10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
THIS BOOK IS A REAL EYEOPENER!!!, March 25, 1999
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This review is from: What Men Really Want: Straight Talk from Men about Sex (Mass Market Paperback)
I found this book so enlightening. Even though much of the book relates to the single man, and my husband and I are married 16 yrs., I finished the book with a greater understanding and appreciation of just how differently men and women process and respond to sex and relationships. The author has a straighforward approach, and includes many insightful quotes from men in different sitiuations. This book is a definite MUST READ!!!
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
An authors brave attempt to make all women celibate or lesbians!, February 8, 2010
This review is from: What Men Really Want: Straight Talk from Men about Sex (Mass Market Paperback)
I love reading relationships and sex books. Some are great, some are poorly written. But this one falls into the category of so poorly put together that it makes men one dimensional. The examples in this book make men seem like nothing more than animals who are completely at the whim of their libido. While that stereotype persists, anyone who has met a good man knows that is far from the truth. The problem with this book is the examples of men aren't good men. The examples are meant to shock and sometimes repulse you on men's sexual longings. Words like "marriage" or "husband" are almost always quickly followed by a story of them cheating.
The biggest problem with the book is that one side in a issue is picked out and developed in detail leaving you to believe that all men think this way. Men with questionable motives in their sexual choices are pushed over and over again as the norm.
In the chapter on men separating love from sex, we are left to believe that men always do this, thus they have no problem cheating and apparently can't allow sex and love to ever enter their minds together since that issue isn't touched in this book.
According to the author, men who rely on romance as the route to sexually pleasing you are the ones who are sleeping with prostitutes behind your back! Oh yes, the several pages dedicated to a "romantic" man focuses solely on these men marrying angels and sleeping with whores. Apparently every single one does it cause the men in this category that don't do it aren't discussed. Just their weaker willed brothers.
If a man is jealous, apparently this is a sign of possession and controlling behavior in a man. What is more normal for a man? Him begin completely OK with other men wanting you. It turns him on. In fact an actual statistic is giving insist that most men have no problem with you sleeping with other men. And this point is so flushed out, she gives examples of men who want their wives to sleep with other men so they can hear about every detail later! And like most of the questionable behavior, this is asserted as more the norm. While a man being jealous of the wife he loves doesn't seem to be normal.
I'm sure all men would love to have their woman accept their secret sexual world but unfortunately this book doesn't help. Rather than open up a woman's mind to that world, it makes it look perverted and a place she doesn't want to be. It even makes it seem like a place he doesn't want her to be in cause he is so busy thinking about everything sexual but her.
One of the better books I've read about a man's secret sexual world is "Men in Love" a collection of men's sexual fantasies. Some are beautiful, some will make you cringe. But if you can tolerate the blunt and vivid nature of the book, you will see a boarder picture of men. Some who dream of affairs, some who dream of their wives. Some who dream of things I didn't even think of. Some who dream of things I never wanted to think of. But it gives you a much bigger picture and makes you realize that even if a man's sexual world isn't something you completely understand, it is very dear to him and is deeply a part of him. And therefore, worth trying to understand a little better.
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1 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
informative, but disappointing in a way, June 3, 2005
This review is from: What Men Really Want: Straight Talk from Men about Sex (Mass Market Paperback)
I found this book very informative as to how guys look at sex, but I also found a component of misogony and "you can't change them so you might as well live with it". I found some chapters were really good like the one on porn and fantasies yet others not so much like the sexual players.
From the back cover:"Ms. Bakos shows women how to accept these differences, instead of trying to force male sexuality to fit female expectations." What about the opposite? Isn't this book forcing women to be something they're not?
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