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When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manual (Haworth Series in GLBT Family Studies (GLBTFS)) [Paperback]

Carol Grever (Author), Deborah Bowman (Author)
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January 17, 2008 Haworth Series in GLBT Family Studies (GLBTFS)
Effective therapeutic self-help techniques for a straight mate’s recovery

One of the most traumatic events that can happen in a marriage is discovering your mate is gay. When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual is a comprehensive exploration of the trauma that provides practical steps that successful individuals have taken to keep this event from ruining their future. This guide offers solid therapeutic techniques for self-help and presents poignant true stories that illustrate that the damage is not irreparable. The book examines the various reactions to the coming-out event, the personal challenges and obstacles often experienced, and shares lessons learned and some of the secrets of transformation.

When this crisis hits home, isolation, depression, anger, grief, and self-recrimination take root. When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual presents role models, analysis, practices, and activities promoting long-term emotional recovery for heterosexual men and women whose intimate partners are gay. The text includes integrated exercises helpful for class work and student discussion and case studies of people who recount their stories and explain their recovery.

Topics in When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual include:
  • different straight spouse responses to the coming out event
  • diverse ways gay mates approach coming out
  • typical stages of coping by straight spouses
  • health risks
  • how to tell the children
  • helping children with the resulting challenges
  • paths toward healing
  • recreating family
  • and more


When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual offers a self-directed path to recovery which can be used individually or in the context of a support group. This guide is invaluable for straight spouses working alone or in groups, therapists, counselors, group facilitators, librarians, families of gays/lesbians, and their mates.

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About the Author

Carol Grever, M.A., has been a successful businesswoman and English professor and now writes professionally. She is author of two books on straight spouse recovery, My Husband Is Gay: A Woman's Guide to Surviving the Crisis, and My Spouse Came Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manual, co-authored by Dr. Deborah Bowman. Her unique documentary on the straight spouse dilemma, One Gay, One Straight: Complicated Marriages, was just released. She is a recognized spokesperson on straight spouse issues, interviewed on major network shows, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper 360, The Early Show, Iyanla, and Inside Edition. Carol earned BA and MA degrees from Phillips University and Pacific University, respectively, and did doctoral work at Oklahoma State University. An adopted Coloradan, she lives and writes in Boulder.


Deborah Bowman, Ph.D.
, co-author of When Your Spouse Comes Out, has worked with a wide range of issues as a clinical psychologist including the trauma facing straight spouses. She has over 17 years of experience in private practice. Her prior work in agencies includes the investigation of child abuse for Boulder County Social Services and serving the dying with Boulder County Hospice. As co-founder of the Boulder Women's Institute she specialized in facilitating sexual abuse survivor groups. She is a professional trainer with the Boulder Psychotherapy Institute offering courses in Gestalt therapy and dream work. Deborah has taught at Naropa University since 1990, where she founded the Transpersonal Counseling Psychology Program. She initiated several specializations in the program including Wilderness Therapy. Deborah holds a BA from Kansas University and earned her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Union Institute and University.


Product Details

  • Paperback: 170 pages
  • Publisher: The Haworth Press; 1 edition (January 17, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0789036290
  • ISBN-13: 978-0789036292
  • Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 6 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #372,204 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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This review is from: When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manual (Haworth Series in GLBT Family Studies (GLBTFS)) (Paperback)
This much needed text by Carol Grever and Deb Bowman serves as an outstanding self-help resource for spouses and ex-spouses of men coming out during marriage. It is well-organized, thoughtful, sensitive, and insightful as Carol shares her personal and professional experiences in this difficult family crisis. Many women in this situation often feel isolated and as if they are terribly alone in coping with difficult decisions that must be made. This text provides exercises and guidelines for all who need this kind of guidance to survive and heal.
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