When the Man You Love Is Ill: Doing Your Best for Your Partner Without Losing Yourself (Paperback)

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Product Description

When the Man You Love is Ill is a woman's guide to living with a partner facing a medical crisis or chronic illness. How do you understand the male psyche? How do you manage your own feelings of fear and guilt? How do you deal with the loss and keep the family stable? This book helps to heal the relationship with their partners or spouses.

About the Author

Psychologist Dorree Lynn, PhD is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and something of a “therapist to the stars” in Washington D.C. Her client list includes senators and other high-powered political figures as well as major media personalities. A frequent media presence herself, she’s appeared on myriad programs, including ABC’s Good Morning America, Fox New Channel’s Special Report, PBS, Court TV, MSNBC, CBS Eyewitness News, DC’s Channel 16, and Voice of America, among others. She is a former host of her own program on Radio America. Dr. Lynn has been quoted in magazine such as Newsweek, Time, Health, Parenting, Ladies’ Home Journal, First for Women, and Glamour and in newspapers including the New York Times, Washington Post, USA Today, Los Angeles Times, Atlanta Journal Constitution, Baltimore Sun, and Newsday. A well-known speaker, she frequently lectures on the subject. Her popular website is www.fiftyandfurthermore.com.

Florence Isaacs is a freelance writer and author or coauthor of seven books, including the bestselling Just a Note to Say...Perfect Words for Every Occasion. She has contibuted articles on health and relationships to a number of magazines and is a past president of The American Society of Journalists and Authors. She cared for her husband’s through a series of illnesses (Crohn’s disease, stroke, and colorectal cancer).

Product Details

• Paperback: 336 pages
• Publisher: Da Capo Press (May 9, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1569242852
• ISBN-13: 978-1569242858
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #709,991 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Not Just For Wives (Also for Husbands and Life Partners), May 19, 2007

By	Tiffany (Bowie, MD (suburb outside of DC)) - See all my reviews

I love this book. Several things resonated with me intensely. Firstly, I was able to take a mini-test in "When The Man You Love Is Ill" to learn my coping style (I am a feeler by the way), and ways to maximize the help I was able to give and to seek help for my husband based upon this style. The first part of this book spoke about how to effectively give care and seek assistance, as well as how to be a champion for your spouse's care (it really is for husbands, wives, and life partners).

The other brilliant thing about this book is the powerfulness of the second half and the notion of "Transformational Love". I'd never really heard of this term. But it explores the idea of how a spouse's disability or illness can forge a deeper bond never explored in complete "health". Some couples never are able to feel this kind of love and the book explores why and its very very interesting.

I also loved the notion of self-care. I am no good to anyone, if I can't sleep or if I am overwhelmed with grief and anxiety. I learned the things that I can do to take care of me and maintain my own health.
Buy this book today.

7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Common sense...just when you need it, May 1, 2007

By	R. Haverlin - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This well thought out book will help anyone who has a loved that is going through a tough time. I found myself saying "I know that" but for whatever reason I wasn't doing "that" to help myself or my husband. I highly recommend this book for anyone in this situation

4 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It's Got All the Answers, September 20, 2007

By	Joan R. Heilman "Joan R. Heilman, health writer" - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I strongly recommend this insightful guidebook for women whose men are seriously ill, whether the illness is temporary, chronic, or life-threatening. It is an all-encompassing resource that helps you deal with the overwhelming challenges, decisions, and responsibilities you may face. The compassionate advice and helpful tips cover every possible problem---from physical disabilities or troubling behavior changes, to navigating the medical establishment, holding the family together, keeping love alive, and even keeping financially afloat, while, at the same time, coping with your own needs. If you man gets sick, I think you will find amazing support in this empathetic book.