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When Someone You Love Has a Chronic Illness: Hope and Help for Those Providing Support Paperback – February 14, 2012
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As an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco, Tamara's writing has focused on health psychology, psychoanalytic psychology, coping with illness and advice for caregivers. She is the author of 4 books and numerous contributed chapters, including When Someone You Love Has a Chronic Illness (Cedar Fort, 2012) and the Second Edition of Psychodynamic Perspectives on Aging and Illness (Springer, 2016). Her website is tamara-greenberg.com and she is in private practice in San Francisco.
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Bringing complex psychological ideas to the public eye in accessible prose, Greenberg succeeds admirably in educating people on the dynamics of chronic illness and how to cope with the ongoing challenges they pose. Written for both patients who have enduring health problems and those who interact with them, whether this be a family member, spouse, partner, caretaker, co-worker, friend, or neighbor, she covers topics that are often thought about, but not usually discussed openly with others. Her advice is practical, sophisticated, sound, and sincere, hence drawn from her years of experience as a psychologist working clinically with health populations.
Greenberg explains how chronic illness is a family disease and the caretakers are just as affected as the patient. She gives voice to their emotional pain, despair, anxiety, loss, and helplessness, and creates a permissible space for them to process their feelings and communicate most effectively with those who they care for.Read more ›
That year had been extremely difficult due to the unexpected loss of our beloved cat to a very aggressive type of cancer; a severe acute illness of one of our dogs (who fortunately recovered completely); and a few other incidents that just made us shake our heads and wonder what was wrong with this year.
Getting diagnosed with a chronic illness was bad. But even worse was living with Lupus; not so much with the physical pain as good pain medication helped a great deal; but mostly with the psychological affects.
For the loved one, the person he/she fell in love with and mastered the past 10 or 15 years with, seems gone. All of a sudden, there are two people suffering from a chronic illness; some symptoms different but some very, very similar.
This book helped us tremendously to start openly communicating again; something that we had been doing throughout all the years we've spent together. We were so in love, we were so happy, we were soulmates..!
Nothing seemed to ever be able to shake our base, our foundation, because that is how strong we were together. Everyone who knew us was in awe about our ability to work through difficult situations, misunderstandings, or family drama. Communication was a huge strength of us as a couple.
Within a mere 3-4 months, all that seemed to have crumbled to dust. While I tried to stay positive and enjoy the good days, my husband somehow wasn't able to do the same. If I had a bad day, it would erase all memories for him of the good days we had just shared. He simply couldn't hold on to positive and optimistic thoughts and feelings.Read more ›
I especially appreciated Greenberg's summary of the culture of our current health care system and how best to deal with it. For example, she points out that doctors have so many obligations and patients to attend to they generally do not have time to engage in extended discussions about emotional reactions to health problems. She recommends that as either a patient or family member you take the initiative in terms of health care and come into an appointment with questions/concerns clearly in mind to discuss. She suggests treating doctor appointments as business meetings and to prepare accordingly. Great advice to my way of thinking.
The experiences that she shares throughout the book add clarity to the points she makes about the emotions and reactions to illness. The author points out the importance of self-care and facing the emotions associated with chronic illness either as a patient or as a loved one. She explains that the helplessness often felt by those associated with the patient can often lead to further problems if not appropriately directed. I recommend this book for its clear explanations and great advice.
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this book is thoughtful and addresses a situation that most of us will face at some time in our lives. Priceless info!Published on September 4, 2013 by C. Hollingsworth
When Someone You Love Has a Chronic Illness, is more closely tuned to the caregiver's emotional needs than most. Read morePublished on June 30, 2013 by H. Whiteside
When Someone You love Has Chronic Illness, written by Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg, brings the important topic of chronic illness to the forefront, allowing readers to become... Read morePublished on September 11, 2012 by Christy Monson
I really enjoyed perusing this book. The author writes in a way that her explanations really engage you and keep you reading further. Read morePublished on September 3, 2012 by The Cover (And Everything in Between)
Tamara has written a tool that is useful for anyone living or working with someone suffering from a chronic illness. Read morePublished on March 22, 2012 by Ankhesenamun Ball, PsyD