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When You Say 'thank You,' Mean It: And 11 Other Lessons for Instilling Lifelong Values In Your Children Hardcover – October 18, 2010
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About the Author
Nancy Lilienthal, MS Ed is the director of 43rd Street Kids Preschool. She received her Master's from Bank Street College of Education. At her school, Nancy promotes positive relationships between children, parents, students, and the world in which they live.
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It's every parent's nightmare: their child opens a gift from a well-meaning relative, and instead of, "thank you so much, Aunt Susie!" they say nothing. Then, when prompted by mom's "Hey, what do you say?" they give a sigh, an eye roll, then a long and forced: "thaaank youuuu."
This is exactly the type of situation that jolted author and proud mother of two, Mary O'Donohue to the sudden realization: prompting children to "say thank you" is merely training them to "act" grateful. It doesn't teach them to be grateful people. The same thing goes for other values. Telling kids to "say you're sorry" or "say please" doesn't teach them to be remorseful or respectful either. These words ultimately just scratch the surface of the values parents want their children to learn. Values like gratitude, respect for others, integrity and compassion are all qualities we hope to successfully pass on to our children as they get older. But how do we know we're teaching them in a way that's actually getting through? That question led Mary to develop a fun and practical program to effectively teach values to children in a way that has meaning and will stay with them as they grow into adulthood.
Mary and her husband Jim have been married for fifteen years and have two children. She balances being a mom with a long career in television production. Mary has worked for ABC, CBS, and NBC network stations, on shows such as "Today" and "Meet The Press," as well as on numerous music and entertainment programs including "MTV Unplugged," "Mariah Carey at St. John the Divine Cathedral," and "An Opryland Christmas;" and on many talk shows including "The Oprah Winfrey Show." She's an avid traveler, having spent time in Ireland, England, Wales, France, Germany, Italy, Mexico, and China. She loves to read and has a passion for photography. Mary plans to donate at least 10 percent of her author's net profits to charities benefitting families and education.
Top Customer Reviews
Written with humor and humility (essential ingredients for me, Mary's book provides practical, original tips for raising awesome kids. "When You Say Thank You Mean It" is not only a gift to parents, it is a gift to humanity. I didn't have it in my hands five minutes before giving it to my favorite postal provider and recommending also to my family physician. When books are "Hot" you have to share the good news and this one is smokin! Include business card pages for people to tear off on your future editions Mary, this book is destined for global enjoyment. Huge Hugs for a great gift!
Love Mama Marlaine
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Great advice, lessons, and action plans for children and families. Everyone of all ages should read this book. Read morePublished 22 months ago by Mark O. Flesner
With my children way past childhood, I started reading Mary O'Donohue's book mainly because a couple of younger mothers I knew were raving about it. Read morePublished on September 19, 2012 by Joan Wester Anderson
I love everything about this book--from the Thoreau quote in the beginning to Ms. O'Donahue's beautiful acknowledgments at the end. Read morePublished on October 31, 2011 by Sandra McLeod Humphrey