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Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games

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After a quarter of a century working closely with men, Dr. George Weinberg concludes that the male of the species desires permanent commitment and a forever love equal to that, which women want too. The difference is men believe that to admit they want a permanent partner is not considered part of the cultural image and thus too feminine so most males hide their inner feelings as an alpha menace to their masculinity. Dr. Weinberg believes culture forces this role to include women placing the man of their dreams in a situation by comparing his strengths and weaknesses to his rivals.

WHY MEN WON'T COMMIT: GETTING WHAT YOU BOTH WANT WITHOUT PLAYING GAMES provides a straight forward guide for frustrated women to enable their mate to find his feelings ("gut reactions") by altering her behavior. Before feminists scream "no Jane" chauvinism and machos play Tarzan, the key in Dr. Weinberg's help guide is to accept that the male is the "weaker sex" so that the stronger female must take charge by being the relationship caretaker reaching through the stereotype stud to his inner being. This is an easy to follow guide that wastes little if any space assisting frustrated women with solid advice.

Harriet Klausner

I've read enough "communications" books to fill a library but never before have I encountered an explanation of the facts of not only the difference between men and women but the genesis of those differences. Dr. Weinberg's insight is without peer along with being honest and clear. Finally, a means to understanding that one can actually learn, internalize and utilize. Me nare not from Mars. They're human. That understanding promises to do more for relationships then anything anyone has ever said before.

At last, a book about commitment that's smart, straight-forward and gets results--all without advocating game-playing and manipulation! I read the book in one sitting over the weekend, and was blown away by the accuracy of George Weinberg's analyses of men's "commitment issues," and by the incredibly useful advice to help women help men resolve the obstacles to commitment. A godsend!

This book makes sense. It tells you the 4 reasons a man will commit that women often aren't aware of. Also, it discusses how to argue, although the book, "The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert" covers is best! However, this book is good at explaining why men don't/do commit, based off his research. Written for the woman's perspective. Much better than "The Rules"! Gave me confidence by realizing men also want commitment.

I found the first half of the book very very helpful. Most relationship books aren't written by a man on a man's perspective on relationships for women (at least not in this way). I found it very interesting understanding how men view their relationships with women, though the men that Dr. Weinberg works with or uses as examples in his book seem to be confused about male identity and masculinity. I don't think the theories in this book apply to all men. I don't think men in general rely on gut instincts and are unable to articulate their emotions about why they can't commit (I know many that can).

I was disappointed because I bought this book based on the 5 star reviews. Unfortunately, I found the book a little too value based and not objective enough for me. I think every woman should find Dr. Weinberg's four theories about men's basic needs in a relationship very useful (I did), but the chapters after this made me put the book down. I hope there aren't any women that by into the chapter about sex (as soon as possible) and how it affects committment, intimacy or whatever (there are so many opinions about sex, which mostly depends on a person's values, morals, and religion and I found the chapter too biased and flawed.)

I appreciate the review from the man that wrote "don't buy into it ladies . . ." (re: the book in general). Read his review before you buy this book; I didn't.

...Dr. George Weinberg reveals in this excellent tell-all book about the male psyche. The author leaves no stone unturned, pointing the way for every woman to help the man she wants to make that life commitment. According to Weinberg, men want to make the commitment even more than women do. He effectively proves his point through examples everyone can relate to easily. Setting up a few basic premises, such as the formidable "masculine pretense," the deeply embedded psychological culprit that invariably prevents men from giving up their perceived "freedom," Weinberg takes the reader from first date foibles through the minefield of bedroom behavior to pitfalls of the financial faux pas. It's a page turner for women who want to know not only what holds men back from commitment, but what parental, peer pressure and cultural influences mold men's behavior. Men who want to know why they act the way they do are likely to find Weinberg's book equally compelling. I recommend this book highly!

This book should be titled "The Men's Book of Secrets".

I purchased this book because I wanted to know more about myself as a man. The good doctor's insight on men having "gut feelings" but not really understanding their cause really hit home with me. He is mostly on the mark with his information and I've gained new knowledge of the source of these emotions. I do have emotions (read "gut instincts") and make important decisions based on them but was unable to fully explain exactly what was really causing them until I read this book; it was a real eye opener.

As for the chapter on sex, he does state the sooner the better. But he offsets this with various cautions to women as well, stating that it's not necessarily the best choice for every woman and that each individual will have to make her own decision, taking into consideration how it will affect her as well. But this chapter is much more than just about "when", it also discusses the "where" and "how". It gives wonderful guidelines for not only new relationships but for established ones as well.

While every point in the book may not apply to every man, I found it to be 95% on the mark and consider it to be an important read for every guy who wants to understand himself better and the for the women in his life to want to understand him. I only wish I could find a similar book that deals this well in explaining women.

David Kupczyk

Why Men Won't Commit is absolutely terrific. Information in this book is original, wise and smart. It gives you a real insight into how men tick and how to work around their idiosyncrasies to get a real relationship going. Move over Dr. Phil..

This book is well-written, in an easy to understand manner, and is so incredibly insightful and helpful I can hardly believe it. It identifies exact problems I have been having with my boyfriend but never knew what was actually wrong. It also has fabulous suggestions for help. This is a great book.

This book was great. I finally realized things that I never knew I was doing wrong as well as finding out about how men thisnk. It's like having a cheat sheet on men. It helped me discover the 4 most important things men are slooking for in a relationship. It also ashared things that men would never come out and tell us. I enjoyed evey chapter with the exception about the sex chapter...but it was written by a man... Obviously the author thinks that everyone in the world who is going to have a successful marriage must have sex first and there are still people in the world who eith don't do that or don't buy that it's o.k. Other than that narrow minded view the author seemed right on point.