What Men Won't Tell You but Women Need to Know [Hardcover]

Bob Berkowitz (Author), Roger Gittines (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1990

Bob Berkowitz is not afraid to ask frank, intimate questions. Now he gets honest answers from that most perplexing, emotionally guarded, and enigmatic of species, the American male. A veteran journalist and renowned relationship expert, he has interviewed men of all ages and backgrounds about their innermost secrets—and he reports all in this unique, no-holds-barred volume.

What Men Won't Tell You but Women Need to Know is straight talk on what men say, what men mean, and what men think from America's #1 expert.

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Listen up, women, here's how to fathom your man. First, "men are much simpler than women," so in trying to figure him out, "think like a minimalist." Remember, "Sex is spelled s-e-x, not i-o-u." For guys, "relationships are not . . . top priority." Work probably ranks higher. When criticizing a man, "develop a light touch." In bed, let him know you think he's a red-hot lover. From such platitudes, this breezy, often superficial pabulum is distilled. Berkowitz, who hosts a talk show on Financial News Network (and was formerly the Today show's correspondent on men), teamed here with freelance journalist Gittines, offers advice to women on getting men to open up, dating divorced men, extramarital affairs, gauging a man's true intentions regarding commitment, dealing with his fears of impotence, and so forth. Author tour.
Copyright 1989 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Library Journal

What makes men tick? Why won't they open up? Weren't they all supposed to have gotten in touch with their feelings in the 1970s? What went wrong? According to Berkowitz, the Today Show 's correspondent on men, nothing went wrong. Men, by nature, respond differently from women, and a lot of misunderstanding could be avoided if women comprehended how men express themselves. Many recent books have explored this territory; Berkowitz maintains that men are not psychological cripples, nor women masochistic fools. Neither sex is "right" or "wrong." We're just different, and it's silly to take adversarial positions. So here is the "Boylitz" course: What he really means. No neuroses; just good sense, affection, and the occasional flash of recognition. Maybe we've finally outgrown confrontational psychobabble. Let's hope so.
- Susan B. Hagloch, Tuscarawas Cty. P.L., New Philadelphia, Ohio
Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 203 pages
• Publisher: William Morrow & Co; 1st edition (January 1990)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0688087795
• ISBN-13: 978-0688087791
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.7 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (25 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,925,323 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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99 of 108 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars few earth-shattering insights but fun to read nonetheless, July 26, 2004

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L. Rephann "curious about everything" (Brooklyn, New York United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: What Men Won't Tell You but Women Need to Know (Mass Market Paperback)

With such a provocative title, you'd think this book might open the door into the secret world of Men, so all Women might from there on in understand. It's not the case. While it does offer some good reminders (men are visual, men and women are DIFFERENT, don't hint with men, etc.), some of the book feels dated and Berkowitz's tone is that of a smarmy glossy magazine writer (which he happens to be, as well as a correspondent for various daytime TV programs like Today).

The book can be read in one sitting, and since it's very light, you won't feel weighed down if you consume it all at once. Recommended, but more for fun and as a time-passer than as a real cornerstone of understanding the differences between the sexes or developing a really deep understanding of men.

152 of 173 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Very misleading title, December 18, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: What Men Won't Tell You but Women Need to Know (Mass Market Paperback)

This book drags on and on and on with stories that attempt to be humourous, but just come up long-winded and pointless...On Berkowicz's chapter on Why Men are Jerks...he explains that women want men to be jerks...On his chapter regarding sex, he explains in detail how men love and will do anything to get it. Now, true many women are attracted to jerks, and men infact enjoy and love sex, but what's the big secret you're letting us in on here? I found the book to be rather boring, and hard to read.

35 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars I don't think so, March 23, 2005

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James Thomas (Dallas, TX) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What Men Won't Tell You but Women Need to Know (Mass Market Paperback)

If you think every man thinks the same way, does the same thing, has the same desires, and is just lumped into one cateogry, then this book will show you that. Peresonally, I like women that are real, without all of the games that we men see through anyway.
Yeah, men are visual. So are women! Men like intimacy just as much as women do. The title says more than the book does.