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Product Details

  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Thomas Nelson; Rev Upd edition (November 1, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 078523215X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0785232155
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 5.5 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (153 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #92,065 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

David Murrow is an award-winning television producer and writer based in Alaska, most recently working for Sarah Palin. A best-selling author, he is also director of Church for Men, an organization that helps churches connect with men and boys. David and his wife, Gina, have three children.

Customer Reviews

Overall, I thought it was a really interesting book.
A couple of different times I just looked at my wife and smiled because many of things that I read in the book were happening right before my eyes.
Juan Cruz Jr
I barely got the first paragraph read before my husband took over the book and basically read it all in one night.
Happy Camper

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31 of 39 people found the following review helpful By Ryan A. Reed on January 4, 2012
Format: Paperback
Why Men Hate Going to Church (Review)

David Murrow's book "Why Men Hate Going to Church" was an interesting read to say the least. Murrow's writing was compelling and the book was an overall easy read as you flip through pages of his analysis of what he believes to be a persistent problem within the Western Church. The author identifies that there is an issue with male attendance at churches throughout the United States and asserts that the issue lies primarily in the over feminization of Christianity.

Murrow presents valid concerns as statistics show that male attendance is in decline in many American churches. He believes that the core issue is that most churches are geared towards woman in their practices and methodology. As I read through "Why Men Hate Going to Church" I found the book accomplishing one good thing: it made me think. I had to ask myself what I believe the causes for the low numbers in male attendees. This motivated thinking is where my positive encounter with this book ended.

In the book Murrow paints a picture of the average male as being, in my opinion, brainless, bored, and lacking in attention while those that are academic, artistic, and creative are portrayed as effeminate. He claims that the church has been geared towards woman almost out of laziness and that the church must be reclaimed for male domination. The problem lies in the fact that Murrow's portrayal of masculinity is limited at best and chauvinistic at its worst.

Ultimately, I believe that there are two main problems with Murrow's approach within "Why Men Hate Going to Church". First, the practices that Murrow identifies are hindering male attendance are not due to feminization but overall poor ministerial practice.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Chris French on March 12, 2012
Format: Paperback
I'm sure you've noticed a decline in the male population in our churches. Why are men fleeing from the church like a fat kid from gym class? Murrow thinks that we've feminized the church. We've focused on the Lamb of God to the exclusion of the Lion of Judah. He may have a valid point. Today's church identifies more with the love, helping and relationships than with success, achievement and power, which is interesting because the first grouping comes from the women's values in the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The second grouping comes from the same book, but it's the values men cherish the most. While we as a church have been focusing on relationship and love, our men, the driving force behind our growth, have been slipping out the back door looking for some place where they fit in. They're looking for a place where their talents and hobbies won't make them outcasts.

How do we fix this problem? Murrow offers a couple of solutions in the framework of an entire mindset change. We need to think of the church as the Kingdom instead of a family. In a family relationships rule the day, not so in a kingdom. We need to show a more balanced view of Jesus. Yes He loved children, but He was also driven, very skilled, highly successful and very powerful. We need to play to our boys strengths in Bible class. Girls learn to read faster and read better than boys their age. When we ask a boy to read out loud in class we're setting him up to leave the church one day. Our format for Sunday School is also counter-productive for our active boys. We ask them to sit still and listen for 30-45 minutes and when they can't meet that expectations we embarrass them by punishing them. The answer is to get men in the classroom for our young children.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Dubious Disciple on January 22, 2012
Format: Paperback
I have a confession to make. I accepted this book for review thinking it might be good for a few laughs. Get a guy through the church doors? What are you gonna do, turn it into a sports bar?

I was wrong about David's book. Oh, I laughed alright--a lot!--but all the time I was chuckling, I was nodding. David has nailed it.

Funny thing is, speaking as a guy, we don't know why we hate church. We just know it's uncomfortable. The awkwardness has to be explained to us ... and when it is, we finally nod knowingly.

David probably thinks his book is for pastors. No, it's for couples. Ladies, if you want your guy sitting next to you in the pew, read this. Then find a new church together. One where the pastor has read the book, too.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By ypastorbrad on February 11, 2012
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In this updated edition, David Murrow answers a question that many pastors and church-going wives have been wondering about for decades, Why Men Hate Going to Church. The truth is, the church has catered to women because we have often associated many of the character traits of Jesus as feminine, and so that is the culture which we have promoted.

What I found interesting, was that as I picked up the book, I misread the title. In my head it read, "Why Men Aren't Passionate about their Faith or Love Jesus, etc." That isn't the title, of course, and Murrow does an excellent job of explaining why. It's not about not loving Jesus, it's that the Church has unwittingly ostracized men through creating a system that was designed really only to reach women and children.

"Men don't hate God or Christ or the Bible or Christianity. They hate a system that's perfectly designed to reach someone else."

Men, deep down, are men. They want some sense of adventure and risk but the church has failed to deliver in the way that we portray Jesus. To be fair, I think that Murrow draws some harder than needed lines between genders and lets men off the hook a little too much for their lack of commitment to the faith community. But, there are some firm and important lessons to be learned here, and it is a must read for any pastoral staff.
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