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What Southern Women Know About Flirting: The Fine Art of Social, Courtship, and Seductive Flirting to Get the Best Things in Life

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The title caught my attention, and after glancing at this book I picked it up. Southern women have always been known for their hospitality and their way to get things done in life. Working with a lovely southern coworker who could literally sell ice to the devil I picked up this book.
What I liked about this book is that flirting isn't just romantic, but she also categorizes as social. You may flirt with someone socially, but not have an intimate relationship with them. You might also think of this book as how to schmooze. She is careful to demonstrate ways of being extra polite, and lightening someone's day. Flirting, in her terms is playful, fun, and both parties enjoy the exchange.
She discusses how she has gotten out of tickets, exchanged phone numbers, and has thanked people in variety of ways, with both people walking away feeling very happy. So, this book covers more than flirting with a romanitc partner, but also how to get along wonderfully with everyone you meet in life, and who of us couldn't use a little more of that?

My parents are Southerners but I was born in Detroit, so I missed out on the social flirting and courtship flirting part of my "Southern education". I gleaned what I could from my mother and grandmother, but since my parents divorced when I was young, I didn't often see the many ways to flirt. I took it upon myself to learn, but the only thing I noticed was seductive flirting. After reading "What Southern Women Know Flirting" I learned which flirting technique to use in what situation (social, courtship, and seductive). I don't feel bad about it because I know what is and what is not appropriate, which is really important for a girl who's about to enter the workplace.

For the GOOD STUFF: I've gotten more than a few dates using Ms. Rich's courtship techniques and of course, I call them honey, sugar (sugah), baby...they love it. I love it too! Men love to be men and treat ladies like ladies, so let them. My Grandmother laughs at me now because she never thought she'd live to see the day I'd call a man "sugah."

I read about this book in the newspaper and thought I'd give it a shot since I'm a 32-year-old single career woman. Wow! I got much more than I bargained for. This book gives plenty of good advice on achieving success in life in all areas -- personal, professional and social. It is divided into three sections: Social Flirting, Courtship Flirting, Seductive Flirting. In social flirting, Ronda Rich talks about the courtesy and friendliness that draws people to you and makes them want to associate with you. Quite simply, social flirting, she says, is the art of making others feel good about themselves so that they feel good about you. Hmmm. Simple concept but so true. The book was well worth the money just for the tips it gave in that section.
Then, the book becomes a progressive guide for flirting. In Courtship Flirting, Ronda stresses that moving quickly into an intimate will sabotage long-term success because men are born hunters and lose interest if they capture the game easily. Makes a lot of sense to me.
Of course, the section of Seductive Flirting doesn't need alot of explanation but she makes a major point in this section that may rattle traditional feminists: Baby your man and he'll baby you. But, not at the cost of losing your power in the relationship which she cleverly explains in the chapter titled Rule The Roost But Pamper The Rooster.
I enthusiastically endorse this book from the first page to the last. Perfect for single women and those who want to climb the ladder of success and those who want to be the best wives possible. Every woman can benefit from the advice in this book.
Don't miss this jewel!!!

This is a lovely book written in such a charming manner! By putting into practice what is suggested by this book, everyone wins. Ronda Rich's writing style is very easy. I recommend this to every female, because since I have read two of her books, I notice a change not only in myself, but in those around me. I also have noticed that I get a lot of perks and extras.

In college I had a friend from Louisiana who was warm and lovely and adored by everyone who met her. Erin was the motivation behind my study of the subject of southern womanhood.

There's some good information in here, basically boiling down to learning to be "really nice," a quality that our modern society could use a lot more of. There is MUCH emphasis on femininity-- big hair, manicured nails, dressing in bright colors with matching lingerie and high heels, smelling feminine (slathering on the lotion, powder, and perfume, in that order), etc., etc. ...those requirements that can put quite a strain on low-maintenance outdoor country gals like me. *Laugh*

If you happen to be the kind of gal I am, do breathe a sigh of relief. Not every man seeks a "girly girl," as this author would have you believe. I'm certain many men would pass up a "tom girl" like me. Yet my husband declared that part of his attraction to me was how "outdoorsy" I am, clearly preferring me in jeans with a fresh, natural, makeup-free face. He wasn't seeking a trophy wife, but rather a mate who would be his companion and buddy. And he can't stand artificial fragrances on any woman, declaring they reek like horse fly repellent. So what men like in women varies a lot from guy to guy. My theory: Don't be a phony. If you're a makeup-and-heels girl, then by all means, embrace it! But if you're not, don't sell yourself as that.

One aspect of Miss Rich's book that I find annoying is her "me, me, me" attitude. Learning some aspects of southern charm in order to be a more pleasant person has merit. But flirting to manipulate men to give you what you want is shameful. Like me, you've probably encountered women who are big flirters, but the phoniness and flakiness of their behavior is all-too transparent. I don't believe that's the kind of woman we aspire to be! So in practicing these skills, I'm working to keep the focus of my intentions toward others honest and sincere.

Another annoying flaw of this book is the frequent misuse of punctuation, repeated words in sentences, and sentences missing a word altogether. An editor out there deserves to be fired for such glaring editing sloppiness. The book, however, is a recommended read. Take what you like and leave the rest.

After reading the first "What Southern Women Know," I had to pick up this book! The fine art of flirting seems to have been lost in today's society..but applying the principles Ronda writes about can bring it back for sure! I wish every single woman would read this book. There are so many single women these days who dive headfirst into a relationship, much too fast and with all our hearts. Ronda teaches us that the fire needs to start and build slowly..the rewards are well worth it. However, this book is not just about enhancing your love life..these principles apply in all areas of your life!

As always, well done, Ronda! I highly recommend this book for all women!

My mama always said, "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar," and it's true. I've been making a conscious effort to do the things Ronda Rich talks about (smiling, saying thank you, being friendly) for the past year or so, and it works! I get much better customer service (and discounts and refunds) when I am pleasant and chatty and smile and say please and thank you.

I haven't gotten to the romance chapters yet -- and I may skip them because they look a bit too 1950s to my feminist eyes -- but the larger point of this book is how to successfully interact with people by being engaging and charming and kind. I know I'm much more likely to help people who call my office with problems if they are polite than if they rant and rave and swear.

To the reviewer who found the book overwhelmingly insulting, I see your point, but I'd say just try the smiling part and see how much difference that gesture alone will make in your interactions with other people. Asking nicely and being persistent in both your requests and your politeness usually works better than shouting demands. And most of us naturally gravitate toward pleasant people. It's simply a strategy.

Ronda Rich may well bring back full force the feminine art of flirtation with this wonderful, wise book. It is entertaining as well as informative.
In the section called Courtship Flirting, she stresses that fires that are started slowly burn longer and hotter. Truer words have never been spoken. Yet, in today's society, too many young women run straight into a serious relationship, which immediately scares the guys away. Ms. Rich writes that men are born hunters so if they bag (or bed) their prey too early, then the thrill of the chase is gone. How true.
If you're already a terrific flirt, you'll enjoy this book as reaffirmation. But if you're not a great flirt, then rush to buy this book. You won't be disappointed.

Fun book about a unique topic! Who could imagine a book written about flirting?! I love Author Ronda Rich's comment, "In business, flirting is as important as a good calculator and dictionary." My favorite page had to be Page #207, entitled, "What Guys Know About Savvy Flirting Girls"...YEP! Thanks for a light-hearted, classy book! Author Ronda Rich gives the readers excellent examples of how to put this flirtation into motion. All I can say is in romance, business and everyday life....look out people! You aren't going to know what just hit you!

I am almost done with the book, and I've laughed at several idiosyncrasies that are so typical! It'll be the first time in awhile that I've actually finished a whole book! It's too bad our generation has swayed away from what she talks about; little did I know, I was already doing some of the things that are suggested, and already got out of a late fee on a credit card statement! It really goes back to the way things "were" - and frankly how they should still be! Rhonda does a great job illustrating that.