When Is Enough Enough: What You Can Do If You Never Feel Satisfied [Paperback]

Laurie Ashner (Author), Mitch Meyerson (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 21, 1997

This no-nonsense, compassionate guide explores misguided life strategies that can sabotage happiness and fulfillment. Using practical examples from everyday lives, the authors show us how to replace feelings of chronic dissatisfaction with a sense of contentment and fulfillment.

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From Library Journal

Psychotherapists Ashner and Meyerson (coauthors of When Parents Love Too Much, William Morris, 1990) argue persuasively that people who are never satisfied with their achievements are unconsciously setting themselves up for disappointment. Further, such thinking bears little relation to reality and actually signals the need to readjust the way goals are approached. The authors list the 13 characteristics of this type of thinking and outline ways to change. Throughout this readable book, they skillfully integrate theory and case studies, creating a work that sustains interest. It is less "New Age" in approach than Barbara DeAngelis's Real Moments (LJ 9/1/96); all public libraries should consider.?January Adams, Franklin Twp. P.L., Somerset, N.J.
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About the Author

Mitch Meyerson is a psychotherapist and an expert in the treatment of dysfunctional relationships and impaired self-esteem. He frequently lectures and conducts seminars on personal growth. He is co-author of When Parents Love Too Much.

Product Details

• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: Hazelden (October 21, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1568381972
• ISBN-13: 978-1568381978
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #998,797 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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23 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars The key word in the subtitle is DO, August 28, 1998

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This review is from: When Is Enough Enough: What You Can Do If You Never Feel Satisfied (Paperback)

Nine core issues are discussed as underlying chronic discontent or "never enough" thinking. The authors are both therapists and present the issues as questions commonly asked by their clients. "Why do I always feel like something is missing?" is shown to be a search for self. "Why don't I follow through on my dreams?" can mask the search for purpose. "Why is it that nothing makes me happy for long?" calls for a search for validation. The search for trust lies behind the question "Why can't I just relax?", and the search for competence lurks beneath "Why am I so bored and restless?" "Why can't I find the right person?" translates to the search for a mirror. "Why do I always end up getting less than I give?" calls for a search for control. The search for identity underlies "Why can't I stop comparing myself to other people"? The last core issue is the search for safety, or "Why do I always want the one thing I can't have?" Guidelines for change and growth are discussed throughout each chapter, and the closing chapters pull together ideas so that satisfaction with one's life is seen as an achievable goal. Lots of thought-provoking ideas as well as Prescriptions for Change, and Thoughts & Questions given for each of the nine core issues.

4 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Illuminating, insightful and practical, November 30, 2005

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Sigrid Macdonald (Ottawa) - See all my reviews

This review is from: When Is Enough Enough: What You Can Do If You Never Feel Satisfied (Paperback)

I'm not usually keen on self-help books because I find that they tend to repeat themselves, use extensive anecdotal evidence or offer nothing but psychobabble. This one is different.

The authors really understand human nature. They go beyond the surface and ask us to pose difficult questions to ourselves about why we repeat certain behaviors or what is causing us to be unfulfilled at work and relationships, and in other areas of our life.

The book covers a wide range of territory and is well worth reading, especially if one takes the time to do the exercises and think about what might be causing him or her to be stuck and routinely unable to feel satisfied.

My only complaint would be that there was a little too much emphasis placed on parenting and early childhood experiences. Not everyone is damaged in childhood. Other life events can occur in adulthood that can be traumatic and can alter one's self image and self-esteem.

Other than that, this is a thoroughly enjoyable and insightful read.

Sigrid Macdonald
Author of D'Amour Road

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Real answers, not just talk, March 29, 2010

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This review is from: When Is Enough Enough: What You Can Do If You Never Feel Satisfied (Paperback)

I was pleasantly surprised to find this book helpful. At first I did not think my situation applied, but the examples they give show the many ways a characteristic can look on different people. It was very enlightening to see myself in others. It was also helpful to connect all these different habits and traits into a cohesive whole. If it had done just that I would have been pleased, but they went further- helping me to see not only what I do, and why, but what I can do to change matters for the better. I have tried some of the exercises in each chapter, over a month's time. I found they helped me uncover more and more information. Taking it in small chunks and revisiting it over time seems to have loosened information that had been dormant inside me for quite some time. I want to thank the authors of this book for putting all of their years of experience onto the page for me to learn from. I give this book my highest recommendation!