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When You Live with a Messie Paperback – August 1, 2004


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 208 pages
  • Publisher: Revell (August 1, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0800787285
  • ISBN-13: 978-0800787288
  • Product Dimensions: 7.2 x 4.3 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,900,438 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

In 1982 Sandra Felton was a disorganized wife and mom with three kids
and a full time job. plus a chronically messy house. Desperately seeking
relief from clutter, she sought help from information in books and from friends.
She found the "secrets" that finally worked for her. Sandra's first book, The
Messies Manual unlocked how naturally disorganized people could apply those
secrets successfully to their lives. More books followed. With humor and good
will, Sandra reaches out to those she calls Messies with words of hope and with
practical techniques that really work.

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15 of 18 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on October 18, 1998
Format: Paperback
Felton helps you understand yourself and the people you live with. There are a hundred books of how-tos and helpful hints; hers are about making yourself actually -do- something! This one is both helpful and supportive, for a person (whether messy or not) who lives with a Messie.
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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Anita on March 8, 2007
Format: Paperback
This book will liberate you from the thinking that makes you believe you have to keep after the messie person in your life and that it is somehow all your responsibility. It isn't. It's theirs!

This book gives you straight talk about what you should tolerate, and what you shouldn't, and points out that many of us with messie spouses have a great deal of difficulty setting personal boundaries. The author ties a messie house and messie spouse into our own low self-concept. Once you realize that all of it is related, you will be able to decide which boundaries are appropriate, what you CAN live with, and what you SHOULDN"T live with. This book changed my life. I think it will change yours too.
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16 of 22 people found the following review helpful By OverworkedMom on May 11, 2006
Format: Paperback
I bought this book hoping it would help me find ways to get my husband to help out around the house. He is a slob. He is a packrat who leaves his stuff everywhere, never puts anything back when he's done with it and basically watches TV all evening while I clean up. The solution according to this book? I should just not say anything to him and clean it up myself! I tried it and all it got me was MORE work to do around the house! The author suggests breaking down household chores by having each spouse rank them 1-10 by how important having the chore done is to them. The spouse who ranks the chore higher is then responsible for that chore. Problem is, when you have a spouse who ranks everything "1", then you are stuck doing EVERYTHING and the spouse feels justified. After all, that's the advice from the "expert" after all! Following this book's advice has just made the situation far worse in my household. I am tired, worn out and barely keeping my head above water as far as the housework is concerned. How exactly does this book's philosophy help me? It just makes things more pleasant for the "Messie" while the "MessieMate" gets screwed! If you're looking for real solutions to getting help around the house, don't waste your time or money on this book!
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By SweetPea on December 21, 2013
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It is a self-survival kit for anyone living with an ADDer! Sandra Felton hits most of the key points as far as I am concerned.
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