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A good reference; could be redundant
on December 14, 2003
I bought this book because my sex life wasn't fulfilling -- I was frustrated and trying to figure out what might have been physical vs. my own inner state vs. issues with my boyfriend.
I think this book covers a lot of ground, but from a "technical" perspective rather than the psychological one I was particularly interested in. To me the material seemed basic -- I've grown up with fairly comprehensive sex education (at least about the mechanics & health of it all) and live amongst people where sex isn't taboo. A lot of the information gets covered in other sources, like magazines (for sex-technique tips), good internet sources on sexual health, etc.
But if you've never been exposed to this information before, this is a very comprehensive and solid book. I think it would be a good read for a teenage girl. The frank discussion about techniques to improve your sex life might seem a bit over-the-top for a 16 year old, but womens' magazines and the Kama Sutra discuss this stuff too. Seems to me that women are going to encounter sex sooner or later, and in this book it's being discussed in its entirety: the sex tips are alongside anatomical information, health & safety, emotional maturity in sex, etc. The book communicates that sex is positive but requires maturity and responsibility.
The one thing that made me feel a bit disconnected from it was that it seems to be written to people who have been conditioned to think that sex is bad, dirty, or whatever. I didn't have that, so it was frustrating that the author assumed my issues stemmed from being told by the church or whatever that sex is bad.