What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships and Love is one of the books I wish I had read in high school, before dating, and certainly before marrying. This book subtly planted seeds in my mind that took root and grew like zucchini in the hot summer. I saw my first marriage in here, and my husband's first marriage, and my best friend's niece. . .as the days have gone on since I read this book, I see confirmation of Dr. Goldberg's theory on gender relationships several times a day. When I read that the end of a relationship can be predicted by its beginning, I thought, "Oh, come on, he can't be serious!" And then I read the list of the beginnings, and how those beginnings morph into a relationship that is destined to end, and I had to groan in recognition. Dr. Goldberg lays out how a woman's relationship with her mother -not her father--is primary in setting the stage for her romantic patterns. Now that I have read this book once, and have started reading it a second time, my eyes have been opened and I can't look at relationships in the same way anymore. The title may cause women to think they don't need this book, but any woman who passes it by is missing the chance of a lifetime to see things in a whole new light.
Dr. Herb Goldberg's new book offers penetrating insight and practical recommendations in a `how to manual' for readers interested in breathing new life into their relationships. "What Men Still Don't Understand About Women, Relationships, and Love" provides a comprehensive analysis of the causes, manifestations, and remedies for the universal `knots' that deny couples satisfying relationships.
Dr. Goldberg reviews social and cultural forces that undermine a couple's best efforts to enhance their relationship, including female and male liberation movements intended to bring `détente' to the `war between the sexes'.
Readers of Dr. Goldberg's latest book will be exposed to wisdom that comes only from an Elder in the field of male-female relationships. Couples will obtain information and skills as they are guided through the landmines that destroy marriages.
Men and women are challenged to accept specific ways they contribute to unhappiness that too often gets blamed on the other partner. Men and women have different needs, perceive the world in different ways, and express love in different ways. Dr. Goldberg offers wonderful vignettes to illustrate the most common conflicts men and women experience in their relationships.
This book does not offer a `quick fix' to relationship problems although readers are readily equipped with insights and tools that can be put to immediate use. Dr. Goldberg has re-entered the field with provocative ideas in a balanced way. This is a must read for all couples and those engaged in couples therapy. Looking forward to the next in a trilogy of books planned by this courageous pioneer.
I dont usually rate and review books on amazon but after reading this book i had to express my appreciation for the author for being brave to write this. I say brave because I have never heard some of the things written here and i have been researching male/female gender issues for a while trying to understand the Drama that continues in my and my friends life when dealing with women. When you read this book every so often your going to come to a passage and a scene will open up in your head that will co-inside with what your reading. Your mind will replay from your past and example of what your reading. It will all make so much sense the people will actually see the light bulb over your head. But the question is...Can love exist in a postmodern world...he does answer that... Try not to be cynical after reading this but understand it is very sobering when you see the obstacles that prevent men from have fulfilling and healthy relationships.
The brilliance of this book is that it treats both sides of the story: the male's as well as the female's, with, I feel, fairness and compassion. To call it "misogynist," as one amazon reviewer has, sends the wrong message. I mean, Dr. Goldberg speaks openly of men's failings too, especially when we are as locked into rigid masculine roles as women are in female roles. Then each of us winds up with distorted expectations of the other. I was really astonished by "What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love." It just hit me with what seemed to me to be one undeniable truth after another. The amazon reviewer is correct, however, in stating that the conclusion of this book, as far as men are concerned, is indeed that relationships are dangerous territory--even a "no-win scenario." But I would rather attempt to use Dr. Herb's lessons to help me create a better relationship next time. I am sure it's possible if, instead of falling again for the pretty face stroking my ego by swooning over me, I can stay in touch with the underlying motivations--mine and hers!--and make an intelligent choice of female partner. I have read several of Herb Goldberg's books, such as "The Hazards of Being Male" and "The New Male-Female Relationship," and find that each one adds important information to the relationship lessons we men need to learn. After all, it is well known that women are the majority of buyers of relationship books. Hey guys, no wonder they've got it over on us! I believe that "What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love" is one of this author's best. It aggregates the wisdom from Dr. Herb's years of experience as a best-selling author in this field. Wish I had read him 20 years ago!