When Your Spouse Dies - A Widow & Widower's Handbook [Paperback]

Othniel J. Seiden (Author), MD & Jane L. Bilett (Author), Ph.D. (Author), EJ Thornton (Editor)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 15, 2008

As a doctor and widowed more than 5 years ago, Dr. Othniel Seiden has more experience with the subject of bereavement than most anyone else on the planet. As his new wife, and a psychologist, Dr. Jane Bilett can speak to how both she and he built up a new life together. Dr. Seiden discusses the financial issues facing the newly widowed, the personal issues, the physical issues and offers coping mechanisms and practical advice for all. The purpose of this book is to help you, the newly widowed, to cope with your loss and help you down the path to eventually create the new life you've been released into. Your mate's life has ended, but the fact remains that yours has not. There will be new demands on you and you will have to figure out how to deal with them in addition to all the personal trauma you're going through. Using his experience as a roapmap, Dr. Seiden helps down the painful road you must travel which ultimately will allow you begin a new life full of wonderful memories and great new potential. Table of Contents Chapter I-You re Never Ready Chapter II-First Steps Chapter III-It Finally Sinks In...You re Alone Chapter IV-Taking Stock Chapter V-Grief Work Chapter VI-Remember the Rest of the Family Chapter VII-Starting Over Chapter VIII-Joining/Rejoining the Workforce Chapter IX-Don t Forget Your Social Needs Chapter X-Dating & Sex Chapter XI-I Think I m Falling In Love Again Chapter XII-I Never Want To Marry Again! Conclusion-Strive For Peace of Mind & Your Own Happiness! Appendix-Recommended Reading

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About the Author

Othniel J. Seiden, MD and Jane Bilett, Ph.D. Dealing with death is all too often required of physicians and clinical psychologists, but when Othniel J. Seiden, MD himself became a widower, he realized first hand the problems widows and widowers have to face and cope with. With the help and collaboration of his new wife, clinical psychologist Jane L. Bilett, Ph.D., he was able to successfully travel the difficult road from total devastation, through grief and then to a renewed and happy life. It is with the experiences that Drs. Bilett and Seiden gained traveling this bumpy road to renewed life and happiness, plus both of their professional and clinical experiences that made them an ideal couple team to write this handbook for widows and widowers. This book not only forewarns its readers of the obstacles in the rough road ahead through grief and bereavement to renewed happiness, but helps to smooth those ruts in the path through Dr. Seiden s own trial and error experiences.

Product Details

• Paperback: 116 pages
• Publisher: Books To Believe In; 1st edition (February 15, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0980194164
• ISBN-13: 978-0980194166
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.6 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #563,480 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

I do not have a literary background, though I did a year of graduate study at the University of Missouri School of Journalism, my real background is medical. I graduated from the University of Missouri School of Medicine in 1964 and practiced for 44 years, first as a General Practitioner, and the last 30 as an E.R. doc. I began writing as an avocation to help me unwind after a long day in the E.R. My writing went in two directions, one Historical Fiction, and the other Medical Self-Help, my forte translating medical information into easily understood lay language. In recent years that Self-Help has been more in the direction of Baby Boomer and senior health and emotional problems.
My Historical Novels deal mainly with Judaical, Holocaust, and Biblical History. Most of my books are both in print and on Amazon Kindle. Please enjoy! With over 40 books published by 10 different publishers I've been named Colorado's most prolific author. Google Othniel Seiden

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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars not a book you ever plan on reading, but it helped with the process, May 22, 2008

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M. Smith "mjo" (Oakland, Oregon) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: When Your Spouse Dies - A Widow & Widower's Handbook (Paperback)

Losing a spouse is never in your life plan. But when death happens, it's good to have a book that explains what needs to be done and the emotions surrounding the experience.

This book walked me through the day to day issues that needed to be done. The pain of losing a spouse and the 101 details and emotions that surround the death makes it hard to sort through the stuff. This book helped me.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It finally pointed me towards grief recovery..., May 3, 2008

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John Clark Craig "author of Sun Position - Hi... (Colorado) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: When Your Spouse Dies - A Widow & Widower's Handbook (Boomer Book Series) (Kindle Edition)

You never really will 'get over it,' however life does go on and I had to rejoin it. This book gave me that courage, mostly by giving me real tools with which to handle all the new challenges that were coming my way (wills, lawyers, social security, etc). After 8 months of grieving, it finally turned me towards recovery.

I HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who is dealing with a very sick spouse or has lost their spouse in the last year or just can't seem to rejoin the world, no matter how long it has been since they were widowed.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A forewarning..., May 1, 2008

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Charles "author of many published books" (Charlotte, NC) - See all my reviews

This review is from: When Your Spouse Dies - A Widow & Widower's Handbook (Paperback)

This book forewarned me of some of the logistical problems that come with widowhood. From the financial to the emotional, I did realize that I was having "normal" - if anyone can call it that - responses to what was happening to me. Thank you, Drs Seiden and Bilett for giving me enough comfort to feel comfortable inside my own skin again.

If you're going through this, get this book, it is a good resource at so many levels. And if you are going through this, you're not alone and I'm sorry...