When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart: Letters to Hurting Wives [Paperback]

Kathy Gallagher (Author), Beverly LaHaye (Foreword)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 30, 2003

Behind every husband enslaved to sexual sin, there is a woman reaping the horrible side effects of his self-centered life-style. What can be more devastating for a wife than to discover her husband has a secret obsession with pornography and other women? Yet, this is what countless Christian wives face every day. Kathy Gallagher has been there; she understands the pain of rejection, the feelings of hopelessness and the questions that plague a hurting wife.  In this collection of letters, Kathy imparts heart-felt encouragement by providing the practical, biblical answers that helped her find healing in the midst of her most trying storm. The 30-day journal offers wives a place to prayerfully reflect and meditate upon Kathy’s letters. When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart testifies that there is hope for the most dejected of souls and the bleakest of marriages.

Editorial Reviews

Review

“This is one of the deepest betrayals a woman faces. Kathy’s personal experience and years of counseling have provided her with tremendous insight.” Beverly LaHaye

About the Author

In 1986, Kathy Gallagher helped her husband Steve found Pure Life Ministries, a ministry for men struggling with habitual sexual sin. Kathy soon found herself spending countless hours ministering to the hurting wives of these men, pointing them to Jesus and giving them hope through the very answers that worked for her. Today, because of Kathy’s passion to help these women, hundreds of wives receive counseling through Pure Life’s Overcomers At Home Program each year. She and Steve make their home in rural Kentucky where she serves as the CFO of Pure Life Ministries.

Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Pure Life Ministries (April 30, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0971547017
• ISBN-13: 978-0971547018
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.3 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #57,359 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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66 of 70 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book, September 16, 2004

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317718 (MidWest) - See all my reviews

This review is from: When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart: Letters to Hurting Wives (Paperback)

As a wife of a porn addict, I didn't know that so many things were tied together... I thought his porn addiction was just one aspect of his life, I didn't know that being financially controlling, emotionally distant and cold, not having intimacy in or out of the bedroom, not socializing.... it was all related! This book helped me to go from feeling isolated and alone to realizing I'm not the only woman who is in this exact same spot! And best of all... there is help and there is hope! AND Kathy Gallagher helps you to stay focus on the Almighty Healer through it all. I highly reccomend this book to anyone hurting and searching for answers.

27 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars May not suit everyone's needs...., July 16, 2005

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P. Sutton (Northern Minnesota) - See all my reviews

This review is from: When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart: Letters to Hurting Wives (Paperback)

If you are looking for a book to help with a personal situation in your life or in the life of someone you love that is hurting, this is not the first book I would recommend. Each letter is written with a different situation in mind and it is likely that only a few of the letters she writes will touch your personal situation, especially if your situation involves other forms of abuse. If you are looking for a more professional or pyschological approach, you may want to look elsewhere. However, if you want to have a greater understanding of how the sexual addictions of husbands hurt their wives or to let you know you are not alone, this book will help give you that. Kathy, the author, has experienced a great deal of hurt in her own marriage and identifies well with the various situations. Although I didn't always agree with her advice, I admire Kathy's consistency as she points each woman back to the Lord where all Truth and healing ultimately lies.

27 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great Help in Times of Crises!!!, July 28, 2004

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Gregory Nyman (Winchendon, MA United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart: Letters to Hurting Wives (Paperback)

Unlike the previous reviewer, this was not a waste of money, and as far as Patrick Carnes is concerned, he has particular limitations, in that he doesn't focus on the spiritual applications. Kathy Gallagher has lived through her own husband's addiction for many years, and yes...she has compiled letters, but this is important, as it is an emotional look at a painful subject.

She provides encouragement by providing practical and biblical answers based on real life testimonies, and she not only sympathizes with the emotional turmoil wives experience, but more importantly, she directs them to their only true source of hope - Jesus Christ.

Read with an open heart and mind, and make up your own mind, not based on a biased and ill-informed perception of faith and the answers it provides. You make the decision!! The book comes highly recommended!!!