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When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People

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I loved this book. I grew tired of books that provided alot of, exuse me, psycho babble which didn't help me deal w/relatives that drive me nuts or truly hurt me and I find impossible to be around.

Dr. Felder's book provided insight into what I can do that is practical, and I feel even more importantly, urged me to understand that changing my mean grandmother wasn't going to happen.. the only thing I could do was change how I let myself react.

GET THIS BOOK BEFORE XMAS DINNER.

I liked that it gave advice on how to handle some of the situations, but it didn't give useful advice on most issues. It mainly tells you how to handle it in your head, but not how to communicate with these relatives when they are pushing your buttons.

My personal opinion of the book is that I was a little disappointed. I was looking for a revelation or a solution. I did get a few ideas and tactics for coping with those who continue to impose themselves on you. However, if those don't work you wind up compromising yourself.

This one didn't do it for me because it didn't help much with my problems. It seemed as though the problems discussed here were oversimplified and stereotypical and this book is written for those people whose problems are with family members they don't care much about -like annoying in-laws. There was some helpful info, but most of the book was not applicable to me. Mostly, it gave common sense, basic advice and offered nothing extraordinary. For instance, the book somewhere mentioned - If family gatherings are stressful for you, consider making them shorter or with less people. (I think anyone could tell you that.)

I purchased this book at the point of desparation. My family, husband and I and two grown sons hadn't talked for two years because of a Legal Will that wasn't pleasing to them.

We needed a book to help us with wisdom on how to handle this horrible situation - general advice, nothing too specific (actually, I'm sure few buying the book have our specific problem.)

What did we get? A book on how to deal with teenagers, uncle 'fred' who drinks too much, and on and on.

This was of less use to us than one visit to a Psychologist would be and that would have been money better spent.

If you're having family problems that are average, this book may help. If you're having family {{{PROBLEMS}}} that have you hunting for some help, this isn't the book for you. I'm sure one is out there, but this definitely is not the one.

I found this book very helpful and inspirational. Definitely a must read for people who are having problems with relatives and don't know how to handle an issue! You may even want to read it if there are currently no issues in your family! It's good to know what you could potentially deal with.

I understand family and their weird ways a lot more. Simply written and described everything one goes through with family! Very good investment I made!!!!