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Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life [Kindle Edition]

Harriet B. Braiker Ph. D.
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A powerful program to stop manipulators in their tracks

In Who's Pulling Your Strings?, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, New York Times bestselling author of The Disease to Please, explains how depression, low self-esteem, anger, and feelings of helplessness can be caused by relationships with manipulative people. She exposes the most common methods of manipulators, and with the help of selfassessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, she helps you recognize and end the manipulative cycle for good.



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"..she helps readers recognize manipulation and assesses and reduce their own vulnerability." -- Library Journal

From the Back Cover

Many people suffer from relationships that leave them feeling manipulated and out of control. Whether it's within the context of a personal relationship, a family member, a friend, or someone at the workplace, these "toxic" relationships can erode a person's self-confidence and self-esteem, and have a strong, negative effect on their ability to perform well at home and at work. But there are ways to escape these kinds of relationships--by giving the person being manipulated the skills to cope better with these manipulators, and eventually free themselves from the bonds of their manipulators.

Working from a proven blend of sound psychological theory, research and clinical expertise, Dr. Braiker exposes the most common methods manipulative people use to control others--and firmly reminds us that it takes at least two people to enable such a relationship to function. Once you understand how your own thoughts and behavior make you a soft-target for manipulators to ensnare in controlling, stressful, no-win relationships, she teaches you potent techniques that will thwart a manipulator's designs and allow you to escape his or her web of control. Using revealing self-assessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, Dr. Braiker empowers you to:

  • Recognize the signs of a manipulative relationship
  • Spot manipulators and their typical ways of operating
  • Assess your own vulnerability to manipulation
  • Identify the 7 main "Head Games" manipulators play
  • Utilize effective resistance tactics against manipulator's efforts
  • Transform yourself from a "soft" to a "hardened" target
  • Extricate yourself from manipulative relationships that do not change
  • Protect yourself from falling prey to manipulators' control in the future
  • Stop others from pulling your strings once and for all

Also included are enlightening case studies, along with clinical techniques adapted into proven self-help exercises, which will help victim-participants end the damaging cycle of manipulative control, and clear the way for healthier and happier relationships. At last, you can protect yourself from emotionally draining manipulative personalities--and break free from the confusing, frustrating, and entrapping bonds they create.

Break away from manipulators--and regain control!

Millions of people, men as well as women, can become involved in relationships with manipulators--people who control through emotional manipulation, insults, and mind games. This manipulator could be anyone who seems trustworthy, but eventually makes life miserable for the victim involved. But whether it's a relative, a spouse or romantic partner, a sibling, a boss, co-worker, or subordinate, a friend, a teacher, or even a trusted advisor, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, bestselling author of The Disease to Please, shows you how to break this toxic cycle.

Who's Pulling Your Strings will help you both end a current destructive relationship, understand how this relationship occurred, and will also prevent you from ever getting involved in a manipulative relationship again.  Dr. Braiker will help you devise your own action plans through revealing quizzes, checklists and self-evaluations, such as:

  • Are You an Easy Mark?
  • What Are Your Hooks?
  • Seven Key Resistance Tactics
  • And much more!

With the Harriet Braiker's insight, compassionate advice, and self-affirming strategies, you can create the strength to end any manipulative relationship and gain control of your life--starting right now.


Product Details

  • File Size: 475 KB
  • Print Length: 276 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0071446729
  • Simultaneous Device Usage: Up to 4 simultaneous devices, per publisher limits
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill; 1 edition (September 1, 2003)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B000OVLIVK
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #26,042 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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158 of 161 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Educational insight October 18, 2008
By Sharon
Format:Paperback
I found this book extremely helpful in explaining the syndrome of manipulation, and more importantly, it gave me some practical advice for responding and feeling less like a victim. I learned two stark realities from reading it. First of all, do not attempt to reason with a manipulator, as their feelings and needs are all that matter to them and you are wasting your time. These personalities seldom change. Coming to terms with this helped trememdously in releasing frustration. Secondly, manipulation continues because it works - period. One must break the cycle of success, and this book gives some solid tools to facilitate just that.
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76 of 76 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Break free! March 6, 2009
Format:Paperback
This book was soooo helpful and I really felt empowered by the practical help that she offers. It's an easy read and very comforting. The best parts are: the insights she offers that explain what goes on in the dynamic between manipulator and "target"; what a manipulator thinks; why the "target" always gets stuck with people like manipulators; you can't reason with a manipulator beause of their insecurities but you can reason with your own insecurities; and best of all are the practical ways you can change your behavior to take back the power. I like that the author addresses your own behavior and actions, the easiest thing to manage in situations like these.
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75 of 77 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Insight! July 29, 2004
Format:Hardcover|Verified Purchase
This book is a must read if you've been in any sort of manipulative relationship weather it be romantic, friendships, or family related. Not only are the hints helpful in recognizing WHEN you're being manipulated, but it provides the tools necessary to combat manipulative situations. Every aspect of this book applied in my life somewhere and in multiple areas such as work, home, love, family, and friends. A MUST read for everyone as we've all been prey to manipulators at one time or another.

On an alternate note, there are also scenarios in this book that might make you think of a time or times that you have manipulated others. It's helpful to have these pointed out and be conscious of your own manipulative tactics even if you weren't aware of them previously.
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30 of 32 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars waking up to manipulative relationships February 29, 2004
By A Customer
Format:Hardcover
Dr.Braiker made understanding "manipulation" easy. Kudos to a book well written. Searching for books to learn what manipulation IS is hard to come by. Sometimes in our fast paced world we are so caught up that the art of manipulation can cause denial even to "seemingly" intellegent people. My work environnment was so covertly manipulated by its owner that I preferred to look the other way, due to building a company, rather than force myself into realizing how detrimental my environnment was. Peoples live have been ruined. Whether your in a bad relationship on a personal or professional level Dr. Braiker will defintely help you understand, and ultimately help you gain Your-Self back.
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18 of 18 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Made Me Act October 30, 2012
Format:Audio CD|Verified Purchase
Who's Pulling Your String gave me essential information on how to act in sadly a bullying situation that I had remained in for years. I strongly believe in personalities being the primary cause of most relationship discord and not the symptoms, i.e. money, honesty, lack of sex, etc. that gets named as cause by most. This mainly gives you insight into how you are being manipulated, how to try to stop it, and if no attempts are successful - as she puts it - EXTRACTION. This was my only option as all attempts at stopping it were unsuccessful. It was the best decision of my life and gave me the impetus for change that would not have happened had I not listened and followed this advice. This book essentially gave me a new life that I am living with all I got until its gone.
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21 of 23 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Wake up and smell the manipulation. July 22, 2009
Format:Paperback
Once again Harriet Braiker provides a wake up call and this time it's about manipulators. Not only does she help us recognize the manipulators in our lives but also provides guidance on how to break free from it. Manipulators can show up anywhere in our lives and this book provides great insight on how to be come a harder target for manipulation now and in the future.
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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I wasted my time with Myers Briggs testing. This is it! October 18, 2010
Format:Hardcover
I have been manipulated by people close to me and this is helping me see. It ticks me off that I allowed folks to control me by influencing me to settle for less than what I want in exchange for what they want for me. Who's life is this?..Who has it been?...Whom will it be should be no question.

One more thing! The book names the some of the types of people who control and manipulate. I took initiative by reading and rereading the DSM-IV codes 301.2X to 301.9Z. OMG I think I know some of these people. What scares me about learning this is applying what I read to folks I know. Whoa!
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24 of 28 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Highly Recommended April 18, 2007
Format:Hardcover
Although I purchased this book in order to better cope with the inevitable interactions with my daughter's father, I discovered much more. Those little problems I was having at work...I was convinced that my high stress levels (with said ex) where causing me to forget things become easily confused & constantly find myself with too much work to do.

She was a stealth manipulator hiding behind a sweet, pious facade. I brought some of these indications to my boss's attention & we instantly realized that we, both were her victims!!

To be able to spot 'em a mile away: An invaluable skill.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars very good condition. Thank you
Book as expected. very good condition. Thank you,
Published 1 month ago by JANIE SAVIDGE
3.0 out of 5 stars The book is good at describing different personality disorders but I...
The book is good at describing different personality disorders but I wish it would get to how not to be manipulated faster.
Published 1 month ago by Megan A Rushford
5.0 out of 5 stars Very Informative
Very informative and must read book for my clients.
Published 2 months ago by J. Pickett
5.0 out of 5 stars Sharp Tools Here
One critical aspect of learning to deal with manipulators is to understand their psychology - but that is not nearly enough! Read more
Published 3 months ago by Eleanor Cowan
5.0 out of 5 stars One of the best self help books
It's amazing how much it opens to you about yourself. I can't believe my mind was so infected by wrong beliefs that didn't let me live. Read more
Published 4 months ago by Alicia
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book!
I owe a big thank you to the author for writing this book. It has helped me strengthen myself and my personality to be able to face those who in my life were manipulating me. Read more
Published 4 months ago by reva
4.0 out of 5 stars A full metal jacket approach to Manipulation and Manipulators.
Woud have been a good book to peruse earlier in my life. Still find it immensely helpful and quite informative..
Published 4 months ago by sherredah
5.0 out of 5 stars Deep, professional, actionable
Very solid and practical book. Written by a professional who knows about the subject from many years of experience. It's easy to read and actionable, creates a lot of aha moments. Read more
Published 4 months ago by Alexander I.
5.0 out of 5 stars Confirmed by strategy
The author provides the twisted logic behind the manipulative personality and explains how to deal with it. Read more
Published 4 months ago by oshunspirit
5.0 out of 5 stars This book helped me immensly and I highly recommend it.
I started reading this book when I was midway through another about over eating due to stress. I realized the overeating was just one symptom and the 'eating' book wasn't helping... Read more
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