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What We Have: A Family's Inspiring Story About Love, Loss, and Survival Hardcover – August 5, 2010


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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 336 pages
  • Publisher: Gotham; First Printing edition (August 5, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1592405517
  • ISBN-13: 978-1592405510
  • Product Dimensions: 9.3 x 6.6 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,272,134 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"Utterly Breathtaking. What We Have is a memoir that reads like a novel. It is more than a family history-it is a riveting portrayal of how women navigate life with a knife hanging over their heads. Amy Boesky gives so much hope and inspiration that it stirs readers to look inward and examine their own closely held beliefs about fate and destiny."
-Patricia Wood, Lottery

"In this riveting memoir, Amy Boesky takes on the big subjects-life and death, order and chaos, the coil of our genetic code-with intelligence, humor, and hard-earned wisdom. Here is love-a mother's for her baby, a daughter's for her mother, a love of life itself-funneled through the hourglass of time."
-Elizabeth Graver, author of Awake and The Honey Thief

"A compelling memoir about how cancer, the 'sharpshooter' as Amy Boesky describes it, stalked generations of women in her family, took away much that she loved, and how she made a brave and loving life by facing down her fears. Her love of language makes for thoughtful reading."
-Susan Straight, author of A Million Nightingales and Highwire Moon

"Amy Boesky has written a tender story about motherhood and daughterhood, romance and marriage, friendship and sistership, birth and death---and the power of love to transcend the most heartwrenching of choices. With the precision of a poet and the care of a scholar, Boesky brings her loved ones-and her own inner self-to full and vibrant life."
-Jennifer Moses, author of Bagels and Grits: A Jew on the Bayou

"With precision, candor, and enormous grace, Amy Boesky writes about how you live when time is finite, but the love in your family - though complicated - is infinite."
-Joan Wickersham, author of The Suicide Index

"Thoroughly compelling memoir... Boesky writes elegantly, almost poetically"
-Bookpage

"Boesky chooses to move past her dread of approaching age 35, when doctors suggest she and her sisters have preventive surgery, and to live life deeply, daily, fully."
-Elle Magazine

"With bite and humor (and lighthearted allusions to 17th century metaphysics), Boesky turns a would-be "disease memoir" into a moving account. Perfect planning goes awry, and yet Boesky's loving, unsentimental portrait of these endearing women never does."
-O, The Oprah Magazine --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

A graduate of Oxford and Harvard, Amy Boesky is an associate professor of English at Boston College. She was one of the principal ghostwriters for the bestselling young adult series "Sweet Valley High". She lives in Chestnut Hill, Massachusetts, with her husband and their two daughters.

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Thought-provoking and deeply personal account, very well written.
Marlene
Such is the case for Amy Boesky, author of What We Have: One Family's Inspiring Story About Love, Loss, and Survival.
Darlene @ Peeking Between the Pages
Beautifully written, heartbreakingly touching and moving, and yet also extremely inspiring and life affirming.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Bluegrass Reader on August 20, 2010
Format: Hardcover
What We Have, a memoir by Amy Boesky, is a look into the life of a young woman who grew up with the threat of cancer hanging over her head. Grandmothers, aunts, and great-aunts, all of whom died in their 40's from ovarian cancer, created a shadow of fear that followed her every step. She knew at 35 she would have her ovaries removed, just as her mother did. When her mother developed breast cancer, she and her sisters breathed a sigh of relief--it was not the deadly ovarian cancer.

Amy allows her readers to understand the fears she grew up with and see how it shaped her personality and her life. You share with her the joys and tears of things now and things past. The story is beautifully woven with the past interlacing with the present and building the future.

I laughed, I cried. I felt like Amy was my best friend. I grieved along with her. I shared in her joys. I understood her fears. I felt like I was part of her world and didn't want to put the book down. This is an enthralling memoir that tops my list of must reads.

Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from Penguin Group for review purposes. This review contains my honest opinions.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By lynnpamela on August 10, 2010
Format: Hardcover
I cannot recommend this book enough. Beautifully written, heartbreakingly touching and moving, and yet also extremely inspiring and life affirming. I found myself so deeply affected and moved that I was unable to put this book down for two days, and especially towards the end found myself crying repeatedly. Although it may have affected me more than some because my own mother has been fighting ovarian cancer for four years, and thus I especially identified with the story, I would be hardpressed to find anyone not loving this book as I have. Especially moving was the scene near the end with her daughter Libby looking at the family pictures of her mother, grandmother, and aunt, and recalling the author's family pictures of her grandmother Sylvia. Without hestitation I give this book five stars.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Linda Pressman on June 12, 2011
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Amy Boesky's book is not just an important book about what it means to be a "pre-vivor" - someone who is at heightened risk for cancer due to family history and knows pre-childbearing that she'll have to have prophylactic surgery so that she won't get cancer. What this book was, above all, to me was simply an excellently written memoir, and a memoir of a mother, well-loved and much missed.

There were scenes in this book that made me, as a writer myself, simply want to throw away my computer and all my notebooks because I thought I could never craft a sentence as beautifully as Ms. Boesky did, put together a metaphor as equisitely, explain the day-to-dayness of it all, from the screaming baby to the dying mother.

So, yes, five stars and highly recommended, and anything else I can say. Read the book.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Darlene @ Peeking Between the Pages on April 9, 2011
Format: Hardcover
I think we all live on borrowed time in this life but for some it's even more borrowed. Such is the case for Amy Boesky, author of What We Have: One Family's Inspiring Story About Love, Loss, and Survival. For as long as Amy can remember her family has always lived with the threat of the big C word - cancer - hanging over their heads and hearts. What we Have is Amy Boesky's memoir - a haunting look at what cancer can take from you yet keeping the faith that you will move on and survive.

At thirty-two, Amy feels that she has everything to live for - she's finally met the man of her dreams, married him and made a home. She's also landed her dream job yet always on the sidelines is the knowledge that she must have children soon if she's going to have them or it will be too late. You see for Amy and all the women in their family, it is important that they have surgery to remove their ovaries by thirty-five years old to prevent the ovarian cancer that runs rampant in their family and kills all of the women (yes, all of them). One quote that struck me from Amy was...

'That's how it is for me, thinking about the future. Two different shapes. One holding time; the other escaping it. One suggesting fragility, confinement; the other, something transcendent. Turn it one way, you see an hourglass. Turn it the other way, and you see wings.' (pg 3)

The women in Amy's family have died young - most before the age of forty-five from cancer. This overshadows every decision and thought she has. She has planned from a girl just how her life would go - meet someone, have kids as soon as possible and have the surgery recommended by her doctor just as her sisters have done as well. All of this in the hopes of changing the course of tragedy that has gone before in their family.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Book Lover on August 11, 2010
Format: Hardcover
Despite my expectation of a familiar genre piece, the inspirational memoir, I was stunned to find in this work a story told with rare power. A page turner, it soon had me eager to rush ahead, wanting the author to speak more rapidly, to quickly tell me what came next. That was so with the losses and tears as well as the pleasures and laughter.
With writing of such uncommon emotional immediacy, the effect is intensely evocative, for everything is shown and nothing is pedantically explained. During the reading, the world of the book becomes alive as one's own personal universe. With both pain and joy woven through this true tale, the reader - certainly this reader - was sad to have the book end, sad that the author's unwritten next book is not instantly available to permit continuing reading.
This is a life. It is a memoir that can hold its own with most contemporary novels. For me, it was an unanticipated classic.
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