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Who I Am Yesterday: A Path to Coping With a Loved One's Dementia Paperback – June 27, 2012


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 104 pages
  • Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (June 27, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1475152183
  • ISBN-13: 978-1475152180
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.3 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 5.6 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #5,063,593 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"Victoria captures the reader with her capacity to communicate and relate with her loved one's changing needs. To say this is a "must read" for care-givers would be an understatement."
                                                                              
~ Connie Pierce, author of Letting go of the Rice

"...a touching account of her efforts to care for her husband through the advance of his confused mental state."  "...detailed information about the practicalities of living with someone who has vascular dementia and gives realistic advice..."
 
~Cindy Koepp, author and teacher

From the Author

This book began as a journal.  Moments alone with myself after trying days while I sorted out the things that went well from the things that were a disaster.  It was my way of dealing with despair and of finding humor wherever it could be found.  As friends, co-workers and family members began to read through those early versions the comments became ever more insistent.  "You must share."  One co-worker wrote me after reading through an early proof and said: "I laughed, I cried and I wanted more."  And so, I wrote more.  It became my goal to show others that this journey can be enriching; it can be productive.  It is "A" path to coping; not everyone's path to coping.  Wherever your journey leads you should you face a life with dementia, I hope my little book gives you some comfort, some humor, some sense of where to step next on your own path, whatever the outcome.

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A beautiful and heart wrenching tale of love, commitment and grief.
jason mueller
This book would be a great read for any caregiver, family and friends dealing with the loss of their loved ones mental faculties.
Margaux Morales
Whether you're a caregiver or not, you will take something away from this book that will make your life a better one.
Philip Nork

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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Philip Nork on March 28, 2013
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Who I Am Yesterday is a fascinating read. It centers on a wife whose husband suffers from dementia. It is written with grace, understanding and humor. Although this is a non-fiction, sort of self help book for those who are caretakers, I read it more as an adventure.

You never know what God has in store for you and those that you love. By taking things one day at a time, and living each day to its fullest, even a bad situation can bring joy.

The patience and love Victoria Adams has for her husband is quite apparent. The writing style is part journal and part guidance. Throughout, there is a hint of humor written in. Actually seeing and experiencing the difficult things her husband is going through has opened Victoria to much more than the average person. She takes the little things that are accomplished and hangs on to them.

Even though no one in my immediate family has dementia right now, I can still take some of the things she writes about and apply them to my life. In addition, I now understand the issues my grandmother had when my grandfather entered the Alzheimer's phase of his life. I can appreciate her efforts and can feel her pain when the man she loved for over 50 years suddenly is "gone."

Life is short and unpredictable. Victoria takes what is handed to her and learns from it. If only others could react the same way. I recommend this book to everyone. Whether you're a caregiver or not, you will take something away from this book that will make your life a better one.

I applaud the openness to share that the author obviously went through. I am sure this wasn't an easy book to write, although it is an easy book to read.
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Victoria and her husband have entered into a journey that a lot of aging couples in the United States find themselves negotiating. How to care for your loved one and preserve their dignity. When my parents arrived in the 'zone' my father was the person in need of being cared for as he had suffered what the doctors had referred to as mini-strokes. This exhausted my mother and at the time my sister and I had our separate families, we did whatever we could to help when it would be accepted. I will just state at this time that I do not believe dignity was always the priority when it could have been.
I do not know how my wife and I will face this if and when it arrives but I hope either one of us will care for the other with love. The retelling of incidents and how they were handled in a fashion to ramp down hurtful emotions was really eye opening. Determining the signs of a person having a fit of dementia before you react and do something deeply damaging to the remains of a relationship is an art and we can all benefit from the experiences related in this work. Thank you Victoria for sharing.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By portiamcvee on April 18, 2013
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What an amazing story of love, courage, resilience and determination. The author keeps the writing light though never marginalizing the seriousness of her husbands condition or what she as a caregiver has had to personally sacrifice in order to do the best she can for him. She will have you chuckling, smiling with affection and feeling heart sore for the journey they have undertaken. What shone through the entire book for me was her commitment to do what is right for her husband as a human being, to allow him to retain his self respect and while no doubt tested beyond her limits on many occasions on many levels, she never once gives the impression of ever giving up on him. It is without a doubt a great companion book for anyone reading it who is going through the same thing and also an education to anyone who has no clue what it's all about
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By Dorothy I. Grappo on March 14, 2013
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I didn't choose to read this book out of need for information on the topic but because I know the author and wanted to read her work. Of the 80+ books I have read in the past few years, this book is at the top of my list. I found it to be extremely well written, truly interesting, sad where it would naturally be sad and funny where it could be funny under the circumstance. Her use of adjectives and adverbs make it impossible not to enjoy reading about a part of her life which may not be enjoyable. Her commitment to caring for her husband with enduring patience is remarkable. I can highly recommend it without exception.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Kirkland Visiting Angels on September 13, 2012
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As one in the healthcare profession, I find this book to be not only informative but very enjoyable. This is a must read for those who are touched by dementia and the day to day challenges and joys that they face on a daily basis. I highly recommend this book and hope that it reaches a wide audience in the near future as I know it can offer not only support but comfort to those living with and the care givers to those with this disease.
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More About the Author

VICTORIA ADAMS is an accountant and financial analyst by profession. Over the years she has been involved in pottery, needlepoint, gardening and other activities that enable her to create or discover. She has been a teacher and occasional speaker. She is also a voracious reader with her most loved books being in the areas of philosophy, religion, history, archeology and anthropology. It is in these areas her husband most wanted her to publish. Perhaps now it is time.

Currently this author page provides a blog roll from my blog, Victoria Adams' Reading Alcove on WordPress: victoriasreadingalcove.wordpress.com. The blog features book reviews from my favorite genres. There are also articles on writing tips and tools (including research resources) and the occasional re-posting of useful sites and blogs.

I also have a corporate site: www.comp-dyn.com which is my accounting persona. Here you will find posts regarding the business side of things, with some articles targeted to people in the writing and visual arts fields.

Join the conversation! I'm happy to seek answers to questions or respond to specific requests.