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Whining: 3 Steps to Stop It Before the Tears and Tantrums Start Paperback – Bargain Price, March 14, 2000
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Strengths and good points:
· Clear, concise writing.
· The book does a fairly good job defining whining, its purpose and the disservice this does to the child and the family.
· Good idea: When a whining incident occurs in public, remove the child from the scene.
· Another good idea: Parents announce ahead of time that whining will result in an automatic "no". It's important not to reward whining.
· The authors recommend logical consequences for whining, no second chances.
· The recommendations for assertive and respectful communication to children are excellent ones. Do not yell at children or sink to any disrespectful communication with them.
· The chapter on providing children with responsibility in the family (chores) so they'll feel like important contributing members is an excellent one. Important contributing members are less likely to seek attention in negative ways. Furthermore, they learn responsibility and become less self-centered.
Weaknesses and bad points:
· Bad idea: The authors instruct parents to ignore children completely when they whine at home. This undermines the idea that parents are to treat children with respect. The silent treatment is completely disrespectful whether the person on the receiving end is a child or adult.Read more ›
The other problem for me was that the book is more focused on getting your child to stop whining and having tantrums about things THEY WANT. It has virtually no advice for getting children to do things YOU NEED them to do (take medicine, let you change a diaper, etc.)-- these were the areas where I was having the most trouble.
Don't get me wrong - this would be a great book for parents of older children. Some of the advice is usable for toddlers, but this book would have benefited from a section devoted to little ones who do not understand "I felt.. when you.." conversation. I was hoping to get a head start with my toddler so I wouldn't need a book like this when she was older. I didn't really find the advice here.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This is how much I liked Whining: 3 Steps to Stop It Before the Tears and Tantrums Start: In my will, I am going to stipulate that the person in charge of my daughter read this... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Sheira Kahn, MFT
This is the most useless parenting book I have ever read. The authors treat all whining as if it has the same motivations and, hence, can be dealt with in the same fashion. Read morePublished 18 months ago by Danation
I read this book 12 years ago, when my oldest son was four and my younger son was one. It changed my life and how I interfaced with my children. Read morePublished on March 22, 2012 by Vienna, VA
I have to cop to not reading the entire book yet. As another reviewer indicated, it does seem like a good deal of filler. Read morePublished on January 2, 2012 by jc
This book just reinforced what I was already doing. The only thing that really sparked my interest was to include my child in more of the household activities even though he is... Read morePublished on January 12, 2008 by Ro
...This book teaches a respectful, productive, kind way to deal with whining, backtalk, temper tantrums, arguing, and all those bad habits that kids pick up. Read morePublished on September 18, 2002 by P Pruett
The key to helping your children learn to not whine is to change your own behaviour towards them. Model respectful behaviour. Loved this book!Published on July 11, 2001