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GREAT book -- it'll make you think AND make you laugh out loud!, November 24, 2008
This review is from: White Men Can't Hump (As Good As Black Men): Volume II: Sex & Race in America (Paperback)
The title IS a great play on words, but I've recommended this book to friends who won't risk being seen reading it 'cause of the title.
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That's a damn shame, because the author really has something to say, and he says it really well. Any book that makes me think hard, often makes me laugh even harder, and even occasionally makes me feel like I suddenly understand things I've wondered about for years -- well, I call that a book WELL worth reading!
I'm a white woman, and I found this book when I was contemplating getting romantically involved with a black man who told me ALL of his prior relationships had been with white women, that he had zero attraction to black women. Well, that made me curious about the black men/white women phenomenon, so off I went to Amazon and found this book on a keyword search...
...but this book is by no means just a discussion of that particular phenomenon -- its scope is far, far wider. Actually I finished the book feeling like I ALSO had a much better understanding of some common white male attitudes toward "their" (i.e. white) women. (The "White Male Happy Meal" concept alone is worth ten times the price of the book -- I nearly laughed myself to death, and of course what made it so funny was that once I read the description of the phenomenon, suddenly in retrospect I recognized its footprints all OVER my own past relationships.)
The author's very informal, idiosyncratic style includes a TREMENDOUS sense of humor, but make no mistake -- this man has done his homework. And THEN he's crunched the info with both formidable intelligence and an understanding of human nature. If you've got the guts to get past the title, I think that (like me) you'll often end up saying, "Ohmigawd, I never thought of that, but he's RIGHT!"
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A Plea for Racial Reconcilliation, December 8, 2010
This review is from: White Men Can't Hump (As Good As Black Men): Volume II: Sex & Race in America (Paperback)
You might look at the title of this book and think it is a joke. If you flip through it and see the bold type face that shouts from every page, capital letters where there shouldn't be, overuse of italics and misuse of quote marks, you might think the author is just another angry black man who can't get over it.
Think again. He uses bold type, capital letters and italics to establish a cadence that I can hear. I feel that I am in a Southern Baptist church and he is the preacher at the pulpit, looking me straight in the eye as I sit in my pew, and bringing the gospel home to me on the wings of his passion.
The message is clear. Racism is still alive in the United States and none of us can just get over it.
The book is a plea for racial reconciliation. It begs the reader, not only to get past the book's cover, but to get past the stereotypes that divide us. It informs us that racism, and the legacy of slavery, remains deeply ingrained in the psyche of our nation. At the top of every page, Mr. Wooten asks the reader to "Put yourself in the author's shoes." I did, and was astonished by the view. He not only describes historic events, but tells us how those events were experienced by black people. And, he tells us about the social and political repercussions.
And yes, he does address the sexual questions that the cover of the book teases the reader in with. Does size matter? Are black men better lovers, and if so, why? He arrived at his conclusions through personal experience as a widely traveled and perceptive individual. If anyone acknowledges the error in embracing stereotype as scripture, it is Wooten. Nonetheless, his generalizations are both astute and humorous and for this reviewer, at least, convey the ring of truth.
Wooten postulates that resentment and fear of black male sexuality is at the heart of racial hatred. He maintains that from the days of slavery when European white men first looked on the larger, stronger, well-endowed bodies of their African male slaves, they felt provoked to repress a perceived threat to their own manhood. In defense of this conviction, he asks why it was not enough to simply hang a black man, often for a transgression a white man would not even have been chastised for, but also necessary to cut off his genitals? He then examines the subtle, and not so subtle, ways in which black men continue being "neutered" by our educational system, entertainment media, criminal justice system, and the perpetuation of the stereotype of the black male as sexually irresponsible and animalistic. He questions, and answers, the causes of the high rate of black male incarceration, the prevalence of the dead beat dad (Mr. Wooten says he considered using the title, "White Men Can't Hump and Black Men Don't Pay Child Support"), and the enduring depiction of black men on film and in television as pimps and thugs.
If you intend to pass judgment on the book, do your homework and read it first. It is no joke. If you can get beyond the cover and "put yourself in the author's shoes," you will go on a journey that will open your eyes and ears to the common everyday expressions of racism that still exist in our country. The prose may be raw, but so, yet, is the wound of racism. At the bottom of every page of the book is the inscription: "Life is Too Short to Hate." Amen.
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Don't Let the Title Fool You, September 3, 2009
This review is from: White Men Can't Hump (As Good As Black Men): Volume II: Sex & Race in America (Paperback)
The title may throw some offin terms of thinking this book is racist or shallow. But Mr. Wooten gives a gritty yet insightful account of race/sex politics in America that few would dare even tackle.It flows simple enough that someone with only a 10th grade education can understand and more importantly relate to. Yet the insightful perspectives would induce America's top scholars to want to discuss the issues presented.
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