What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love [Hardcover]

Dr. Herb Goldberg (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 25, 2007

In his first book in fifteen years, the author of the classic book on men, The Hazards of Being Male, explores the relationship dilemmas of contemporary men and women. What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love uniquely addresses the timeless complexity of love and relationships. It is not uncommon for contemporary men to believe that they have done everything right in a relationship, only to find that even their best intentions have failed them. Dr. Herb Goldberg attempts to bridge the gap between a man's naturally distancing personality and his need for a close relationship. Explanations are given as to why it is actually men who take longer to get over a failed relationship and why a man's true relationship enemy is one that lies deep within himself. Many of the paradoxes and conundrums of men's relationship experiences are explored, with case histories presented and guidelines for change offered.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 208 pages
• Publisher: Barricade Books; 1 edition (June 25, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1569803307
• ISBN-13: 978-1569803301
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 5.9 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #602,700 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Book I Needed at 17, September 19, 2007

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Mary Benson (Lower Lake, CA USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love (Hardcover)

What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships and Love is one of the books I wish I had read in high school, before dating, and certainly before marrying. This book subtly planted seeds in my mind that took root and grew like zucchini in the hot summer. I saw my first marriage in here, and my husband's first marriage, and my best friend's niece. . .as the days have gone on since I read this book, I see confirmation of Dr. Goldberg's theory on gender relationships several times a day. When I read that the end of a relationship can be predicted by its beginning, I thought, "Oh, come on, he can't be serious!" And then I read the list of the beginnings, and how those beginnings morph into a relationship that is destined to end, and I had to groan in recognition. Dr. Goldberg lays out how a woman's relationship with her mother -not her father--is primary in setting the stage for her romantic patterns. Now that I have read this book once, and have started reading it a second time, my eyes have been opened and I can't look at relationships in the same way anymore. The title may cause women to think they don't need this book, but any woman who passes it by is missing the chance of a lifetime to see things in a whole new light.

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Getting the Love You Want--Guidance from an Elder, June 18, 2007

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Dr. Kevin Keough (Delaware, USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love (Hardcover)

Dr. Herb Goldberg's new book offers penetrating insight and practical recommendations in a `how to manual' for readers interested in breathing new life into their relationships. "What Men Still Don't Understand About Women, Relationships, and Love" provides a comprehensive analysis of the causes, manifestations, and remedies for the universal `knots' that deny couples satisfying relationships.

Dr. Goldberg reviews social and cultural forces that undermine a couple's best efforts to enhance their relationship, including female and male liberation movements intended to bring `détente' to the `war between the sexes'.

Readers of Dr. Goldberg's latest book will be exposed to wisdom that comes only from an Elder in the field of male-female relationships. Couples will obtain information and skills as they are guided through the landmines that destroy marriages.

Men and women are challenged to accept specific ways they contribute to unhappiness that too often gets blamed on the other partner. Men and women have different needs, perceive the world in different ways, and express love in different ways. Dr. Goldberg offers wonderful vignettes to illustrate the most common conflicts men and women experience in their relationships.

This book does not offer a `quick fix' to relationship problems although readers are readily equipped with insights and tools that can be put to immediate use. Dr. Goldberg has re-entered the field with provocative ideas in a balanced way. This is a must read for all couples and those engaged in couples therapy. Looking forward to the next in a trilogy of books planned by this courageous pioneer.

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars amazing insights!, June 1, 2007

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Justin Gabriel "surferzero" (Raleigh, NC) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love (Hardcover)

In a happy relationship? In a dysfunctional one? Not in a relationship at all? It doesn't matter, reading this book will change your perspective on male-female relationships and all sorts of gender issues. Dr. Goldberg is a real pro and this book is one-of-a-kind.