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Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day

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When my counselor recommended me to read this book, I had no clue what I was in for. This book opened my eyes to all of the unhealthy patterns we have in our relationships and where they come from. It has literally changed my life. Thanks to this book, I am more in touch with myself and have more fulfilling relationships with others in which we truly care about one another. If you'd like to learn about yourself and are really ready for some positive change (it will be painful at first but it is definitely worth it), try this book. The other book I highly recommend on this topic is "The Ever-Transcending Spirit" by Toru Sato. Sato has an unbelievable ability to show us how complex things like internal conflict and relationships work in the simplest ways. Good luck on your transformation!

This is a wonderful book. I have read Boundaries, where you end and I began before, so I had insight into the style of writing this book would be presented it.

Where to Draw the Line gives clear, concise examples of boundary violations, as well as offering suggestions on how to work out problems and disagreements.

This is a quick but impressive read. It identifies everyday situations which can be uncomfortable and invasive. More importantly it explains why it is invasive in plain language. It provides scenarios and small quizzes providing for new learning.

I found this book an excellent for anyone working on co-dependency and boundary issues. It give a good guideline for putting boundaries to work for you on a daily basis. Easy to understand. Good reading.

I am in my 40s and read this book with the eye-opening wonder of a very clueless child. So many times I read things here that were a complete revelation to me and I'd think to myself, wow, I'm allowed to say that to someone?!?! Yes, we are allowed to speak our own truth and put our needs above our habit of pleasing others at our own expense! I like that she writes about different topics and gives examples of what to say when someone crosses the line. This is info I can put to work and have already. She also dissected some conversations, pointing out where someone was being manipulative. I can now see that I have been manipulated in conversations and it was such a light bulb moment to understand how it was happening and how to handle it in the future. I raved about the book to friends while I was reading it and three of them wanted to borrow it when I was done. When I finished, I decided I couldnt bear to let go of my copy so I bought three copies as gifts. Money well spent. I intend to buy two more copies for my teenage niece and nephew as well. If everyone could read this book, ESPECIALLY WOMEN, the planet would be a safer, saner and more peaceful place.

Do you ever wonder how it is that people seem to walk all over you? Do you have a difficult time saying no? Are you perpetually overextended and running on empty? In clear, plain language and with easy to understand examples this book points out new ways to respond to old situations in a way that makes sense and will change your life. I recommend this book to any and all of my friends who seem to be struggling with the boundaries in their life. Understanding limits, how to set them, maintain them and respect them is a crucial key to self-maintenance and enjoying life.


When I Say No, I Feel Guilty

I work with people that have manipulators in their lives and their biggest struggle is boundaries and personal identity. It is very difficult to help a person understand this topic when it is so lacking in that persons life. This book makes this subject very easy to understand and apply to ones own life. If you think you don't have a manipulator in you life, read this book and see how fast you change your mind. The author is very non-judgmental and compassionate to everyone's preferences. There are no bad guys in this book. I love that!

Over the past 13 years I've read A LOT of books on relationships, recovery, self-esteem, etc. and this is by far one of the best I've read. The title of the book does not do it justice because this book is a positive way to have not only good boundaries, but good relationships with almost everyone. I highly recommend this book for anyone who is in any recovery program.

This helped me to understand what the idea of personal boundaries means and why it is important. It turned a cliche into a useful tool. I enjoyed the direct and unadorned language. Highly recommended for all, especially those who want to know how to help themselves along the journey of recovery.

I liked this book. I read it as an adjunct to a book on dysfunctional narcissism, and this book made me aware of how many things I put up with that I shouldn't be putting up with; they are boundary violations, and they are disrespectful. This book has helped make me more aware.