What Women Wish You Knew about Dating: A Single Guy's Guide to Romantic Relationships [Bargain Price] [Paperback]

Stephen Simpson (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 1, 2008

Most books on romantic relationships focus on mate selection, marriage, and sexual purity. But before all that can happen, a guy has to get a date! What Women Wish You Knew about Dating equips men with the skills they need to begin dating. Author Stephen W. Simpson educates men about spiritual and psychological obstacles to dating and provides solutions to the problems that often interfere with a healthy, holy dating life. With a unique blend of biblical principles, psychological insight, practical advice, and humor, this book shows the reader how to be a man, date like a man, and get that relationship off to a great start. Whether just entering the dating game or back after being widowed or divorced, men of all ages will benefit from this straightforward and candid treatment of male sexuality and dating.

Editorial Reviews

From the Inside Flap

Excerpt Dating is harder for Christian men. You might think it's because of sexual purity issues, but it's not just that. The whole courtship process is more complicated. Questions about morality, theology, worship, intimacy, and God's will get involved. Relationships are hard enough for men that don't care about this kind of stuff. Dating is twice as complicated for Christians. Also, non-Christian guys don't care as much about a woman's relationship with God. Seeking a Christian girlfriend shrinks the field of available women. Most of the women you meet won't share your faith. Finding a perfect match is tough enough, but the odds are even worse when you expect her to have a relationship with Christ. This results in a sense of urgency when a Christian man meets a woman he'd like to ask out. He meets a woman who defies the odds and panics. He finds the equivalent of a winning lottery ticket but doesn't know how to cash it in. Despite the odds against you, dating can become easier. Notice I said easier, not easy. Yes, there are couples for whom everything comes naturally. They have perfect communication, they're happy all the time, and they knew they were destined to be with each other from the instant they met. These are the couples that make the rest of us nauseous, and they're happy exceptions. Most of the time, dating requires hard work.

From the Back Cover

Women Are Attracted to Men, Not Guys Will the real men please stand up? It's the battle cry of Steve Simpson's hilarious and disarming What Women Wish You Knew about Dating, with man-to-man advice on everything single Christian guys need to know about dating: meeting her, asking her out, and leading the relationship. But first, you've got to be a man, not just another guy. "A man approaches dating differently," writes Simpson. "He has confidence and passion. He's a risk-taker but not a foolish, reckless boy. He doesn't play games and he doesn't hide his agenda. And, though he respects women immensely, he doesn't worship or fear them." Once you're in a relationship, there's a lot to learn and do. Simpson dissects common problems and shows men how to maintain healthy, holy relationships, heal deep wounds, and keep God first, girlfriend or not. It's everything women wish we knew, and men need to master. Stephen Simpson (PhD, Fuller Seminary), a psychologist in private practice and a professor, is the coauthor of What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew about Sex and author of Assaulted by Joy.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Baker Books (June 1, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0801068401
• ASIN: B002T451AY
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,433,180 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Stephen W. Simpson has a PhD in clinical psychology and an MA in theology from Fuller Theological Seminary. The author of What Women Wish You Knew About Dating and coauthor of What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew about Sex, he teaches psychology at Fuller Theological Seminary and also has a private psychotherapy practice. Stephen and his wife, Shelley, live with their four children in Southern California. www.assaultedbyjoy.com

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19 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great, practical, and fun to read book., June 2, 2008

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Kevin Newgren - See all my reviews
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This review is from: What Women Wish You Knew about Dating: A Single Guy's Guide to Romantic Relationships (Paperback)

This book is well written, and an engaging read. It is written from a Christian perspective, but is a lot more practical and useful than most Christian relationship books out there. Dr. Simpson shows a clear understanding of the Christian dating culture, and the unique challenges faced by men in this culture.
It is also refreshing to read a book that does not fixate on overly spiritualizing the dating process to the point that it becomes unapplicable. It addresses topics ranging from talking to girls, doing the actual asking for a date, where to go, what to do on the second and third date, and how to maintain a relationship once you have one.
This is an ideal book for any single Christian man looking to improve their dating situation. It would also be a great book for any Christian woman stumped by why men are clueless in the dating arena (there are actually numerous blurbs in the chapters directly speaking to women who are reading the book).

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Finally a Readable Road Map for the Confusing World of Dating, October 16, 2008

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Tim Simpson - See all my reviews
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This review is from: What Women Wish You Knew about Dating: A Single Guy's Guide to Romantic Relationships (Paperback)

I'm an old married guy now, so I can't really put Dr. Simpson's funny and practical wisdom to much use. But, "back in the day," I may have avoided considerable anxiety and heartache if I had access to this comprehensive step by step guide to Christian dating.

The book starts at the absolute beginning. Not when a guy finds himself attracted to a lady, but when a guy learns to be a man. From there, Simpson walks his reader step by step through various subjects like: talking to a woman, asking someone out on a date, what a first date should look like, what second & third dates should be like, etiquette, and the ever popular "how far should we go?" question.

The book doesn't leave out advice for the ladies. There are very insightful side boxes throughout the book for them as well.

No man attempting to navigate his way through the labyrinth of Christian dating should be without this fun to read guide. I loved it so much I bought copies for my four teenage nephews. If you're looking for a book to help yourself or someone else decode the Christian dating scene, look no further than this one.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Hilariously Relevent, July 6, 2010

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This review is from: What Women Wish You Knew about Dating: A Single Guy's Guide to Romantic Relationships (Paperback)

I spend a lot of time reading books of this nature, the books that all seem to try and paint a picture of what a christian relationship should look like before, during, and hopefully into marriage. I always find great truths within each book, and with much work on my part, have added those bits and pieces of what I've learned into my life. But what makes Stephen Simpson's book, "What women wish you knew about Dating" so amazing to me is the way he simply and even hilariously leads men(primarily) through the somewhat tricky idea of dating. Simpson adds excerpts through out the book in his various sections that give a woman's perspective on the subject at hand. Granted, the views of women on any one subject will vary, but Simpson does a good job in trying to take views from those of a greater consent. As i mentioned before, the book is hilariously written. Simpson is honest and unabashed at times, but that honesty and even humility makes for some of the most laugh out loud comments I've seen in many books. And that's a special thing. The funny little remarks made are the bits of truth and advice i took the most from.

And so I'd recommend this finding/book to any single man/woman seeking after a Christian relationship. I thoroughly enjoyed this book!