What Do You Really Want for Your Children? [Paperback]

Wayne W. Dyer (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 21, 2001

If you have children, then you have dreams for them. You want to see them growing up happy, healthy, self-reliant, and confident in themselves and their abilities. But if you're a typical parent, you've wondered if you'll be able to give them all this. There's good news: you can.

Wayne W. Dyer shares the wisdom and guidance that have already helped millions of readers take charge of their lives -- showing how to make all your hopes for your children come true.

You will learn:

• the seven simple secrets for building your child's self-esteem every day.

• how to give very young children all the love they need -- without spoiling them.

• how to encourage risk-taking -- without fear of failure.

• action strategies for dealing with your own anger -- and your child's.

• the right way (and the wrong way) to improve your child's behavior.

• the secrets of raising kids relatively free of illness.

• techniques that encourage children to enjoy life.

It's all here -- straightforward, commonsense advice that no parent can afford to do without.

Editorial Reviews

From Library Journal

Well-known pop psychologist Dyer ( Your Erroneous Zones ) coaches parents in raising ``no-limit'' (emotionally healthy) children. In an admittedly repetitious but highly readable style, he covers topics like risk-taking, living in the present, self-reliance, and creativity. Each chapter includes strategies, negative child/parent behaviors, and the support systems (``payoffs'') for maintaining desirable behaviors. Dyer's message (directed at kids, but meant for everyone) is sometimes philosophical, often opinionated, and definitely motivational. The catch is that neurotic parents (the majority, according to the author) must first become good role models. Nevertheless, the book has much to offer, especially about reinforcing attitudes of physical ``wellness.'' First serial rights to Ladies Home Journal . Janice Arenofsky, formerly with Arizona State Lib., Phoenix
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"Centers on providing children with good examples of how to grow up sane, self-reliant. physically and emotionally healthy" -- -- publishers weekly --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 480 pages
• Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks; 1ST edition (August 21, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0380730472
• ISBN-13: 978-0380730476
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.4 x 1.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #141,613 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Wayne W. Dyer, Ph.D., is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He's the author of 30 books, has created many audio programs and videos, and has appeared on thousands of television and radio shows.

His books Manifest Your Destiny, Wisdom of the Ages, There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem, and the New York Times bestsellers 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace, The Power of Intention, and Inspiration and now Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life have all been featured as National Public Television specials.

Dyer holds a doctorate in educational counseling from Wayne State University and was an associate professor at St. John's University in New York.

Dr. Wayne Dyer is affectionately called the "father of motivation" by his fans. Despite his childhood spent in orphanages and foster homes, Dr. Dyer has overcome many obstacles to make his dreams come true. Today he spends much of his time showing others how to do the same.

When he's not traveling the globe delivering his uplifting message, Wayne is writing from his home in Maui.

Customer Reviews

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53 of 55 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book is not just about parenting, September 12, 2001

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valhowells (Elgin, IL USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What Do You Really Want for Your Children? (Paperback)

I think this book is really about what we want for OURSELVES. All parents want the BEST for their kids but they rarely apply it to themselves. This book teaches you how to model the most healthy, sane and life-affirming behavior and attitudes so your children will learn these attitudes. The only way to effectively model this behavior is to actually become this kind of person ourselves. It requires an open mind toward one's own behavior, thoughts and beliefs. Here are the chapter headings:
"I want my children to value themselves
I want my children to be risk-takers
I want my children to be self-reliant
I want my children to be free from stress and anxiety
I want my children to have peaceful lives
I want my children to celebrate their present moments
I want my children to experience a lifetime of wellness
I want my children to be creative
I want my children to fulfill their higher needs and to feel a sense of purpose"
Don't you want to live this way too? I know I do.

28 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A great book for every serious parent, February 1, 2005

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W. Hu - See all my reviews
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This review is from: What Do You Really Want for Your Children? (Paperback)

All parents start with grand expectations for their children. However, many parents are not specifically clear what characters they really want their children to have. Not knowing where to go and how to get there, it results in frustration, friction, conflict, mistrust, ... between the generations. Dr. Dyer's book is an invaluable guide for all serious parents to set the correct goal, make the goal approachable, and make every day of the parent-child relationship a deep enjoyment.

This book is not an easy book. As other readers have pointed out, this book is not just about raising kids, but also (perhaps more importantly) about changing the parents themselves. As I read through some of the paragraphs, I often felt my regret for things that I should have not done to my kids (I hope I can be better next time...).

Not only did the author set the goals that were founded on sound human development theory (mostly Maslow), but he also gave numerous detailed daily advices that are well organized around these goals. Examples include as simple of an advice as "Do not create monsters in the minds of young children to temporarily quiet them" to the more thoughtful "Try making your adolescent right rather than arguing with them any longer." Another observation worthing everybody's thought is "If you use guilt on children on a regular basis, it will not be long before they start using it on you."

I also enjoy the many profound sayings that the author quoted. One is "A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary." The other is "The greatest evil that can befall man is that he should come to think ill of himself."

22 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars EVERYONE should read this book...not just parents!, November 15, 2001

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Shannon C. Miller (Plattsburgh, NY USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What Do You Really Want for Your Children? (Paperback)

If you are looking at this review and care about your children or even about yourself, BUY THIS BOOK! I was at a low point in my life, wondering which direction to take and starting to lose sight of who I am. While browsing through parenting books, I found this amazing book and have been highlighting left and right. I discuss it with everyone I can and have found it to be immensely helpful in re-directing my own way of thinking. Postive thoughts surround me, I no longer feel pity on myself, I take action!I am happy to say that although it will make a difference in how I parent my daughter, it already has changed me and how I think. I realize now that I should not allow situations to control me, and this book is wonderfully adept at helping with this. If you have unbridled anger or frustration...this book is for you. Share this book with everyone you know, it will only affect them postively. Although there were some issues which I do not agree with personally, I did understand and respect all of Dr. Dyer's thoughts. It is a powerful and enriching book, which will enhance your life and that of those around you. We need more like this in such trying times.