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When the Vow Breaks: A Survival and Recovery Guide for Christians Facing Divorce

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12/27/00

It has been exactly a year since my wife had an affair with her girlfriend's husband, filed for divorce, and hired my city's most notorious Family Law attorney to attack me. There are now five attorneys involved (2 custody, 2 financial, & a discovery referee) and four accountants.

If you are going through a divorce, or contemplating one, I must tell you, this last year has been the most difficult in my life. I have a strong faith in GOD, I am the father of two wonderful children, and I am the CEO of a large holding company.

I have always read 50 books a year. And this year is no exception. Only this year, 25 were on divorce ranging from "When a mate wants out" to "Moving on when your mate moves out". However, by far the best book I read was Joseph Warren Kniskern's book, "When the Vow Breaks".

I am the leader of a large organization and I teach as well. One of the greatest compliments I can get, is for someone to say, often many years later, "You made a difference in my life".

This is exactly the compliment of a lifetime that I want to give to Warren. His book made a difference in my life and it will in yours as well.

Mr. Kniskern addresses many issues in this book for those facing a seemingly impossible situation. It is so painful to find yourself facing divorce when you really believed in "till death do you part". Whether your spouse is wanting out of the marriage, or circumstances have occurred that make it impossible to stay, this book is a Godsend! He discusses the Biblical views on marriage, when divorce is acceptable for Christians, why we should first consider reconciliation (for me, a very important topic), emotional and spiritual healing, as well as legal issues. In my case, I did have scriptural grounds for a divorce, but God used this book to encourage me to try again with my husband. We are currently working on reconciliation, and God has worked many miracles in our relationship and lives. A definite "must read" for anyone who thought their marriage would last forever, only to have the rug pulled out from under them. I have recommended this book to several friends, and would encourage pastors and counselors to check it out as well.

Of the Christian-oriented books on divorce recovery that I've read, this is the best. Though it comes from a somewhat more fundamentalist perspective than I usually subscribe to, it avoids being preachy, and is accessible in tone, even for people who don't come from a fundamentalist background. I highly recommend this one for people dealing with an unwanted divorce - I'm keeping it around to share with others who are going through what I've been through!

This book contains many practical suggestions to guide one through the divorce process. The author's legal perspective is evident in the preciseness of the information that is provided. However, beyond the practical navigation tips through this trying process, the many biblical references provide a spiritual framework to this painful experience. Regardless of one's religious affiliation, the scriptural excerpts are comforting and educational. This book is highly recomended for someone who is going through the process of divorce and is in need of emotional, spritual, and practical direction.

Unlike some other guides written for Christians facing divorce, this book is written by a Christian who actually went through an unwanted divorce and its painful aftermath. This book is excellent - compassionate as well as practical. I emailed the author with a biblical question regarding my own marital situation and he replied within days. Needless to say, I was impressed! I cannot recommend this book strongly enough.

This is a great book that deals with the issue of divorce in a practical and real way. The author is very Biblical in his treatment of this difficult subject, but at the same time he brings a unique insight and senstivity to the issue as a person who himself went through the pains of a divorce. The book will give a strong Biblical perspective to the reader while at the same time encouraging him/her through the difficult process of recovering from a divorce.

I never imagined I would be reading this book. I have cried rivers of tears this year upon facing the reality of my wife choosing divorce. Words simply can't describe how helpful this book was, on so many levels. I deeply appreciate the emphasis on Scripture. I just finished it and I am starting again now that my emotions are not so raw. I highly recommend anyone facing the indescribable horror of divorce, particuarly if you are the "non-initiator," to find an understanding friend in this book. Thank you, Joseph Kniskern, for having the courage to share your brokenness with me; I have thanked Him as you requested!

As we get older it seems that our time becomes even more precious. With every resource being depleted emotionally and physically during the divorce process time and attention is one of our most precious assets. There is no end to the books or the time we could spend reading on the subject of divorce. Make your time count by using this book as a support. I now personally recommend this to anyone in such a horrible situation. I will not re write the other great comments on this book but will simply say "it's worth every penny" as well as every moment spent with it. Good investment!

I bought this because my son is going through a divorce and I wanted something to help me so I could help him..... I STRONGLY recommend this book to anyone going through or has someone going through a divorce...

I bought this book and read some of it pertaining to my situation. Divorcecare is a popular Christian support group for divorced people or people facing divorce. Divorcecare groups use this as a resource.

I went to a divorcecare meeting at a church last night. Basically the people running it said that divorce is always the fault of both parties. Two of the women there were divorcing because of physical abuse, and they admitted that they were also to blame.

I have this book, and it says that battered women are to either remain single or reconcile with their husbands because of what it says in the Bible, and that domestic violence is not biblical grounds for divorce (pages 119-120). It says that these women must live in celibacy. Divorcecare group teaches that battered women who leave their husbands have no scriptural grounds and that we are to remain unmarried/alone for the rest of our lives. Except they say that God gives grace to enable that we obey being in solitude.

I already suspected all of this based upon my reading of scripture, that God wants the woman to stay with the abuser, and if she leaves, then she is punished with solitude for the rest of her life. So, I spent money on a book just to be told what I already thought to begin with.

Save your money and just read the Bible. The Bible can be less expensive, and it covers more topics than this book.