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When People Are Big and God is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man (Resources for Changing Lives) Paperback – June 1, 1997
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The focus of Welch's book is to have a greater healthy fear of God to the point that other people have less power and control over our lives.
The points Welch describes in his book include:
1. The fear of God is the best treatment for the fear of man.
2. Jesus was not a people-pleaser.
3. Having more fear of man than God is idolatry.
4. When we fear God we think of ourselves less.
5. When we spend more time with God, opinions of ourselves and what others think of us matter less.
6. We should love people more and need them less (only God can truly provide for our needs).
7. We love others because God first loved us.
8. When God is reduced to our feelings, He becomes less awesome to us while people become larger.
The "fear of God" may be defined as having a healthy reverence for God - He loves us and does not want us to be so afraid of Him that we are scared of having a personal relationship with Him.
Read the book and be encouraged to be more concerned about what God thinks and less concerned about what other people think!
Ultimately, Welch argues, the problem with man is low esteem for his Creator. If we truly lived before an Audience of One, Welch believes that many of our daily "problems" would be solved with a proper perspective - we would see ourselves in a proper light and we would see that we are not the source of that light, but created to be the reflectors of it to others.Read more ›
I wish we had read it a long time ago. I have never had the biblical concept of *love* in its truest sense explained so clearly.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone that has struggled with dysfunctional family relationships, codependency issues, or even just loving your enemies.
I want to buy a case of these and pass them out to everyone we know!! That's how great this book is.
This book also got me more interested in counselling and "Christian" psychology. Some of the views written challenges many common Christian Psychology/counselling teachings - he challenges some of Larry Crabb's views.
But besides these "differences" (which i need to look more into), i think this book is an excellent read - especially for Christians who are in leadership positions. There is always a tendency to be controlled by the opinions of man, and thus in Welch's terms, succumb to a fear of man, rather than to be controlled by what God teaches, therefore be a God fearing Christian.
This book calls us to deny ourselves, to crucify our ungodly desires for popularity, fame and good opinions of man. It calls us to see God as bigger than man and once we do that, we will start to fear God and not man. Wonderful thought-provoking, life- and attitude-challenging stuff.
The second half of the book is more helpful. Welch gives several positive biblical examples of what the fear of the Lord looks like, and why we should strive to have it replace the fear of man in our hearts. His continuum of terror to worship shows the different forms our fear of God should take as we grow in our knowledge of him--the fear is never removed, but it matures into a healthy, reverential fear of the holy God who has befriended us in Christ. His paradigm of loving people rather than needing them, of seeking to serve others rather than having them serve our own purposes, is a good corrective to the self-centered pop psychology we are inundated with in the West.
Welch's book is a good biblical antidote to peer pressure, codependency and the fear of man. With a proper understanding of who God is and the resulting fear of him, we have no need to fear men. Instead we can love and serve them the way God intends. This book is a great resource both for personal growth and as a reference for counseling.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Great book! Reading for the 2nd time - especially if you are a people pleaser . . .Published 3 days ago by Nurse55
I'm enjoying the book so far. Sad to say, I haven't finished it yet though. So far, it reads easy. Draws you in well, and is easy to relate to. Read morePublished 22 days ago by WillowLanders
Extremely helpful book. Changed the way I look at the world.Published 29 days ago by Amazon Customer
Welch does an excellent job out lining the issues pertaining not just codependent relationships, but relationship issues in general. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Stephen Ganschow
Probably one of my top 5 books of all time. So grateful for the way Ed Welch is able to really dig into what subconsciously motivates us and then bring us back to the Gospel!Published 1 month ago by Lucy T.
This book is great for those who struggle with people pleasing / giving people too much "power" in our minds. Read morePublished 2 months ago by B
Great in my effort to stop fearing the opinion of people rathet than fearing God.Published 3 months ago by Bruce A. Wendland