The topics range from the psychological responses to a parent's death such as shock, depression, and guilt, to the practical consequences such as dealing with estates and funerals.
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A practical guide for coping with the loss of a parent, this book was written by a journalist who has lost both. Edward Myers makes it clear that no matter how old we are, the death of a parent can be devastating, evoking intense and complex feelings that have long-lasting implications. Comprised of advice from therapists, practices for self-help groups and first-person accounts, Myers covers the grieving process and differentiates between the impact of sudden death and slow decline. He also offers advice for funeral planning, dividing personal property and resolving feelings such as guilt, shame and isolation.
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"One of the situations you face in grieving for a parent is the likelihood that some people will treat it as a non-event"; well-meaning friends will commonly "ask `how's your mother taking it?' but nothing about how you feel" writes Myers, a free-lance journalist who has experienced the death of both parents as an adult. Relying primarily on interviews and questionnaires, the author covers the grieving process, the difference in impact of sudden death versus slow decline, and some of the practical and emotional issues involved in planning the funeral, dividing personal property, and resolving residual feelings. Although not comprehensive, this book is recommended as a resource for further reading and/or for guidance from social service agencies and as a validation of grief upon losing one's parentsat any age. Suzanne Druehl, Little Rock P.L., Ark .
Copyright 1986 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Copyright 1986 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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159 of 159 people found the following review helpful
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I first came across this book nearly 10 years ago when my 70-year-old father passed away. He had been ill for some time so his passing was expected, and in some ways seemed to be such a relief. No one who loved him wanted to see him suffer any longer and his suffering certainly took its toll on my dear sweet mother; yet, in the weeks following his passing I found myself completely unprepared to experience the grief that followed. I thought I was having a nervous breakdown until I read Myers book. The book literally rescued me from the depths of grief and helped me to move forward with my life. Since then, I have bought perhaps a dozen copies of the book for friends who have lost their parents and they, too, have told me how helpful they have found the book to be. Last October my dear sweet mother passed away and reading the book again has spared me from the agony of grief that I experienced with the loss of my father. By understanding and being so much more prepared for the loss of my mother, I found myself much more able to cherish her life rather than be emotionally devistated by grieving her loss. Sadly, I am purchasing another copy of the book to give to a dear friend who lost her father two days ago.
41 of 41 people found the following review helpful
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I lost my mother over a year ago, and it really wasn't until a few months ago that I finally realized that I needed to find some help for myself to realize what I was going through was natural for me. Over the past two months I have purchased at least a half a dozen books on the subject of bereavement and this book by far was able to pinpoint my feelings and emotions to a tee. From the guilt that I was feeling over things that were said before she died, to the grief that I am feeling now. This was the first book that I truly felt like I found some of my answers lying in the pages. I didn't walk away from this book feeling worse than when I started, it was actually a healing presence for me, knowing that what I was feeling was natural and that life does goes on but in a totally different light. This book may not be for everyone, but for me it was my saving grace!
38 of 38 people found the following review helpful
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I read this book when my father died. I was 21 and couldn't relate to most of the books out there, since they seemed to be geared either toward children or toward middle-aged people who'd lost an elderly parent. I was very grateful that this book addressed adult readers of all different ages, including mine. Myers recognizes the different things people are likely going through at different points in their lives. It was comforting to me just to realize that grieving was a normal, natural process and that, even though I felt at an awkward age to be experiencing this type of loss, I wasn't alone.
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well rounded, covers almost all topics
this book will help with almost any situation. it is well organized and you can read the sections that only apply to your situation. Read more
Published 3 months ago by Laura B.
Missed an increasing trend
The book does not discuss an increasing trend. Children as caretakers of parents in their own homes. Read more
Published 15 months ago by Chancellor
There is a reason this book is still in print ...
Although it was written in 1986, this book is still effective today (2010). It is more thorough than most books, discussing sudden death, slow decline, changes in the relationships... Read more
Published 19 months ago by One can never have enough books!
Disappointing
I found this book disappointing - not as helpful as I'd expected. For me, there were too many details and short anecdotes but none explored in any depth. Read more
Published on March 7, 2010 by Bookworm
Justifying my feelings
I really felt that this book helped me justify alot of feelings I had concerning my dad's recent passing. Read more
Published on February 6, 2010 by Cheryl Moran
My poetic throughts on the loss of my mother
MOTHER DEAR
(Oh mother dear, I miss you like never before)
Where are your warm hugs? Read more
(Oh mother dear, I miss you like never before)
Where are your warm hugs? Read more
Published on May 22, 2009 by Sonya Tupone Lloyd
A must read for adult orphans
This book saved my life and helped me grieve the loss of my father, nineteen years after my mother had died. It helped me feel normal and allow my grieving to proceed. Read more
Published on June 13, 2008 by Theresa Kauffman
When Parents Die
Excellent info regarding what it is like when a parent dies, and one is no longer a child of that parent. Normal discussions of how people might feel. Read more
Published on August 16, 2007 by Bonnie L. Kramer
thoughtful and balanced book
I found this book very helpful following the sudden death of my mother. There was a good balance of personal stories - both the author's and from interviews - and factual... Read more
Published on May 12, 2007 by sarahmm
outstanding and very complete about parental loss
My mother recently died in a tragic accident. This is by far the best book I have read on this subject. Read more
Published on May 6, 2007 by MK
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In some ways, there is no death that can seem less unfair, less outrageous, than the death of a parent whose children have reached adulthood. Read the first page Key Phrases - Statistically Improbable Phrases (SIPs): (learn more)
hen parents, bereavement following, attachment feelings, grief process Key Phrases - Capitalized Phrases (CAPs): (learn more)
Marcia Lattanzi, Mark Cernik, New York, Cynthia Sanderson, The Anatomy of Bereavement, Hospice of Marin, Wendy Foster-Evans, Beverley Raphael, Boulder County Hospice, Carolyn Jaffe, Hospice of Metro Denver, United States, Final Acts of Love, Neglected Grief New!
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Front Cover | Table of Contents | First Pages | Index | Back Cover | Surprise Me!
In some ways, there is no death that can seem less unfair, less outrageous, than the death of a parent whose children have reached adulthood. Read the first page Key Phrases - Statistically Improbable Phrases (SIPs): (learn more)
hen parents, bereavement following, attachment feelings, grief process Key Phrases - Capitalized Phrases (CAPs): (learn more)
Marcia Lattanzi, Mark Cernik, New York, Cynthia Sanderson, The Anatomy of Bereavement, Hospice of Marin, Wendy Foster-Evans, Beverley Raphael, Boulder County Hospice, Carolyn Jaffe, Hospice of Metro Denver, United States, Final Acts of Love, Neglected Grief New!
Concordance | Text Stats Browse Sample Pages:
Front Cover | Table of Contents | First Pages | Index | Back Cover | Surprise Me!
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- Recovery from Bereavement by Colin Murray Parkes on 4 pages
- Final Acts of Love: Families, Friends, and Assisted Dying by Stephen Jamison on page 107, page 110, and Back Matter
- The Essential Guide to Wills, Estates, Trusts and Death Taxes (Estate Planning) by Alex J. Soled on page 122, and Back Matter
- How to Avoid Probate! by Norman F. Dacey on page 122, and Back Matter
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- The Alzheimer's Caregiver : Dealing with the Realities of Dementia by Harriet Hodgson on 5 pages
- Smiling Through Your Tears: Anticipating Grief by Harriet Hodgson on 5 pages
- Fatherless Women: How We Change After We Lose Our Dads by Clea Simon on 4 pages
- Fatherless Women: How We Change After We Lose Our Dads by Clea Simon on 4 pages
- Losses in Later Life: A New Way of Walking With God by Richard L Dayringer on page 72, and Back Matter
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