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Who Cares: A Loving Guide for Caregivers

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THIS BOOK HAS BEEN WRITTEN FROM THE HEART, A TRUE TO LIFE EXPERIENCE INVOLVING A LOVING WOMEN WITH HER AGING MOTHER..
THIS BOOK IS A MUST FOR WOMEN AND ALSO MEN OVER THE AGE OF 40....
IT WILL RELEIVE YOUR MIND AND LIGHTEN YOUR HEART..AS A WOMEN OVER 65 YEARS, I WISH THIS BOOK WAS WRITTEN WHEN MY PARENTS WERE ALIVE...THANK YOU DEE, YOU HAVE WRITTEN A DIARY TO HELP ALL OF THE CHILDREN AND CAREGIVERS OF THE WORLD A BETTER WAY TO HANDLE A UNPLEASANT SITUATION WE ALL HAVE TO EXPERIENCE...

Please read WHO CARES by Dee Marrella as soon as you can, particularly if you are now

happy and healthy . . . it is a step-by-step handbook, in which

you get to provide your future caregivers with information about

your needs and wishes.

Whether you like it or not, most of us will need assistance

some time in our life . . . this book gives you the opportunity

to decide what you want, as opposed to having somebody

else make these decisions for you.

It should be completed by those living alone in cities away

from family, adults with children, older adults before serious

illness, and anyone in the early stages of Alzheimer's

or other serious and other potentially fatal diseases.

WHO CARES will show you how to actually write a letter

to your future caregivers and what to include in it . . . I liked

the many suggestions it gave, including the one to give

providers information on what you both like (including ice

cream!) and dislike . . . instructions are even given on how

to share what you have learned in life.

There were many useful tidbits of information I gained from

reading this book; among them:

* When you come to visit, please don't tell me you can't stay

very long. That tells me that you are there because of obligation.

Truthfully, in that case, I would rather you stay away and get

whatever is rushing you out of the way. Just come and see me when

you can spend quality time holding my hand, talking to me seeing

that I am okay. I say all of the above with love and understanding--not

with anger.

* In large decisions in life, decide what is in your heart. Do not just

think with your head.

* Do not do anything you would not be proud to have your children

do in the future. They are watching

* Never measure what you do for each other. Give with your whole

heart when a family member is in need.

Lastly, there's this idea that I wished I had thought of when my

mother-in-law was alive:

* Leave a few dollars to that a pizza can be ordered or some

other special treat. (Some patients met as a group and did this

weekly in the nursing home.)

As my parents aged and needed more assistance to help them cope with life's daily issues, all of us who loved them wanted to help them to be comforatable and happy. We cared. Often, however, we did not know how to be helpful. Sometimes our well-intended words or deeds were not helpful. This wonderful book, helps us to think about those who will care for us. Now is the time for us to let them know, while we are well-enough and clear enough to put our future needs and wants into words. If we care about those who will care for us, we will help them today so that they can be helpful tomorrow.