'm totally shocked by how immediately my partner changes in response to my "new behavior"! I'd like to give a huge "Thank you, Sir!" to Herb Goldberg, for having the nerve to write this book!

31 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Buy a spare copy for a friend, August 19, 2000

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This review is from: What Men Really Want (Signet) (Paperback)

I bought this book because I was on the point of losing a man I was very much interested in keeping around. It made me realize right away several things I was doing to push him away and I was able to turn the relationship around. This is a general book about what men want and not only useful in dealing with romantic relationships but also gives women a better understanding of men in general. It helped me at work with men I work with, and I passed my old copy (which I had read several times) on to a girlfriend. I miss being able to refer to it, so I am back online buying another copy. Goldberg's style is a little more intellectual (but not lofty) than John Gray and so if you find Gray a little "flowery" this might be a better reference for you.