What Your Mother Couldnt Tell You & Your [Paperback]

John Gray (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 6, 1995

A guide which offers strategies for maintaining a fulfilled relationship. A generation ago it was common to sacrifice personal fulfilment for the sake of preserving a married relationship. Now, with changed roles for men and women, divorce has become the common "solution". Gray maintains neither is the answer and, without resorting to jargon, pinpoints seven essential rules for lasting monogamy.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

The author of bestselling Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus proposes that "New skills must be learned if a man is to feel needed and appreciated by his mate.... New skills are required [for a woman] to remain feminine and also be strong." In an easy combination of personal anecdotes from his own marriage and ideas culled from the professional seminars he conducts, Gray delineates the skills he considers necessary to make relationships thrive. According to him, no models exist for today's marriage partners, whose roles are often the reverse of the traditional or are altered by the wife's higher earning power. So Gray explores sexual differences and other potential points of conflict in an approach based on traditional values. To whit, "Men must learn to use their ancient hunting skills of silently watching and waiting when listening to their mates." At 'em, boys. 500,000 first printing; $350,000 ad/promo; first serial to Cosmopolitan; Literary Guild split main selection; author tour.
Copyright 1994 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal

Advice on staying in a relationship from the author of the best-selling Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (LJ 5/15/92).
Copyright 1994 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Vermilion (July 6, 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0091806534
• ISBN-13: 978-0091806538
• Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 8.5 x 1.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.3 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #210,409 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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18 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Don't be fooled by simplicity--this is very useful info, April 15, 1998

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This review is from: What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know: Advanced Relationship Skills for Better Communication and Lasting Intimacy (Hardcover)

I don't know why I don't enjoy John Gray's writing style. But I'm really glad I ignored my dislike of it to read this book. The information and suggestions are powerful stuff. Very useful, especially for healing a relationship that began great and has gone awry. And it's not necessary to get your partner to read it--a point which is especially appealing to women. You can make changes in the way you communicate and experience your partner changing also into a better partner/communicator/relator. I admire John Gray for continuing to make his nourishing ideas so accessible to so many. I'm sure critics other than me criticize his writing style and I'm glad he ignores us to make so many people happier.

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Changed My Life, My Relationship w/Father, Bus Associates, January 26, 2000

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D. Gundling (Houston Tx) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know: Advanced Relationship Skills for Better Communication and Lasting Intimacy (Hardcover)

Many people will percieve that this book is focused ONLY on romantic relationships. This book helped me understand my father as well as the men that i work with as well as relationships. If you understand why people do what they do, then you have a chance to resolve conflicts, and you can choose not to take it personally. This book changed my entire perception of men and brought me closer to my family. It is far better than the better known "Men are from Mars..." book because it provides detailed examples and recommendations for handling situations. It is easy reading. I just keep wondering how John Gray figured all of this out. I am glad I found this book. It is great for MEN and WOMEN.

12 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book is right on the mark, November 17, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know: Advanced Relationship Skills for Better Communication and Lasting Intimacy (Hardcover)

Although I'd read some of John's other Mars and Venus books, this one spoke to me like no other. I listened to it on audio over a couple of weeks (while walking my dogs!) I've also listened to it with my husband and it really sunk in with him, too. It made a difference right away in how we communicated with each other.

This is going to be the book that brings our marriage back to where it should be and where it used to be....thank you John Gray! I am buying 5 copies to give my family and friends for Christmas.