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Product Details

  • Paperback: 176 pages
  • Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (April 12, 2013)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0802407048
  • ISBN-13: 978-0802407047
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 0.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (52 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #8,342 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From the Back Cover

"I said I was sorry!"

 

Even in the best of relationships, all of us make mistakes. We do and say things we later regret and hurt the people we love most. So we need to make things right. But simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough.

 

In this book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas unveil new ways to effectively approach and mend fractured relationships. Even better, you'll discover how meaningful apologies provide the power to make your friendships, family, and marriage stronger than ever before.

 

When Sorry Isn't Enough will help you . . .

 

·         Cool down heated arguments

·         Offer apologies that are fully accepted

·         Rekindle love that has been dimmed by pain

·         Restore and strengthen valuable relationships

·         Trade in tired excuses for honesty, trust, and joy

 

This book was previously published as The Five Languages of Apology. Content has been significantly revised and updated.

About the Author

GARY CHAPMAN, PhD, is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages. With over 30 years of counseling experience, he has the uncanny ability to hold a mirror up to human behavior, showing readers not just where they go wrong, but also how to grow and move forward. Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University. For more information visit his website at www.5lovelanguages.com.

JENNIFER M. THOMAS, Ph.D., is a graduate of the University of Virginia and psychologist with Associates in Christian Counseling in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. Jennifer counsels on a wide variety of individual and couples' issues from communication to trauma recovery and spiritual healing and is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. Jennifer is co-author of The Five Languages of Apology with Dr. Gary Chapman. Visit her website at www.drjenthomas.com. Jennifer and her husband, J.T., serve together on the marriage team at their home church and have three children.

More About the Author

Married more than 45 years to Karolyn, Dr. Gary Chapman is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over thirty-five years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Millions of readers credit this continual New York Times bestseller with saving their marriages by showing them simple and practical ways to communicate their love to their partner.
Since the success of his first book, Dr. Chapman has expanded his Five Love Languages series to specifically reach out to teens, singles, men, and children (co-authored with Dr. Ross Campbell).
He is the author of numerous other books published by Moody Publishers/Northfield Publishing, including The World's Easiest Guide to Family Relationships, Anger, The Family You've Always Wanted, The Marriage You've Always Wanted, Desperate Marriages, God Speaks Your Love Language (Jan 09), Parenting Your Adult Child, and Hope for the Separated. He co-authored The Five Languages of Apology with Dr. Jennifer Thomas.
Chapman speaks to thousands of couples nationwide through his weekend marriage conferences. He hosts a nationally syndicated radio program, Love Language Minute, and a Saturday morning program, Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, that air on more than 100 stations. Dr. Chapman also serves as senior associate pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.
Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University.
Dr. Chapman and his wife have two adult children and two grandchildren, and currently live in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.

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I'm impressed with the content of this book.
Bob
As with The 5 Love Languages, each person has a primary way they communicate apology, and a way they desire to receive an apology.
Kevin Mahaffy
I believe the information so well outlined in this book will help me maintain better relationships with my friends and family.
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Bob on May 20, 2013
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I'm impressed with the content of this book. I have also read Dr. Chapman's 5 love languages and I was a little worried that this book would just be a re-working of that book, but it is almost entirely new content and research. I think this book is well done and I have seen positive results from it already. This is a much shorter quicker read than The 5 Love Languages but it is well worth the price.

Dr. Chapman does take the Christian approach to the topic of apologies. You could still get something out of this book if you were not religious. I just wanted to make others aware that, as will all of Chapman's books, there is a religious aspect to it.
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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful By Victory Girl on June 29, 2013
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I just finished reading "When Sorry Isn't Enough" by Gary Chapman (of The 5 Love Languages fame) and Jennifer Thomas. Wow. What an insightful book.

This book discusses some very important issues about apologies and forgiveness, like:

*Why we hunger for a real apology when we have been hurt;
*The components of a complete apology;
*Why forgiveness isn't the same thing as trust;
*What forgiveness really is and what it can and cannot do;
*Why some people will not apologize and what to do when they won't;
*The danger of forgiving too easily;
*Forgiving yourself;
*What our forgiveness "language" is (meaning, what kinds of words do we need to hear in order to feel that we've been given a sincere and complete apology).

The only thing this book doesn't do is something that it can't, and that's take away the hurt of a fractured relationship. But, it does help one to understand this whole messy process better and hopefully begin the healing process quicker.

This will definitely be a book I use with my kids at some point during their high school/home school career. As a matter of fact, this book should be mandatory reading for everyone on the planet. And there should be a test, too.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I was provided a free copy of this book by Moody Publishers in exchange for my honest opinion.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Four Blessings on September 26, 2013
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The book, When Sorry Isn't Enough, definitely is a book to make you look at your approach to any relationship. Gary Chapman uses his research in The Five Languages of Apology to help define the different types of apologies that are given in five separate chapters. Each language chapter gives real life examples of the apology example from both of the authors and the end of the chapter will give example apology statements. There are also chapters about forgiveness, apologizing to self, and also a chapter titled "What If I Don't Want to Apologize?"

Each chapter has a section at the end called "Talk About It" which can help the reader to personally reflect the content of the chapter. This little section could also be used in a little group study. The chapters were filled with impacting information, yet kept the attention of the reader. When Biblical references are used, both of the authors make sure all readers would be able to understand the context, even if someone was not aware the Bible story. The back of the book has examples of things to say when apologizing, and even things to NOT say when apologizing. There is even a little quiz at the end of the book so you can find out what type of language you apologize.

Because this book focuses on relationships between spouse, siblings, in-laws, parent-child relationships, friends, and co-workers, this book should be found in every home's library.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Roland Jackson on October 2, 2013
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This book changed my life! Son and daughter still have nothing to do with me...but I now have some insight on what they may be thinking and I will just love them from afar. Only a set number of days in one's life....so important to accept what I can't change and to live every day being happy and feeling blessed for all those in my life that love me.
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17 of 21 people found the following review helpful By mlnagel on October 6, 2013
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MP Newsroom and Northfield publishing were kind enough to send Lisa and I this book to review as well as keep as a family resource. You might recognize Gary Chapman's name from his bestselling work '5 Love Languages', Jennifer Thomas also is a well known writer and psychologist. Together they teamed to make this work possible, here is what I think about it:

Contents:
Introduction:WhyThisIsImportant. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
1. Righting Wrongs. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13
2. "I'm Sorry":Expressing Regret.........................................21
3. "I Was Wrong":Accepting Responsibility..............................33
4. "How Can I Make It Right?":Making Restitution.....................45
5. "I Want to Change":GenuinelyRepenting............................59
6. "Can You Find It in Your Heart...":Requesting Forgiveness. . . . . . . .73
7. How Do You Say You're Sorry?..........................................83
8. What If You Don't Want to Apologize?.................................93
9. Learning to Forgive . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109
10.Healing Your Family Relationships.................................. 125
11.Choosing to Forgive Yourself......................................... 139
12.Truly Sorry, TrulyForgiven............................................ 149
Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 155
Acknowledgments. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
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