Customer Reviews

When A Believer Marries A Nonbeliever

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I purchased this book for my Christian fiancee, as our differing spiritual beliefs had created some tension between us. I read it first, expecting it to be filled with tricks and traps to convert me to Christianity. Here they are, in a nutshell:

1) Set a good Christian example, and 2) Pray often and vigorously.

Hope I didn't spoil the plot for anyone! Obviously, my skepticism was unwarranted. The book also contains wonderful advice in non-spiritual areas, such as love and communication. The message that "it is God who ultimately draws us to Him" is important for those who may feel the burden of their loved ones' eternal life rests solely on the believer's shoulders.

The only reason I didn't rate this book with five stars is it focuses on only two types of nonbelievers: "lukewarm" Christians who haven't developed a personal relationship with Jesus, and agnostics who have little or no spiritual life at all. Perhaps a future edition could include believers from different faiths. In my opinion, many of the book's reasons for becoming a Christian, such as overall health and happiness, would apply to becoming a Jew, Buddhist, or Muslim as well.

Still, this book accomplishes its goal very well, and I recommend it for any believer/nonbeliever couple. It helped me to realize "our differences may be deep, but not wide, and we can hold hands across the gap."

Thanks, Bebe!

Bebe Nicholson has shared her personal experience on how to lovingly witness to an unbelieving mate. Her work serves as a practical guide and inspiration for those who are married to an unbeliever and desire to have their spouse open to a personal relationship with Christ. She carefully identifies the importance of prayer and encourages the reader to employ a gentle and kind witness. Bebe has authored a poignant work that brings both laughter and tears to the reader. This book is highly recommended to every believing spouse who sincerely desires to learn and grow as they witness to their unbelieving mate. It is also recommended to those who counsel couples.

This book will only appeal to the "believer" side of the believer/nonbeliever marital union. There is no good information about compromise, counseling, or relationship building outside of the believer's faith. This book simply preaches patience on the part of the believer as they wait for their non-believing partner to finally come around to the "correct" way of thinking. This book is a complete insult to the "non-believer" spouse. Too bad. So much could be gained by providing a comprehensive road map to a frank and open discussion between spouses with differing religious beliefs about how to nurture a loving, and mutually respectful marital relationship. Regrettable, and not recommended.