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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Shambhala; First Edition edition (July 22, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 159030571X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1590305713
  • Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.5 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (44 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #27,612 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

David Richo, PhD, is a therapist and author who leads popular workshops on personal and spiritual growth. He is known for drawing on Buddhist thought, poetry, and Jungian perspectives in his work. He is the author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships and The Five Things We Cannot Change. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.

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David Richo, PhD, is a therapist and author who leads popular workshops on personal and spiritual growth.

He received his BA in psychology from Saint John's Seminary in Brighton, Massachusetts, in 1962, his MA in counseling psychology from Fairfield University in 1969, and his PhD in clinical psychology from Sierra University in 1984. Since 1976, Richo has been a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor in California. In addition to practicing psychotherapy, Richo teaches courses at Santa Barbara City College and the University of California Berkeley at Berkeley, and has taught at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, Pacifica Graduate Institute, and Santa Barbara Graduate Institute. He is a clinical supervisor for the Community Counseling Center in Santa Barbara, California.

Known for drawing on Buddhism, poetry, and Jungian perspectives in his work, Richo is the author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving and The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find in Embracing Them. He has also written When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships, Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side, The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know, and Being True to Life: Poetic Paths to Personal Growth.

Richo lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco.

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I liked the book so much, when I returned the library's copy, I bought my own.
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65 of 72 people found the following review helpful By Deborah L. Aaron on September 7, 2008
Format: Paperback
"When the Past Is Present" is one of the best books I have ever read. In this beautifully written work Dr. Richo explains psychological terminology in a manner that is easy to understand. This aspect of the book refreshing, clear and illuminating. Yet it is also a very spiritual book that speaks to one's heart. The material provides a profound and useful way for us to examine relationships so that we can move away from and let go of the past. I believe that anyone who reads this book will be positively and deeply affected by it.
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31 of 32 people found the following review helpful By R. Windham on October 6, 2008
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As great as Richo's How to be an Adult. Richo's a poet. He gives unparalleled insight to why we act/react the way we do. If you are practicing mindfulness and a Twelve Step program, this book is for you. Both of Richo's books I've mentioned have increased my personal work and deepened my husband's and my relationship.
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37 of 40 people found the following review helpful By C. Watts on February 28, 2010
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This book belongs on the shelf of any therapist/psychologist. David Richo suggests that all good relationships are based on the 5 A's: Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowing your partner to be his/her self. The book is based on how earlier life problems are replayed through relationships, aka transference. Richo beautifully discusses how certain relationship issues can be formed and more importantly, how one can break free of old habits that destruct relationships. To top it off the writing is beautifully written.
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20 of 20 people found the following review helpful By Todd K on February 19, 2014
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My friend has an old edition of Dr. Richo's "How to Be an Adult" that she treasures, but it wasn't until this book came onto my desk that I discovered how relevant his teachings were to me. Even though my spouse and I have been together for nearly a decade, I struggle with letting old issues lie and project them into current problems. I do think I'm getting better now because of this book's clear guidance. The 5 A's in particular are simple, beautiful, and easy to take home: Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowance (for your partner to be his/her self).

I have approached several books to improve the relationships in my life and each have illuminated different ideas that have worked for me. Similar to Impossible Love: Or Why the Heart Must Go Wrong, this book addresses transference of feelings, like obsessive love, into situations that are not exactly... ideal to say the least/ This book teaches you how to deal with the feelings by changing the thought patterns so they don't get the best of you!
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By Inner Journey on January 30, 2010
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I've found this book to be enlightening. It has shown me how my past shows up in most all of my current relationships and reactions to events. And it makes the point that it is not all bad to have this happen. It can be an occasion to look at those reactions and heal them so that we are not being ruled by former events. I'm enjoying the book greatly.
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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful By fally on August 18, 2011
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This book is amazing. David Richo eloquently and succinctly takes the reader on a journey to psychological enlightenment. The author provides a clear and sensitive guide on how to free ourselves from our past, using the appropriate psychological terminology (which can sometimes be absent from other books on the subject).
It can be quite challenging to read - concentration is required, simply because he doesn't waste pages on following case studies, but gets straight to the core of the issue that he is discussing. Consequently, each page has revelations and insights to reflect upon. It is advisable to take it slowly so that the reader can gain the optimal benefits from each insight.
Having read a number of books on this subject, including some of the most popular, I can honestly advise those who are serious about gaining emotional freedom to go straight to this book.
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14 of 17 people found the following review helpful By Tim on May 11, 2011
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I have developed very strong affectionate feelings for my therapist (which had taken over 3 1/2 years), and didn't know how to handle them. (FYI, I am a male, she is female, both of us are in our mid-40's). Per her recommendation, she suggested I check out a book on transference from the local library, which was David Richo's book. He explained with great examples what transference is, and how we carry our past feelings into our present lives. He also gives great examples on how to deal with them, how to change our thought patterns and not let our feelings and emotions control our lives in a negative way. I liked the book so much, when I returned the library's copy, I bought my own. I recommend it for anyone who needs the same help and assistance I did. A great buy for the money!
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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful By latina lovely on January 20, 2011
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This book is one of the best I have read for learning and executing the path for healing pasts hurts or harms.
I can't recommend it enough.
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