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Why Men Fear Marriage: The Surprising Truth Behind Why So Many Men Can't Commit

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In most cases, when a man writes an advice book regarding male/female relationships, the author uncovers truths in which many women aren't aware. After all, who knows the male mind better than a male? With WHY MEN FEAR MARRIAGE, R.M. Johnson definitely continues the trend of unveiling critical knowledge about why some men do what they do. The material he presents covers a wide range of topics, from how men feel about women's night out (they don't like it), to the differences between why women cheat (it's unforgivable), and why men cheat. He says that men can cheat without growing emotionally attached to their co-cheater, and that's why a woman should forgive her man (OMG).

One refreshing aspect, and there are many, is how the author isn't afraid to tell women what men are afraid of. This is important. We assume men are fearless, but it's good to know that isn't true. Johnson provides many tips that women will enjoy learning even if we don't understand them all. This book is recommended for all women who've ever wondered why her guy hasn't proposed. And even if you're a woman who doesn't care about getting a man to pop the question, you will still learn something valuable about men from Johnson's book.

RM Johnson has written a very candid relationship book clearly intended for middle-aged women with children on how to spot, the at times elusive, marriage-minded man. WHY MEN FEAR MARRIAGE also gives advice on how to spot a man who will never marry you, or one who may just be using you as his transition until he finds the woman of his dreams. Mr. Johnson identifies the types of men who may or may not "put a ring on it". Nothing in the book was as surprising as the title suggests; however, I do believe many women will want to hear this message again.

Johnson's tone definitely takes on a "tough love" pitch as he describes how he feels men view women and marriage. This book would be helpful to those tired of going around the relationship circle, or for those in the midst of a break-up. More than just relationship advice, or even answering the question "Why men fear marriage?", this book attempts to rectify pitfalls of the dating game by encouraging parent(s) to raise young boys into becoming men who value and appreciate marriage.

As a woman, I'll admit that it was hard to hear some of Johnson's descriptions of men's perceptions, but the intentions of the book aren't to tell women what they want to hear. Read this book when you need to reaffirm what you already know to be true about men and relationships.

Reviewed by Christina Lenear
for The RAWSISTAZ(tm) Reviewers

A year or so ago the relationship book, "He's Just Not That Into You' by Greg Behrendt was on the circuit. It became a movie and was seen as gospel for people in relationships. The event was also said to be a comedy so not to worry if you saw yourself or your significant other sacked out on the couch in the middle of your conversation, or more likely, sneaking out to visit the other significant other. It was all in fun. "Why Men fear Marriage" is a more seriously informed relationship book, so well put together I sped through it like a speed dating contestant at the local bar. The is a juicy insiders look at the operations of today's single male. A Glamour/Cosmo take between bookends. All the more to enjoy. Johnson's material is realistic and delivered with compassion. If you are in a relationships recognizable on his pages, Johnson won't make you feel like a dating dud, rather, his honest portraits of "manly" behavior in this arena are comforting because they are helpful. Concluding, Johnson says, marry and limit sexual options, remain single with many sexual options, but become lonely.

"Why Men Fear Marriage" is RM Johnson's first offering in the nonfiction genre on how to engage in a relationship with your heart first, mind second. Johnson offers a 10-step solution to help women build a sense of intimacy with their men in hopes that it could ease their fears about marriage in the long term. Note: "Why Men Fear Marriage" isn't subtitled "strategy and tactics" for a reason. There isn't a list of rules best suited for the game "Survivor" where couples "outwit, outplay, outlast" each other. Instead, Johnson is having a conversation with women, much like a father would have with his daughter or brother with his sister. In this age, where some couples are fighting for the right to legally marry, "Why Men Fear Marriage" is the conversation starter that time has come, and at last.

Why Men Fear Marriage is RM Johnson's first non-fiction book that addresses the reluctance of why some men don't want to jump the broom. At first glance, you may think that this book is just another dry self-help book, but it's a lot more than that. There is a lot of worthwhile information that women need to take heed. Johnson addresses such topics as finding a man that's ready for marriage, the different types of men, and what to do once you find your soul mate.

Johnson pulls no punches in Why Men Fear Marriage, and this material is presented in way that's not preachy or demeaning to women. Johnson even shares his own experiences and feelings about marriage. Why Men Fear Marriage is an interesting take on a very timely subject.

Reviewed by Radiah Hubbert
for Urban Reviews

WooHoo!! Finally a book that gets into the minds of men. Mr. Johnson gives us honest answers as to why some men have a negative attitude toward marriage. His juicy topics such as, "Women and their children" "I don't need a man" and Ten steps to make him ask "Will You Marry Me" will really get the conversations going. I definitely recommend this to those single sisters that have been wondering why he won't propose.

Diva Reviewer - Lolita Allen, [...].

It seems that 2009 is the year for the brothers to write advice books. First, there is Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man and now, novelist, RM Johnson brings us Why Men Fear Marriage. When I first read the title, I was sure it was going to be another standard self-help for the sistahs-type book. However, I was pleasantly surprised. Mr. Johnson offers up practical advice, for those willing to listen, in an entertaining, well-written format.

Chapter Two, Finding the Marriage-Minded man is particularly interesting because the reader is introduced to various types of men, such as The Ladies Man, The Fearful Guy, and the Middle-of-the Roader. Each of these sub-chapters are chock full of information from the male perspective and what I find most appealing is that Mr. Johnson reveals himself in the passages. He admits once being The Fearful Man and he says why. He also drives home the point throughout the book on how many women are missing out on really good guys due to extraordinarily high expectations or an inability to communicate what is wanted or needed. However, in no way does he suggest a woman settle. The author does not let brothers off the hook. He lays it all out there.

I recommend Why Men Fear Marriage to male and female readers, particularly those looking for love and marriage.

Angelia Menchan
APOOO BookClub

This book angered me; so I layed it down.

I picked it back up and realized that all the things I wanted hidden, were printed in black and white for others to see.
So I laid it down again.

I picked it back up and discussed it with friends, black and white, and got mixed reviews and a general consensus of "we already knew that"- so I laid it down, and havent bothered to pick it up since.