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  • Paperback: 255 pages
  • Publisher: Perigee Trade; English Language edition (September 1, 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0399526285
  • ISBN-13: 978-0399526282
  • Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.1 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,527,433 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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What would you do if your boss said, "Sleep with me and you'll get a raise"? If a friend asked your opinion about a hideous new dress? Or the age-old quandary: "Should I tell my spouse about my affair?" Carefully and methodically, author Bruce Weinstein lays out all the considerations and courses of action when handling troubling situations such as these. Like a levelheaded grandfather who holds readers' hands and walks them through life's toughest dilemmas, Weinstein helps readers look inward with a clearer lens so that answers come from the person's core rather than in reaction to someone else's opinion.

The chapters are organized according to the different arenas in which problems occur, with headings such as "Making Better Decisions at Work," "Making Better Decisions in Marriage and Long-Term Relationships," and "Making Better Decisions at the End of Life." Within these chapters, Weinstein lays out anecdotal quandaries, then presents the "facts." Take Tim, who doesn't want to tell his wife, Rebecca, about the affair he had for fear of losing her but is also not sure he wants to stay married. Weinstein lists the values that are at stake (Tim hates lying but he also hates hurting his wife), and then he lists the options and evaluates the possible outcomes: tell her, hold the secret, get counseling about marital ambivalence, etc. Readers will breathe a sigh of relief when they find their dilemmas explored in these personal stories and then see the options laid out in an organized and sensible fashion. Amazingly, the answer to "What should I do?" becomes clearer (and it will differ from reader to reader) when all the courses of action are examined in this supportive and nonjudgmental fashion. --Gail Hudson

About the Author

Bruce Weinstein, Ph.D., has edited three books and published over 20 articles on ethical issues in the Journal of the American Medical Association and other publications. He earned his doctorate in philosophy and bioethics from Georgetown University.

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Dr. Bruce Weinstein, The Ethics Guy, believes that the key to success in business is having not just emotional intelligence, but ethical intelligence, too. He shows how to improve your ethics IQ and leadership skills, which will strengthen the relationships you have with colleagues, clients, family, friends, and folks in the community.

He is a contributor to Bloomberg Businessweek's Management Blog. His latest book, "Ethical Intelligence: Five Principles for Untangling Your Toughest Problems at Work and Beyond," was a Silver Winner from ForeWord Magazine's Book of the Year Awards.

An in-demand speaker, Dr. Weinstein's clients have included the National Football League, Northrop Grumman, the Investment Management Consultants Association, the National Business Aviation Association, the American Association of Collegiate Registrars and Admissions Officers, the colleges of business of Eastern Michigan University and the University of North Dakota, and over three hundred other leading groups.

You have seen Dr. Weinstein on a wide range of CNN programs, NBC's Today Show, ABC's Good Morning America, Fox News Channel's O'Reilly Factor and Fox and Friends, Fox Business Network's Cavuto, MSNBC Live, and CNBC's Fast Money.

His work was recently featured in the Sunday New York Times, and his ethics quiz will appear in the October issue of American Airlines' in-flight magazine serving Latin America, Spain and Portugal.

He received a bachelor's degree in philosophy from Swarthmore College, a PhD in philosophy and bioethics from Georgetown University, and a National Fellowship in Leadership Development from the W. K. Kellogg Foundation in Battle Creek, Michigan. He lives in New York with his wife, Kristen Bancroft.


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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on September 23, 2000
Format: Paperback
Bruce Weinstein's book is an invaluable source of wisdom in an age of moral confusion and rampant relativism. With wit and grace he takes the reader through dozens of real-life scenarios in which serious questions arise -- Should I tell my spouse about my affair? How do I deal with a co-worker who tells racist jokes? What do I do when my child befriends someone I don't approve of? In each case, Weinstein offers a 4-step process that makes the reader aware of the values at stake and helps them make the best possible decision. I highly reccomend this book to anyone concerned about doing the right thing when faced with the many ethical and moral dilemmas of everyday life.
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on October 8, 2000
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I have to admit I was skeptical when I picked this book up. I've never been much for these "self-help" books. However, "What Should I Do?" truly delivers. It provides a simple framework for making everyday decisions that often bog us down. In a society that has us all constantly on the move, the efficiency of this approach, if nothing else, is certainly helpful. However, what I like most is that it helps you get to the right choice for you. Rather than tell you what the right answer is (and don't we all get enough of that), "What Should I Do?" gives you a way to identify the relevant values and evaluate options.
Unlike many other books, this one also provides you with meaningful hypotheticals that show you how to apply Dr. Weinstein's suggestions to real problems in your life. For example, in chapter 5 there's a discussion of long-term relationships and that age-old problem of who does what (or who doesn't do what) around the house. By examining the options in much the same way Dr. Weinstein does in the book, my wife and I were able to reach a decision that made sense for both of us (although the solution remains a work in progress!).
Finally, as a skeptic I tend to look at the credentials of the author. There are so many hucksters on this circuit, you can't be too careful. I was pleased to see that Dr. Weinstein went to Swarthmore, has a Ph.D. from Georgetown, has edited three other books and has published over twenty articles on ethics in the Journal of the American Medical Association.
Sage advice from a reliable source. This book is a gem.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By liz weinstein on November 10, 2000
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I really enjoyed reading this wonderful book. It was easy to read and understand, and had great and practical solutions to some of life's most difficult ethical issues. I would recommend this book to anyone of any age !
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Deborah Albritton on October 31, 2000
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Read this book, follow these 4 steps, and you too can attain the answer to "What Should I do?" It will help you build stronger relationships and communicate more clearly. It is an enormously useful 4-step process for addressing questions at home as well as at the office. Some books are not for everyone, but this one truly is. --Deborah Albritton
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on August 26, 2001
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This book was excellent! What makes it stand out from the crowd is that it offers succinct choices for each situation Weinstein includes, then it carefully and completely provides insight as to the implications of each decision. Weinstein's understanding of ethics in everyday life is aptly demonstrated in the situations he's outlined. Possibly one of the book's greatest strengths is the author's talent at taking situations in which any of us might find ourselves, applying a simple technique to help us determine the most ethical decision, and offering it in easy-to-read verbiage that deftly illuminates the crux of the situation as well as potential conflicts and implications. While Weinstein offers a thorough explanation for the ethical choice he's identified in each situation, I finished the book with an understanding that we have been left to determine for ourselves which path to take, well-equipped with options and insights that will translate easily into aspects of other situations we face every day. Weinstein's knowledge of his subject, careful research and easy-to-read style of writing make this book a delight to read!
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on October 10, 2000
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Mr. Weinstein writes in a very pragmatic style. The issues he raises are important and the examples he uses are realistic. He provides advice in making sound, ethical decisions. His steps for resolving ethical conflicts are easily applied,
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By A Customer on October 11, 2000
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"What Should I Do?" really helped me a lot. I find myself asking this question many times a day, but until now I felt confused as I struggled for an answer. Dr. Weinstein presents a simple 4-step method for answering "What should I do?" in a variety of social contexts: at work, with friends, in the community--even on a date! My wife and I ended up talking about several of the scenarios presented in the chapter called "Making better decisions in a marriage or long-term relationship."
We also saw Dr. Weinstein on the Montel Williams Show and thought that he did a great job in making the issues in this book come alive. I hope he'll write another book like this one; it's an easy read, and I'll tell a lot of my friends and co-workers about it. Five stars!
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