- Paperback: 235 pages
- Publisher: ZL Publishing House (2010)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0615411495
- ISBN-13: 978-0615411491
- Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
- Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,933,629 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Why "We" Didn't Choose You: A Relationship Handbook for Women (and Men), Vol. I Paperback – 2010
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More About the Author
Dr. Hoston has penned a total of nine books, most recently: Race and the Black Male Subculture: The Lives of Toby Waller (in press - 2016); WWDCY, Vol. III (2016); RNIT (2015); Listen to Me Now, or Listen to Me Later, 2nd Edition (2014); Black Masculinity in the Obama Era: Outliers of Society (2014); and No Bullies in the Huddle (2013 - Philadelphia, 2015 - Redskins). He is currently completing two academic books: (1) Muted Voices: Narratives of Discrimination and Violence Against Black Transgender Women and (2) The End of a Black Empowerment Period in New Orleans: 1978-2010.
In 2013, Dr. Hoston released the documentary, "Black Dot in a White World: Critical Discourse Among Black Males in the Obama Era," which expands the discussion of the economic, social, and political plight of black males in the Obama Era. It features the likes of Civil Rights Icon, John Lewis; Educator, Dr. Steve Perry; Urban League President, Marc Morial; Rap Icon, Master P and his son, Romeo, and a host of others that discuss what it means to be a black male in the 21st century and the impact of living in the Obama Era (http://vimeo.com/73945114).
Dr. Hoston has proved his dedication and commitment to empowering youth and college students to have a brighter future, which was recognized by UHCL as he was the recipient of the 2013 Minnie Stevens Piper Award for outstanding teaching. He also was ranked in the 2012 - 2013 academic year as the 19th best college professor in America according to RateMyProfessor.com. Dr. Hoston's motto is, "I just want to be an example. Many have come before me and hopefully those that come after will be inspired by the example that I have set."
See his website: http://www.wthoston.com. You can also follow him on Twitter @DrHoston.
Top Customer Reviews
Surprisingly, I really enjoyed the book and was very glad I read it! Like several other reviewers, I read the WHOLE thing in one sitting (it's about 200 pages, but they turn quickly). I went through a range of emotions as the men in this focus group gave their opinions...from compassion, to amusement, to shock, to outrage, and finally to a sense of my own empowerment as a woman. It was clear that some of the men were far less mature than others, but ALL of their stories were educational. Let me first briefly describe the contents before I go into what I took away from it:
There are six men in the focus group (the term "man" may be only loosely applied to a couple of them), representing different walks of life and (most notably) differing maturity levels. Chapter I consists of letters written by each of the guys to women that they had previously broken up with. The letters appear very honest as each writer explains what led to the break up from his perspective. They describe what they did wrong and what they feel the women did wrong. Then, each of the guys offers his perspectives on the topics presented in Chapters II-V.Read more ›
Chapter 1 contains love letters from all six men to woman that left a significant impact in their lives, they give details as to the characteristics the men found endearing about the women, significant moments in the relationship and the events or characteristics that led to the demise of the relationship.
Chapter 2 presents the controversial topic of cheating, it asks all of the men: Why Do Men Cheat? Does Men’s Cheating Contribute To Women’s Insecurities? Are Women’s Insecurities the Downfall of a New Relationship? The chapter concludes by addressing why men feel that cheating is okay for them but not acceptable for a woman. All of the men provide insightful information on the subjects, Javier in particular.
Chapter 3 Damaged Goods: Can I Get An Itemized Receipt? In my opinion is the most insightful for all women. This chapter forces all women to look within themselves and analyze the baggage and barriers they have brought from old relationships into new ones.Read more ›
Why "We" Didn't choose You by William T. Hoston Ph.D shows different views of men on the topic of relationships. The author asked questions to everyday men. These were questions that almost every female has asked at one time or another. The questions ranged from, why men cheat, to what is the difference between making love, and having sex. The men in this novel confessed in some instances the roles (good or bad) that they played in relationships. These gentlemen give the female reader a look into the male thoughts and offer different opinions to females.
The views at times can be very frank, and most times not what the average woman wants to know or hear. This book also gives a glance into the reasoning of the opposite sex; from playa, to all American man. This book contains letters written by the men to their ex- girlfriends as well as poems written at the end about their thoughts.
I am not a fan of non- fiction but I am truly a fan of this book. This is not a book for both women and men. I feel that is it a breath of fresh air to get an insight into what other men are thinking and saying about the same topic or topics that might be causing problems in your relationships. When reading this book I had mixed of emotions. I would try to when compared, to another proclaimed self help novel by Steve Harvey; I would say this one is better because this book shows that not all men think alike. This is truly a five star read.
Rated 5 Stars
Reviewed by Patrice Smith
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
I'm part way through with the book and it's amazing! It's tough love, but so worth the purchase. I was pleasantly surprised to see the book signed by the author! Read morePublished on October 29, 2013 by Reeta
There are very few times in a woman's life when she gets the opportunity to hear what a man is truly thinking. This is one of those times. Read morePublished on May 1, 2011 by Elle L.
WWDCU is a great read for both men and women! It provides honest, useful, and thought-provoking insight as to why men (and sometimes women) do the things they do. Read morePublished on January 10, 2011 by eaaemm01
Why "We" Didn't Choose You offers a unique perspective into what makes relationships work or fall apart. Read morePublished on January 4, 2011 by DEANintheYAY
If you are constantly wondering why men do certain things, be it cheating or just are not showing the emotional connection that all woman want, this book will give you the reasons. Read morePublished on January 3, 2011 by Megan McWilliams
A fun book with a unique approach! I loved trying to figure each of the characters responses to the topics in each chapter. Read morePublished on January 2, 2011 by Sophiesvoice
This book was genuinely an awesome read. It was very insightful and nicely constructed. I loved the love letters and poems; they were truly a nice touch. Read morePublished on December 30, 2010 by Courtney M
Great easy read, honest,very forth coming and informative. Personally, I think individuals who are single and in a relationship should read this book.Published on December 24, 2010 by JayW
In what has to be one of the most timely and necessary pieces of work to date, "Why We Didn't Choose You" delivers in all aspects upon examination of relationships through the male... Read morePublished on December 22, 2010 by Kindle Customer