When You Live with a Messie [Paperback]

Sandra Felton (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 1994

Sandra Felton shows beleaguered loved ones how to influence the most reluctant "Messie" to change, and how to promote the atmosphere to help that change occur.

Product Details

• Paperback: 205 pages
• Publisher: Fleming H. Revell Company (October 1994)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0800755464
• ISBN-13: 978-0800755461
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.3 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,008,746 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

In 1982 Sandra Felton was a disorganized wife and mom with three kids
and a full time job. Plus a chronically messy house. Desperately seeking
relief from clutter, she sought help from information in books and from friends.
She found the "secrets" that finally worked for her. Sandra's first book, The
Messies Manual unlocked how naturally disorganized people could apply those
secrets successfully to their lives. More books followed. With humor and good
will, sandra reaches out to those she calls Messies with words of hope and with
practical techniques that really work

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

15 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Really helpful, as her books tend to be., October 18, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: When You Live with a Messie (Paperback)

Felton helps you understand yourself and the people you live with. There are a hundred books of how-tos and helpful hints; hers are about making yourself actually -do- something! This one is both helpful and supportive, for a person (whether messy or not) who lives with a Messie.

16 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars A Waste of Time and Money!, May 11, 2006

By 

OverworkedMom - See all my reviews

This review is from: When You Live with a Messie (Paperback)

I bought this book hoping it would help me find ways to get my husband to help out around the house. He is a slob. He is a packrat who leaves his stuff everywhere, never puts anything back when he's done with it and basically watches TV all evening while I clean up. The solution according to this book? I should just not say anything to him and clean it up myself! I tried it and all it got me was MORE work to do around the house! The author suggests breaking down household chores by having each spouse rank them 1-10 by how important having the chore done is to them. The spouse who ranks the chore higher is then responsible for that chore. Problem is, when you have a spouse who ranks everything "1", then you are stuck doing EVERYTHING and the spouse feels justified. After all, that's the advice from the "expert" after all! Following this book's advice has just made the situation far worse in my household. I am tired, worn out and barely keeping my head above water as far as the housework is concerned. How exactly does this book's philosophy help me? It just makes things more pleasant for the "Messie" while the "MessieMate" gets screwed! If you're looking for real solutions to getting help around the house, don't waste your time or money on this book!

7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Liberate yourself...., March 8, 2007

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Anita (WV) - See all my reviews

This review is from: When You Live with a Messie (Paperback)

This book will liberate you from the thinking that makes you believe you have to keep after the messie person in your life and that it is somehow all your responsibility. It isn't. It's theirs!

This book gives you straight talk about what you should tolerate, and what you shouldn't, and points out that many of us with messie spouses have a great deal of difficulty setting personal boundaries. The author ties a messie house and messie spouse into our own low self-concept. Once you realize that all of it is related, you will be able to decide which boundaries are appropriate, what you CAN live with, and what you SHOULDN"T live with. This book changed my life. I think it will change yours too.