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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: New Horizon Press (April 28, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0882823264
  • ISBN-13: 978-0882823263
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 5.5 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,707,254 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Biography

Carl Weisman is the author of four books and has been on radio and television. Previously he was a sales trainer who taught real estate agents how to market themselves and how to overcome buyer and seller objections. Now, Mr. Weisman is committed to making a dramatic change in the real estate industry by educating and empowering home sellers to ensure the agent-seller relationship is more fair for both parties.

Carl's other books include "The Essential Guide to RF & Wireless," "So Why Have You Never Been Married," and "Serious Doubts: Why People Marry When They Know It Won't Last."

Carl is also the founder of ReaListing, a business that offers education and coaching to help home sellers keep more of their money when they sell their home.

Visit Carl's Websites:

www.CarlWeisman.com
www.WhyNeverMarried.com
www.SeriousDoubtsAboutMarriage.com
www.ReaListing.com

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As a never-married man over 40, I was intrigued by the title of Carl Weisman's latest, "So Why Have You Never Been Married?" since I've been asked the same question more than once myself. We are all no doubt familiar with the stereotypes that go with this demographic group: irresponsible, afraid of commitment, hedonistic, self-absorbed, etc., etc. At least one well-known evangelical Christian author has taken chronically-unmarried men to task for failing to obey a perceived "marriage mandate" while remaining single.

What Carl Weisman discovered, when he took the trouble to actually sit down and talk to a representative sample of altar-dodgers, is that the reality is a lot more complicated. For every one that freely admits to being too selfish to head a family and raise children, there are many more who were traumatized by their parents' divorce, or who tried to succeed at matrimony but failed, leaving a trail of regrets.

Weisman introduces thirty-three diverse men who have yet to tie the knot, and weaves their stories throughout his study of why some guys never, for one reason or another, get around to getting hitched. He includes himself, too: unmarried at 48, the author shares his questions and struggles along with those of the men he profiles.

While those individuals are too complicated to be summed up with a tidy formula, Weisman's research does reveal that the men generally revere the institution of marriage even if they have not yet achieved it. His interviews also indicate that men can achieve a surprising level of contentment, even if marriage and family continue to elude them.

If nothing else, the book dispels some of the negative stereotypes about men who are slow to marry, and introduces the reader to some colorful and diverse characters.
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I currently have about 28 books in my "to be read and reviewed" pile. When I received this book, I put everything down to read it first. I am not a man, over 40 years of age, who is trying to figure out why I never married. Instead I am a 41 year old woman who has been divorced for six years, after a 15 year marriage. I wanted to gain an understanding of why some men never marry. My initial reaction has always been to first assume that they have commitment issues, or something just isn't right with them. After reading "So Why Have You Never Been Married?," I started thinking that maybe these men aren't the ones with the problems. After all, they've never failed at marriage, while I have.
The author, Carl Weisman, M.S., interviewed over 30 men over 40 years of age to find out why they never got married. Each one had their own reasons, ranging from some men admitting they were too selfish to others fearing that they would make the wrong choice and end up unhappy or broke. I really found the interviews to be very interesting and for the most part, the decisions were very mature. Personally, I would rather know that a man hasn't gotten married because he knows that he is unable to sexually commit to being with one female for the rest of his life, then know that he knew this getting married and decided to do so anyway. In most cases, the monogamous issue wasn't the main reason for not getting married. This is extremely reassuring to me.
As an educated, gainfully employed woman, over forty, who does not want children, what did I get out of this book? The number one thing that I gained was peace of mind. There are men, over forty, out in this world, who value the importance of making the right choices regarding marriage and being in a monogamous relationship.
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Boy, this a tough book to review. I'll preface my remarks with the admission that I've just turned 40, never been married, so I was looking for a book to explain why. Overall, this book was only of marginal help in answering this question.

This book was put together as follows: the author set up a website asking unmarried men over 40 to answer a series of questions (reproduced, with results, in the appendix). From this survey he eventually interviewed 33 men whose thoughts formed the basis of this book. He was trying to answer two main questions (1) Why have I never been married? (2) what is wrong with me? Essentially he was on a journey of self discovery. Weisman also wants to de-pathologize the single, older male and to some extent he succeeds at doing that.

To his credit, Weisman recognizes two problems with his survey approach. Firstly, he has to contend with self-selection bias where people of a certain profile (white, higher income, more educated, younger men (40-45), with internet access) were much more likely to partake in the survey. Secondly, by only interviewing 33 out of 1533 men he risks not getting a nice cross-section of males over the age of 40. He tries to correct for this second problem by carefully selecting a geographically diverse group of younger and older men, with both higher and lower incomes and with greater and lesser amounts of education.

As I read this book I notice the author is a very uncritical interviewer. Almost everything the interviewees say is unchallenged and, in the author's opinion, has merit. His ethos can be summed-up as "After all, they're recounting their OWN experiences so how can I discount their opinions even if I don't agree?" I suppose this has some truth but I found it very frustrating.
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