What You Feel You Can Heal [Abridged, Audiobook] [Audio Cassette]

John Gray (Author, Reader)

Book Description

Publication Date: November 28, 1995

The need for love begins with your need to love yourself.

Consciously or unconsciously, everyone is trying to enrich and improve their relationships in some way. Enriching our relationships is an art and a science. For this enrichment to happen'even before we can find and accept love'we have to love ourselves.

Through his experience in working with others to heal their pain, Dr. Gray has found patterns and messages that many of us received while growing up. These messages can keep us from loving ourselves'and from loving and receiving love from others. By exploring how these messages became ingrained in us while we were young and how we are using them today, we can change old patterns and thoughts about ourselves and others as well as create long-lasting, fulfilling relationships.

John Gray tells us that “Loving yourself in the presence of others means being able to express your inner gifts and talents without fear. When you don't love yourself and mask your real self, the cycle works in the opposite direction'decreasing love and true self expression.”

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About the Author

John Gray, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. The author of fifteen books, he has been conducting personal-growth seminars for more than thirty years and writes "Mars Venus Advice," a weekly syndicated column that has appeared in more than one hundred media outlets, including Newsday, the Los Angeles Times, and the Detroit Free Press. He also has a weekly Internet broadcast with over two million listeners at Marsvenus.com. Gray has been a contributing editor at Redbook and a contributor to ivillage.com, Brides, and Divorce magazines. He lives with his wife and three children in Northern California.

Product Details

• Audio Cassette
• Publisher: HarperAudio; Abridged edition (November 28, 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0694516139
• ISBN-13: 978-0694516131
• Product Dimensions: 7.1 x 4.6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,891,345 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #9 in Books > Books on Cassette > Authors, A-Z > ( G ) > Gray, John
  • #97 in Books > Books on Cassette > Parenting & Families > Family Relationships

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22 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Before John Gray became an idiot, July 26, 1999

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This review is from: What You Feel, You Can Heal: A Guide for Enriching Relationships (Paperback)

This book shows real insight into human emotion and interpersonal dynamics, presented in a very gentle, simple way. Why he gave up and became the gender stereotyper from hell, I don't know. I guess because it sold better. Too bad, because this is the better approach. He discusses the dynamics of emotional connection without resorting to "men do this, women do that" by showing that when one partner, regardless of gender, behaves a certain way, the other will respond accordingly.

The tone of this book, again, is simple, almost childish, but gets the points across. "The Two Step", is the grown-up version.

13 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very Very Good, August 9, 2003

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This review is from: What You Feel, You Can Heal: A Guide for Enriching Relationships (Paperback)

This book is very helpful in understanding yourself and your partner. It is a very easy read and could be mistaken as too "simple" - but the beauty of this book is that it has taken some of the most complex feelings and reduced it to bite size ideas and adorable cartoons. I am a highly educated person and thought the cartoons were brilliant (BS, MS, JD) - some reviewers did not like them? Read this book more than once and learn a lot about relationships. I am really hoping to (educationally smart - relationship dummy).

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Navigating Negative Emotions, April 10, 2008

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This review is from: What You Feel, You Can Heal: A Guide for Enriching Relationships (Paperback)

"The major cause of human dissatisfaction and frustration is the absence of love." ~ pg. 2

"What You Feel You Can Heal" is an uncomplicated guide to emotions we all experience. John Gray encourages the reader to express their negative emotions in order to create an environment in which love can flourish and grow. The main premise is that repressed emotions block the flow of love.

Each page is illustrated with an amusing cartoon, which makes this book a quick read. In a matter of hours you can learn a few useful techniques that allow you to feel more positive about life.

John Gray encourages the idea of writing love letters although I still think the section of the letter with all the negative issues (I hate...) might be a bad idea. There is also a strange section on "duplication" where you repeat what someone says in order to become more empathetic. I found the following to be very true:

"The people who make you the most angry are the people you care about the most." ~ pg. 2

~The Rebecca Review