Where Were You When I Needed You, Dad?: A Guide for Healing Your Father Wound [Paperback]

Jane Myers, Ph.D. Drew (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1993

Everybody has a father. Unfortunately, too many fathers were absent, abusive, judgmental or distant. This book takes its readers through a step-by-step process of healing father-wounds. After releasing unresolved longing ,sadness, and anger towards their dads, readers learn how to act as their own good fathers. is a comprehensive, inspiring guide to use alone, with a therapist, or in a support group.

Editorial Reviews

From Library Journal

Clinical psychologist Drew offers a seven-step program directed at men and women whose fathers were absent, abusive, overly judgmental, or emotionally withdrawn. Taking examples from her life and the experiences of her clients, Drew uses techniques familiar to those acquainted with the recovery movement (e.g., visualization, writing, and drawing with the nondominant hand) to guide the reader in assessing and understanding the father's role. She discusses letting go of anger, laying the foundation for healing, and building healthy future relationships. A final chapter includes advice for friends and partners. The book is delightfully illustrated and easy to read, although a section examining cultural differences in fathering would have given the book wider appeal. Recommended for public libraries.
- Lucille Boone, San Jose P.L., Cal.
Copyright 1992 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Review

"A concise, comprehensive guide for healing the deep pain of father abandonment and abuse. I highly recommend this excellent book." -- John Friel, Ph.D., author of Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families

"Done with the proper professional guidance, these exercises are challenging, meaningful, and evocative." -- Elyce Wakerman, author of Father Loss

"Extremely valuable . . . Very helpful exercises . . . Sensitive writing." -- Claudia Black, Ph.D., renowned authority on adult children of alcoholics --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback
• Publisher: Tiger Lily Publishing; 1st edition (January 1993)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1880883007
• ISBN-13: 978-1880883006
• Product Dimensions: 11.2 x 8.1 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #572,163 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The first book that helped!, April 18, 2000

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This review is from: Where Were You When I Needed You, Dad?: A Guide for Healing Your Father Wound (Paperback)

I've been through years of Adult Children of Alcoholics, writing groups, private counseling and more. I've read every self-help book there is. This is the FIRST BOOK that dealt perfectly with my love-hate relationship with my Dad. It was so direct and targeted it was scary. And because it is a workbook, you must DO the exercises to get the benefit. And while painful, they were very revealing.

My best advice is that you get a counselor/therapist/objective friend to listen to you and make sure you complete all the exercises.

This author is a godsend. She has lived through and healed her father wounds

17 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant Work, April 28, 1999

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This review is from: Where Were You When I Needed You, Dad?: A Guide for Healing Your Father Wound (Paperback)

Jane Drew is a brilliant author with great insight into this area. Many of us missed out on having a father who was there when we needed him... in the way that we needed him. This book is about addressing that wound and moving forward. --Frank Boyd

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars where were you when i needed you, dad?, June 14, 2004

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ashlee groh (newport beach, ca USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Where Were You When I Needed You, Dad? A Guide for Healing Your Father Wound (Paperback)

i absolutely loved this book. having read so many self improvement books, i can honestly say this one is the most well written and relatable of its kind. the excercises are an incredible release and in many ways a cleansing of "father wounds." i cant think of a person/author more qualified in the healing of a father wound than one who has healed and learned to cope with one of her own.