Ms. Rich makes some very valid points in this book. You aren't like everybody else so don't behave that way. I do understand why some feel it isn't realistic. Dating has changed dramatically in recent years. I am so tired of dating. However, I would rather have a man that really has taken the effort to get to know me, if he has invested the time, then he will be more committed to pursuing a relationship. To quickly, we ladies let the guy think he can have our devotion as long as he calls once in a while. Is this really a basis for a relationship? Why do people get divorced in a year or two? Wouldn't you rather wait for Mr. Right than Mr. Right Now? One thing I really liked is her point of the importance of words, she says Southern women uses the words Darling, Honey, Sweetheart for everyone, it is a truism as we know that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Another point she makes is don't be bold, make sure the man you like knows how to reach you - not by giving him your phone number but by talking about mutual friends or where you work. If he is interested, he will find you. It is all about the chase. Men like to be the pursuers. Those who don't want to pursue are probably lazy or have so many women begging to be his date that he might even enjoy someone who isn't falling all over him.
Likewise, no physical contact on the first few dates! I know, most men will not call back but do you want a guy who dates 4 or 5 women a week and is looking for a quickie? How many diseases might he have? You don't have to be someone you aren't as one reviewer here suggested; it is about respecting yourself - if you do, then others will too. It is about being being interested and friendly but not overtly pursuing him.
Most men will admit it is fun to get a woman in bed the first date but honestly, what will make him stay? Is he around you because you and he share a lot of interests or because you are a ten minute release? Wise up ladies, find a keeper by rethinking how you come across to others.
I recieved this book from my mother who thought it was a wonderful guide and a good review for a southern girl. I was hooked on it and I knew that from my life experiences in the south (Louisiana) that everything in it is true. I think it is one of the funniest most uplifting books out there and I have to say that when I had a situation arise that was over my head I turned to the book for some help. Ms. Rich is lovely, she responded to my email and gave me wonderful advice. I felt very blessed that she would bother to reply to a stranger who was just having the worst day of her life and just wanted someone to tell her what the best action was. Everything about this book and the others she has written are truly delightful and I recomend them to women to really teach you to get what you want, and to guys to help yall understand us a little more.
women said they could bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan - but who would WANT TO? too often, this is the anti-male/ we can manage ourselves - but most of the girls and women i have known wanted a strong, committed love and partnership and single moms aren't managing so well, especially not with boys who need a male figure and male energy and activities to guide them to becoming men - so they have options on how to choose to live their lives -
i love this book - it has been put down a lot - often by women who didn't find A Great Guy to be mad for - and who enjoyed being a strong protector to her -
the lost art of femininity can be reclaimed - that's a choice too. to be crazy about each other -
I read this book several years ago when I was struggling to figure out the "dating game" and have used the principles in many more arenas than just attracting a mate. When I was dating my now husband he asked if I'm Southern? I'm from the West and so I laughed and replied, "No, but I read a great book on how to be Southern!" It was one of the best compliments I've ever received. If you want to learn the secrets of Southern women getting what they want in this world, I highly recommend this book.
Rhonda Rich is brilliant! I have given this book to all of my girlfriends. I also gave it to my daughter who said it changed the way she looked at everything regarding interactions with people. It is really not so much about flirting as it is about how people making Each other feel good will in turn create amazing returns. There is one part in the book I did not like. It was the part where she manipulates a contractor For a better price. Other than that everything else in the book was fabulous